Post # 1
My husband is 6 yrs older than me and he is ready for babies… I ready too, but I just became ready recently….The argument wasn’t to heated and we resolved our issues and his concerns. What was your first argument and how did you solve it?
Post # 3
A house. Our house deal feel through and he went nuts and started trolling for houses in bad neighborhoods. He feel in love with one and told me he was going to put a deposit on it on Monday unless I came up with a good reason not to. I was horified.
This happened on a Friday afternoon. Saturday I had an event planned that he was supposed to help with but he backed out. I was relieved and we spent the day apart at one point I tried to call him and he just went on about how he hated our aparment and would rather live in the projects than our tiny apartment in a good neighborhood. I stayed out late and I’m pretty sure I didn’t sleep at all when I got home. I was able to find the crime statistics and demographics and that morning I took the dogs out. When I got back and he was awake enough I showed him the crime stats and he finally backed down.
We signed the new lease for our apartment and have put off looking for a new house for at least 9 months.
Post # 4
I know it’s lame, but our first argument was about how to cook something… probably rice or chicken. We are from two different cultures with two comletely different cuisines. He always cooks the chicken now and deals with my subpar rice when he doesn’t want to help in the kitchen.
Our second argument involved the phrase “I’m your wife, not your mom.” It was not a happy day.
Post # 5
His cars. He has two. One is more of a toy that only comes out a couple of times a month. Mainly money he spends on the car. We want to buy a house in a year or two, and maybe talk about kids then. But then the next mintue he wants to spend ton of money on the car. We resovled that by bugeting what we each could spend on “fun stuff” a month.
Post # 6
@Mrs.LaFountain: Oh man my guy tried to do that to me once before we were married and I flipped. Its one thing to do this if you both make the same amount of money but we didn’t. He tried to dictate what would happen to all the money and he made almost half of what I did that was so not okay.
I worked sooo hard to get here, he doesn’t get to tell me what the hell I get to do with my money! It won’t change now either. I told him a thousand times and I thought we were in agreement on both ends til that happened he hasn’t tried again.
I don’t spend my money on a car though I mostly spend it on us anyway but there was no way he was going to decide what happened to my money and then let me get a portion of it helll no. I wouldn’t have done that to him if he made more either.
You guys are in a different situation though and I’m assuming you agreed on that whole money thing anyway. IT only makes sense if hes spending the money on a toy. I wasn’t spending my money on anything superfluous like that though so I dunno where the hell he got off. If I was spending all kinds of money on clothes or makeup or something crazy fine, I saved most of my money, payed off debt and took us out everyone once in a while oh and maybe spent something extra on a run or clothes from myself he was trying to tell me that spending that money was superfluous so I told him to shove it. I shop at Ross, or Goodwill to get clothes and did runs only if they were less than 45 dollars so he could totally shove it honestly. I get the whole its us against the world thing but I’m not going to feel bad if I want to spend 100 or so dollars on myself everyonce in a while!
Post # 7
we are building a new house and still in the design stage. my dh wanted a big shower in the master bath. ok. me too. the shower he had the architect design was over 10 feet long. yes, nearly the length of the bathroom. i told him it was ridiculous and to scale it back. so we got in a fight about how i get to keep everything that i want in the house, mainly my 14 ft island, and he has to sacrifice the things that he wants. our fights are usually not intense. we just go a bit overboard and then 2 minutes later we are back to normal.
Post # 8
We had a disagreement about some vacation plans on our way back from our Honeymoon. We were spending time with his extended family, but I was still getting used to all that and wanted a little more time for us. It was cute to watch him point out ever snatch of alone time we got the next day like it was a major victory.
On a lighter note we are currently locked in an epic battle of wills to determine weather soy sauce belongs in the refrigerator or the cupboard. I originally gave in, but after we both knocked it over in the fridge I sneakily put it in the cupboard. I’m not sure if he’s not noticed or if he’s admitting defeat 😉
Post # 9
MONEY! (as always, lol) And it was DURING our honeymoon (which was a staycation).
Granted, our wedding ended up costing more than we imagined (which we paid for ourselves) AND we’re first time expencting parents, so there’s a LOT of stress!