Post # 1
I went wedding dress shopping for the first time with my mom this last weekend and suffice to say we were both really disappointed.
I made a weekend appointment for a local bridal boutique, and my mom drove up for the day to go with me. When we got there it was absolute chaos; all the dressing rooms were full and there were three or four brides at once trying to model in front of the mirror (there was only one).
Despite making an appointment there was no one really ‘ready’ to see me, and my mom and I were dragged off through the racks of dresses and stood there awkwardly while my consultant thumbed through all of them. Meanwhile, customers are trying to squeeze by us the entire time while also looking at the dresses for themselves.
I finally got shoved into a corner dressing room and had to get in and out of the dresses myself, ‘announcing’ when I was ready to be zipped/tied up. (Pretty sure a waiting room full of people saw my underwear.) I was too scared to go out into the lobby area with all the people so I just opened the dressing room door to let my mom look at the dress I was trying on at the moment. But it was so chaotic I could barely focus. I managed to try on a few dresses and narrow down what I liked and didn’t like, but I just did not get a ‘this is a special moment’ vibe at all.
Needless to say my mom and I left without a purchase. We were baffled by the whole thing. My mom has never been official wedding dress shopping either; she got hers off a rack on sale by herself at a department store. We didn’t know what to expect, but certainly not that.
Is this a typical experience? Or did I just have a bad one? I’ve already got an appointment at completely different store, but this has made me very apprehensive.
EDIT: I should also note that no questions about my wedding or where I was getting married were even asked.
Post # 3
Oh no 🙁 That sounds like a bad experience.
In ALL the bridal salons I’ve been to (5) this has NEVER been my experience. Most of the time, the bridal consultant even CALLS before hand to make sure they have a good idea of what you like. This has been the case at 3/5 salons! They like to ask your street size, how many people you’re bringing and what styles you may be interested in.
The salon I ended up purchasing my dress at actually sat me down to discuss my whole wedding day vision! I LOVED them :):)
Post # 4
@misskittenn: here is my suggestion I went to two different Salons before I picked my dress….first one was on a saturday…which I learned was a HUGE mistake!! I did have some success and found my runner up there but it was PACKED!and my experience was very similiar to yours…. the second time I went I went during the week!! And Let me tell you the inconvience of dragging people after work was well worth it!! I had my apt and the consultants werent as swamped and this salon was amazing! I suggest trying during the week!
Post # 5
Ugh, I’m sorry you had to deal with this! Definitely not a typical experience. But far from unheard of too. My first experience, somehow they let me make an appointment only a half hour before they closed, so I felt so rushed, just trying to try on as many different general types/silhouettes as I could, which ended up being about 6.
But your search continues! I hope your next appointment is way better, which is a low bar to clear. You should at least get a more attentive consultant, but if it’s still crazy busy, maybe try to go on a weekday. And if you really get fed up with hunting, you could try getting a dress online, or custom made.
Regardless, good luck and happy hunting!
Post # 6
@limekitty: That makes the salon I went to sound so lazy, haha. They didn’t ask about my dress size until I walked through the door!
@kansas_nurse: Right I had that suspicion too. My next appointment is on a Tuesday when I have a day off, so I’m hoping that will yield a better experience.
Post # 7
I had a great experience dress shopping. I went to a small local boutique and basically had the place to myself. Here are some tips that might help you out:
-Read Yelp/Google reviews on the shops you’re planning on visiting. I couldn’t believe how many shops got reviewed as having poor service. The one I ended up choosing had 4.5/5 stars on Yelp and it was NOT a super expensive, high-end salon! And it lived up to the great reviews!
-Go on a weekday if you can. I went on a Friday early in the afternoon. There were two other brides in the shop when I got there, and by the time I tried on my second dress they were both gone. We had the shop to ourselves for the rest of the afternoon.
-Appointments required does NOT always equal attentive or individualized service. I was hesitant about the place I went to because they did not take appointments. I thought, “how can they really give each bride great service without an appointment?” Well, they did. And by contrast, I made an appointment at a separate local shop that was “appointment only” for my bridesmaid dresses, and the consultant barely even glanced our way the entire time.
-Know what your “deal-breakers” are and stick to them. If you don’t like strapless dresses, don’t let the consultant shove you in a fitting room with 8 strapless gowns.
Hope your next experience is better!
Post # 8
Love your date 🙂 FI and I are actually going to the courthouse to be officially married on this date and then have the big party on 4.11.2015 (and so you know my dad can walk me down the aisle and everything ^-^)
Just FYI- I live in Cleveland and I feel strong love for EVERY salon I went to. I can give recs 🙂 I’m not sure where you’re located though!
Post # 9
I went to two shops. The first was a walk-in at DB on a weekday afternoon, and it was very pleasant. I was the only person there, and my consultant was nice, not pushy.
The second time was an appointment at a more high-end boutique, and it was awful. The owner of the store was snotty and judgmental, and she kept pushing me to try on dresses that I told her I wasn’t interested in. By the end of the appointment, she finally pulled one clearance dress that I actually liked, and I bought it out of sheer relief. Looking back, I wish I had just walked out and gotten my dress elsewhere, since now I associate my dress with that irritating shop owner. Luckily I found a wonderful seamstress who is actually supportive of my vision for my dress.
Post # 10
Really my experience were nothing great at all. The first store I went to, the lady didn’t really treat me well, I look very young and was nervous. The first dress that I tried on I really loved, and she wasn’t happy that I needed my mom to see it. I tried on a few more, she was good at picking out things that I liked, but didn’t show me anything that wasn’t very similar to the first dress.
