What was your budget and how big was your guest list?

posted 2 years ago in Money
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Who is paying for your wedding? This is your day not your parents or future in laws, unless ethier of them are contributing a significant amount they have no say in who they want invited (to an extent) you invite who YOU want first, and then work out from there. 

If 16k is ur budget just for food and drink you should be more than fine. If that’s for your entire wedding then it’s def a stretch. For our wedding its like $17k roughly for food and drinks alone, we are expecting around 150 ppl, and that includes tax and tip.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  BWLE.
  • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  BWLE.
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We’ve invited 160 people and our budget is really comparable to yours – I think we’ve gone up to $17,000.  But we got our caterer for dirt cheap, and that’s where the major expense is when it comes to cost per person.  Remember that just because you invite 175 people doesn’t mean they will all come.  It also depends on where you live and what kind of wedding you want.  It’s possible to feed a lot more people if you are willing to think outside of the box and not have tiny fancy French food!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Oh sorry, and to be specific, we are paying our caterer $500 for labor and purchasing the food ourselves (from Costco and a restaurant supply store) so I’m anticipating spending around $1200 on actual food.  My caterer is going to price stuff out soon though so I’ll have a more exact number.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m failing to understand why your FMIL gave you a list of guests to invite. Is she paying for the wedding? You and your fiance make the guest list…PERIOD.  It’s your wedding.

 

We are inviting 150ish people and we’re at about $25k right now.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

carolinabelle:  I completely understand your issue.

 

we are getting married in October. We have a bigger budget and larger guest list.

 

$50,000

300 guests

 

FI and I both have large families. We didn’t want to sacrifice and not invite friends so our guest list is huge. Our reception centre is the greatest cost ($106 per person) and about $20,000 covers the cost of our necessities which would be there regardless of the number of guests.

 

 

our wedding is big and quite extravagant… However that is who we are and what we want. We have been saving hard for 3 years for this day lol sometimes when our planning isn’t working out we jokingly say “next time we get married we should elope” lol

 

good luck with your planning 🙂 the guest list was our biggest headache too. It’s especially makes it hard when people think it is their wedding and have certain expectations that you don’t particularly agree with!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We have 18 people (that’s everyone, guests, photographer, officiant, both parties), and started with a budget of $12,000.  Now that we’ve tallied we are at $12,500 (that’s everything including 6 nights of hotel rooms).

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

carolinabelle:  our budget is 40k for 185 invited. We’re expecting 125 or so to attend and right now, we project a spend of 30k.

We gave our parents zero say in the guest list since we’re paying for it ourselves. We’re inviting immediate family, aunts, uncles and first cousins only plus close friends we see regularly. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

carolinabelle:  I am confused, your wedding date says July 2013.

Anyway, I think 175 on $16,000 is completely doable but it depends on the kind of wedding you are wanting and your where you are located.

We are having 50-60 and I am really hoping it is not going over $10,000 and $1,700 of that is the restaurant we are having brunch at, $600 for photography, $600 for the venue and the one thing I really wanted to splurge on $1,800 for a videographer. It all depends on what you want to do.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

$5k, 24 people 

No venue costs, just dinner at the restaurant. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

carolinabelle:  we had 140 guests ( invited 168) and spend about $32k including tips, last minute expenses, rehearsal dinner (not including rings or honeymoon)

Post # 12
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Busy bee

our rehearsal dinner & wedding will cost approx $16k ($14500 from my father $1500 from my mother and $0 from the inlaws) 

We invited 103 total. The majority of that being our family and friends. Although my father is paying the majority of the bill he did not have any guest list requests besides his new girlfriend as his date (which is not sitting well with my mother). My mother did request I invite her boyfriend and 8 of her friends (we invited 6 of the 8 but the other 2 are honestly embarrassing alcoholic hot messes so I politely informed her I would prefer to not be embarrassed by them that day). FI’s mother sent us a list of 18 friends to invite (he recognized none of the names on the list) but FI informed her since we are trying to keep things small (and because she’s saying she’s not even coming so why would we invite her friends?) we would only be inviting her family and not the friends. 

 

FI and I are paying approx $4k for our honeymoon and I have probably spent a few hundred dollars of my own money along the way on small things like decorations

Our reception will be at the Pittsburgh Airport Embassy Suites and food/liqour is about $80 pp including tax and gratuity

Post # 14
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Helper bee

13 people, including us.. no budget, but we’ll be spending around $700 total. The majority of it will be taking everybody out to dinner afterwards (~$500).

We are very lucky to live in a beautiful place with beautiful outdoor areas.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

We are paying for about 1/2 & my parents are paying about 1/2 for our wedding.

We are planning on about 225 people and spending 35-40k

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

we’re trying to fit everything (including rings and honeymoon) under $20k for about 100 guests.  about $5k on food and alcohol. 

the area where you have your wedding makes a huge difference in how much you’ll spend – I originally wanted to get married on the east coast, where I’m from, but we’d have to spend double the money to have the same kind of wedding we’re having here in the midwest.  something else to consider. 

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