Post # 1
When we were first discussing the wedding, I thought that $20k was a huge number… maybe $30k if things got absolutely crazy and we had ice sculptures flown in from Greenland or something.
I didn’t really have any sense for how expensive weddings could get. Even now, I still can’t really believe it. WOW!!! It’s been almost five years since we started planning our wedding, and I’m still in shock over how much a wedding costs!
How about you: was your FI prepared for the sort of budget you had in mind? Or was his or her mind blown by the entire thing…
Post # 3
My FI has insisted that I not divulge the "Big Number." He doesn’t want to know the total. I’m pretty sure if I told him he would hyperventilate. While he has approved all the little purchases, he still hasn’t (and doesn’t want to) added it up in his head for a grand total. Even I am surprised! I saw my spreadsheet and I was like OMG!!
Post # 4
Luckily my FI was very aware of what a wedding would cost. I gave him the option of a destination or a local wedding, he picked local. We sat down and put together a realistic budget and to date we are still on budget.
We wanted a certain type of event so was prepared to spend the money to have it because it only happens once but when we think about the fact we could have purchased out right a luxury car it does kind of freak me out!
Post # 5
My husband was fine with the numbers, but we did have a big discussion about why vendors need to be paid BEFORE the wedding. He just couldn’t understand why someone would be paid before they actually do the work!
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
Mr. Peng’s stepsis got married a year before I did, and we were all in the know about the budget ($30K in Minnesota) so we figured we’d spend approximately the same… so he actually was pretty aware of what we were looking to spend! On a semi-related note, I thought high-end wedding dresses cost around $1K before I ever bought a bridal mag or went shopping. I mean $1K… thats like, a billion dollars!
Post # 7
We’re not paying for the wedding ourselves, so he’s not really involved with the budget at all. When we have talked about it, he does seem shocked by the price of things, though!
Post # 8
eloping : )
we are very fortunate that my parents are paying for our wedding. so he knows, generally what it is costing but if you asked him how much my dress was, or what the band costs, he wouldn’t know. he just knows what our final budget number is…
Post # 9
He’d been bracing himself and thought it should cost about….$5000-8000! Hahaha, I laughed out loud when he said that! His sisters’ weddings were around that much, but they were also smaller. Our guest list is up around 190 invited (while his sis’ invited 120 or less to out of town destinations). We’re shooting for $15000 and it’s working out pretty well (except for when I really think about it, then I want to cry, go to the courthouse, and kick myself for not just buying a home!)
Post # 10
hehehe my FI is totally clueless. when discussing flowers months ago (before we decided to elope) i was telling him bouquets will cost about $500 and he was SHOCKED. he said i thought you would go to the growers market and pick up a bunch or 2 for about $40. hes not cheap – he just has zero idea about anything wedding related
Post # 11
We were talking about the wedding budget before we even got engaged and we agreed that $5,000 was about right, although he would prefer it to be even less if possible. Well, we just got married and spent $13,000 for a 75 guest wedding (probably closer to $14 or 15K if you add up the million little things I got at Michaels).
He got pretty upset with me at one point when he realized how much over budget we were going, but I honestly had no clue either! All the little things really add up, like upgrading the food a bit. I had always dreamed of getting married in a historic mansion ($4,000 right there) and when you go with something like that you can’t exactly go with plastic table cloths. I thought our wedding turned out really well with what we spent considering some people easily spend on food alone what we did on our entire wedding.
Like mowi322 I wonder if it was really worth it or if it would have been better to make a down payment on a house or something. But then I look at all our wedding photos and feel a bit better 🙂
Post # 12
It’s actually pretty funny because I was convinceed that we could have a wedding for $5000 for over 200 people. My fi kept insisting that it was going to be a lot more than that and was right.
Post # 13
We are lucky – my parents gave us a budget, and we are just sticking to that! 🙂
Post # 14
Fi thinks 5k is a reasonable budget. I’m pushing for more 10 to 12k. We’re most likely having a friday wedding with maybe 100 people in a medium sized city.
I just hate budgeting (I suck at it) and it totally stresses me out.
Post # 15
My guy would be with Erindesmar..the cost of a wedding at the courthouse. But seriously he has no idea (maybe some idea though because of all the business dinners he has thrown) about wedding planning.
Post # 16
Oh he’s already said he’s leaving this up to me. (grinning evil cheshire cat smile right now)