The second store I went to was crappy. My friend and I were left to our own devices to try and figure out where things were and to carry the dresses ourselves. When I got myself into a dressing room the consultant did up a few of the dresses and my friend had to do up the rest. When I wasn’t finding anything and getting discouraged I asked her for suggestions. I told her what I liked and she brought me the ugliest dress that I have ever laid eyes on. It was hard core mermaid (not what I wanted) it was beaded pink and orange from the top, to the knee then flared out like a giant unkept tulle q-tip. I tried it on more as a joke, the consultant asked me what I though and I told her that I absolutly hated it and that there was nothing I liked about it at all, I asked her to get me out of it she actually said no I needed a little time to warm up to it and walked away. Yeah I needed time because it was $5600 and she wanted to to change my mind.
When I went back to the first store to meet my mom the lady barely acknowledged us. Shoved me and the dress in a room and my friend had to do it up. When my mom came and was telling me how pretty I was the lady came over, told me I had no boobs, handed me bra cups and told me to put them in the top, when I did she said ‘okay now you look reasonable’ I wanted to give her a high five…to the face… with a chair.
I also went to a DB, there was only one dress that I wanted to try on and made that extremly clear to them. The lady was super sweet, not pushy, helped me into the dress, gushed about how awesome I looked. I appreciated that.
So yea, shopping sucked.
Post # 11
I went on a Saturday about a month ago to two different stores. I was pretty lucky to find my dress quickly. The first one I had an appointment at, and I had a dedicated staff person that was nice. This store was notorious for removing the tags in the dress so you don’t know which designer made it (because of this I knew in advance I wouldn’t buy there, I actually just went in to try on some specific styles because they’re the only shop in the area that carries maggie sottero). They also wouldn’t let me take any pics, which I didn’t like – these gestapo bridal shops really piss me off… So I made sure to do A LOT of research beforehand and asked to try on specific styles. Service was ok, not bad, not awesome, but it wasn’t a horrible experience. It was fun trying on about 6 dresses!
The second store was better, less crowded and really nice staff person. I knew the dress I wanted to try on so I did pretty quickly and BAM, done. 🙂 In a way I kind of wanted to try on more dresses just for fun, haha. But I’m glad I found a dress I love!
Now I’m nervous for alterations though… :/
Post # 12
That sucks 🙁 I went to a walk-in only bridal boutique with my mom and grandma. I went on a weekday (which made a HUGE difference—the employees and Yelp reviews confirm how swamped they are on weekends). I also got there right when they opened and was the only one in the store for most of my consultation, and because of that the consultant was able to spend a little bit of extra time with me (and let me try on a 7th dress even though their limit is 6 per consultation). She helped me in and out of all the dresses and was super helpful and patient with me when I was torn between two dresses and tried them on back to back about three times each. I walked in having no idea of what style I wanted and not expecting to find anything but ended up buying a dress right then and there—the first one I tried on.
Post # 13
@misskittenn: I went a few days after Christmas. This probably doesn’t help you now, but for other future brides, during those couple days the salons are desolate. And they had a sample sale which worked out awesome for me! The attendant was kind of snippy, I’m not really sure what her deal was, but the rest of the staff was lovely and we had a great experience. Maybe there are other “off-season” times to go dress shopping. My friend got hers on black Friday, I wonder if it wasn’t too busy for her. Any thoughts anyone else?
Post # 14
@misskittenn: you are going during the busiest time for bridal salons due to all the recent Xmas engagements. If your date is correct, your wedding is still far away? Maybe wait a few month until it becomes less crowded, Jan – March are the worst times to go dress shopping. Another thing you can do is go to a smaller boutique place that only handles one appointment at a time, and book the first appointment of the day.
I went dress shopping 3 times before making my purchase, and I’ve picked times/months that I know won’t be so crowded: one time on a weeknight in October, one time on a Sunday the first appointment of the day that same month, and 2 days after Xmas at a boutique bridal shop. I got good individual attention at all of those places, one of which included a David’s Bridal. The store was not crowded and the consultants were able to help me right away. Good Luck!
Post # 15
@misskittenn: My experience wedding dress shopping was nothing like that. I went on a Fri the beginning of March last year at 11am. I had a consultant with me the whole time. I was the only person she helped. The other bride there was helped by another consultant.
I showed her pics of dresses I wanted to try on. She asked me when and where my wedding was and what I liked and didn’t like. She pulled some I had pics of and she pulled some based on what I told her I liked and didn’t like.
There was 1 other bride there with me. There was 2 mirrors so we would share that one off and on because it was bigger or I’d go to the one in the corner which was fine. My consultant helped me in and out of every dress. She asked me questions if I liked it or not and what I didnt like about it. She put a veil on me for 2 dresses I really liked so I could see how it looked.
I ended up finding my dream dress there. It was the 9th one I tried on and I tried on 10 total. It was one my consultant pulled. I did have a pic of this dress, but I didn’t show her because I hated the sash bow around the waist of the dress. It ended up being removable thank gosh.
I brought my mom, dad, brother, grandma, and FMIL with me. We all had a blast! I wish I could go again. I loved trying on all those dresses.
I hope your next shopping dress experience is way better and you find the dress of your dreams. I would have been mortified if my appointment was like that. I hate crowds of people especially when I’m shopping. I get irritated easy. Lol