Post # 1
Ok ladies, confess, what did you fight about, for real, for the first time after the wedding?
Us – a whisk. No joke, we were screaming at each other at midnight over the “fact” that we don’t need 3 whisks and he actually threw one in the garbage and took it outside. Neither of us had gotten a full night’s sleep in 3 weeks, we were up late (again) trying to clean up some and unpack some wedding gifts. I took a whisk out of a bag I had received at my shower and put it in the dishwasher and that was the wrong.thing.to.do.
The worst part; we never even had make-up sex because we wouldn’t make up for over a day (clearly it was about more than kitchen utensils). 🙂
Post # 3
Wow I wish I could remember…I have NO idea…
Post # 4
I’m interested to read the responses. We haven’t had a huge fight yet. A little spat over some (expensive, prescription) sunglasses that he thought I lost but it ended up he misplaced. Not a big deal though, we just needed some space.
Post # 5
We honestly never *really* fight, we were both tired and stressed and so done with all the crap in the house. I only remember because it was just last week. 🙂
Post # 6
Oh goodness, I remember it being a juicy fight too. After the wedding… it was when we were living in my mother’s garage, that’s for sure. I’ll be back if I remember. But just the idea that we both lived in my mom’s garage after our wedding was a given for some fights.
Post # 7
His sister calling us a million times on the honeymoon and yelling at us for missing her graduation.
Post # 8
We have been married exactly 1 month today and no huge fight to report except aminor spat over laundry
Post # 9
I think…. it was over shoes…? Lol. Most surprisingly his, not mine. We were out shopping and stopped at DSW and he liked these boat shoes that I thought were hideous. And then I got really mad that he bought them. Like REALLY MAD. Not because he spent the money but because he clearly “doesn’t care about my opinion.”
I realized the next day like a flash of lightening that 1) I don’t really care what shoes he wears 2) I had cried every day for the last week 3) I was about 2 weeks into my switch from one birth control to another and maybe *just maybe* I was being completely hormonal and irrational and crazy. 🙂
ETA: I still think the shoes are super ugly 🙂
Post # 10
I’m not married yet but after FI and I got engaged it was smooth sailing for awhile. Untill we had a discussion about his family and me having a miscommunication about a trip to California. It was funny because it really had nothing to do with the two of us… and after like 30 minutes of yelling. I settled down and was said calmly ‘*sigh*… it’s this simple blah blah blah. and he goes ‘ohhh ok phew that makes sense. wow, we haven’t had anything to argue about in a long time that felt really good’ we laughed about it a lot and went right back to being us.
Post # 11
One story I thought was hilarious about fighting with your spouse was told to me by my aunt. With her second husband she said that their first really big fight was over a light switch in the bathroom. They were building a new house and her husband was at the house with the construction crew and she was out of town. He called and asked her which side of the doorway in the bathroom she wanted the switch on. She said the left. He felt strongly it should be the right. They went round and round fighting about this for like an hour… before she finally stopped and asked: wait… are you facing the doorway headed into the bathroom or out of the bathroom? It turned out they both wanted it on the same side, they just were unclear about the perspective of the other person so his right was her left. She said that now whenever they have a fight, she tries to stop and ask: wait… where are you standing on this? meaning… let’s start from your perspective and then work up to the target of the argument. Seemed like good advice 🙂
Post # 12
Our big fights were always over cleaning. I’m a neat freak and DH is a slob. We fought on multiple occasions to the point of me loosing my cool like a mad woman. I then broke down and hired a cleaning lady and we hardly ever fight. DH and I also don’t fight over anything important, it’s always just stupid stuff.
Post # 13
OMG yes. This thread makes me feel better. Our first real fight after the wedding? What kind of fridge to get and how much money to spend on it!
Post # 14
My little brother has been married for 5 years. He told me they fight worse because “there’s a little voice in the back of your head telling you that you’re stuck with this person now, and you kind of hate that at the moment, but you know you have to work it out, so you fight harder.”
@pengoala: Our oven broke at Thanksgiving. That’s a fight I haven’t started yet. But we ARE buying a new one AND a fridge with our wedding gifts. Like – this week. 🙂
Post # 15
No real big fights yet. We don’t really “fight” for the most part we agree on most everything and if not we are both pretty good about compromising. The only sort of fight we have had was when I was 12 weeks or so pregnant and I thought we needed to figure out right that second who was going to watch our kids when I go into labor. He didn’t think we needed to call everyone right then to figure it out and my pregnant hormal self did in fact think we needed to contact everyone ASAP about who was going to watch what child. After realizing I was being a little crazy we decided to wait until we get closer to my due date to make the arrangements.
Post # 16
we haven’t seriously fought about anything since we’ve been married.
we do kind of argue over this though: we are designing our new house and he wants a HUGE shower in the masterbath. i like big showers too but it’s 10 feet deep. yes, 10 feet, not a typo. i told him he’s crazy and no one needs a shower that big and we need to scale it back. i should just remind him that showers are a pain in the ass to clean…and that’s his job.