Post # 1
I am starting to realize how frustrating building a guest list is . My family is huge and my FMIL sent me a list of guests that she hasn’t talked to in years and after adding everyone up that our parents want to invite there are only 7 spots on our guest list for our friends – and that’s us stretching the list to 150 when my mom originally wanted 100. I’m thinking we may just have to bite the bullet and stretch the list to 175 or cut people from my FI’s side that, like I said, they have literally not talked to in years, but I don’t want to insult FMIL or any one on that side of the family. We’re looking at about a $16,000 budget and I’m just wondering if 175 guests is doable in that range. Eloping is sounding better and better and we’ve only been engaged for a week
SO, that said, how many people did you invite and what was your budget? If you know, how much did you spend on catering?
Post # 2
Who is paying for your wedding? This is your day not your parents or future in laws, unless ethier of them are contributing a significant amount they have no say in who they want invited (to an extent) you invite who YOU want first, and then work out from there.
If 16k is ur budget just for food and drink you should be more than fine. If that’s for your entire wedding then it’s def a stretch. For our wedding its like $17k roughly for food and drinks alone, we are expecting around 150 ppl, and that includes tax and tip.
Post # 3
We’ve invited 160 people and our budget is really comparable to yours – I think we’ve gone up to $17,000. But we got our caterer for dirt cheap, and that’s where the major expense is when it comes to cost per person. Remember that just because you invite 175 people doesn’t mean they will all come. It also depends on where you live and what kind of wedding you want. It’s possible to feed a lot more people if you are willing to think outside of the box and not have tiny fancy French food!
Post # 4
Oh sorry, and to be specific, we are paying our caterer $500 for labor and purchasing the food ourselves (from Costco and a restaurant supply store) so I’m anticipating spending around $1200 on actual food. My caterer is going to price stuff out soon though so I’ll have a more exact number.
Post # 5
I’m failing to understand why your FMIL gave you a list of guests to invite. Is she paying for the wedding? You and your fiance make the guest list…PERIOD. It’s your wedding.
We are inviting 150ish people and we’re at about $25k right now.
Post # 6
carolinabelle: I completely understand your issue.
we are getting married in October. We have a bigger budget and larger guest list.
FI and I both have large families. We didn’t want to sacrifice and not invite friends so our guest list is huge. Our reception centre is the greatest cost ($106 per person) and about $20,000 covers the cost of our necessities which would be there regardless of the number of guests.
our wedding is big and quite extravagant… However that is who we are and what we want. We have been saving hard for 3 years for this day lol sometimes when our planning isn’t working out we jokingly say “next time we get married we should elope” lol
good luck with your planning 🙂 the guest list was our biggest headache too. It’s especially makes it hard when people think it is their wedding and have certain expectations that you don’t particularly agree with!
Post # 7
We have 18 people (that’s everyone, guests, photographer, officiant, both parties), and started with a budget of $12,000. Now that we’ve tallied we are at $12,500 (that’s everything including 6 nights of hotel rooms).
Post # 8
carolinabelle: our budget is 40k for 185 invited. We’re expecting 125 or so to attend and right now, we project a spend of 30k.
We gave our parents zero say in the guest list since we’re paying for it ourselves. We’re inviting immediate family, aunts, uncles and first cousins only plus close friends we see regularly.
Post # 9
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
carolinabelle: I am confused, your wedding date says July 2013.
Anyway, I think 175 on $16,000 is completely doable but it depends on the kind of wedding you are wanting and your where you are located.
We are having 50-60 and I am really hoping it is not going over $10,000 and $1,700 of that is the restaurant we are having brunch at, $600 for photography, $600 for the venue and the one thing I really wanted to splurge on $1,800 for a videographer. It all depends on what you want to do.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
$5k, 24 people
No venue costs, just dinner at the restaurant.
Post # 11
carolinabelle: we had 140 guests ( invited 168) and spend about $32k including tips, last minute expenses, rehearsal dinner (not including rings or honeymoon)
Post # 12
our rehearsal dinner & wedding will cost approx $16k ($14500 from my father $1500 from my mother and $0 from the inlaws)
We invited 103 total. The majority of that being our family and friends. Although my father is paying the majority of the bill he did not have any guest list requests besides his new girlfriend as his date (which is not sitting well with my mother). My mother did request I invite her boyfriend and 8 of her friends (we invited 6 of the 8 but the other 2 are honestly embarrassing alcoholic hot messes so I politely informed her I would prefer to not be embarrassed by them that day). FI’s mother sent us a list of 18 friends to invite (he recognized none of the names on the list) but FI informed her since we are trying to keep things small (and because she’s saying she’s not even coming so why would we invite her friends?) we would only be inviting her family and not the friends.
FI and I are paying approx $4k for our honeymoon and I have probably spent a few hundred dollars of my own money along the way on small things like decorations
Our reception will be at the Pittsburgh Airport Embassy Suites and food/liqour is about $80 pp including tax and gratuity
Post # 14
13 people, including us.. no budget, but we’ll be spending around $700 total. The majority of it will be taking everybody out to dinner afterwards (~$500).
We are very lucky to live in a beautiful place with beautiful outdoor areas.
Post # 15
We are paying for about 1/2 & my parents are paying about 1/2 for our wedding.
We are planning on about 225 people and spending 35-40k
Post # 16
we’re trying to fit everything (including rings and honeymoon) under $20k for about 100 guests. about $5k on food and alcohol.
the area where you have your wedding makes a huge difference in how much you’ll spend – I originally wanted to get married on the east coast, where I’m from, but we’d have to spend double the money to have the same kind of wedding we’re having here in the midwest. something else to consider.