Post # 1
We have a fixed amount to spend so I have a spreadsheet with everything we have to pay for, and I just keep adjusting line items as necessary to keep the total from going over.
But then my mom asked me yesterday how much we had already spent and how much we have left to spend. I was like oh hmm I wonder, so I did some math. Essentially, we have spent 90% of our budget on all the big ticket items (including money we are contractually obligated to spend later) and now have like 30 additional things to pay for with the rest. Things like alterations, attendant presents, welcome bags, tips, invitations, postage, jewelry, hair, makeup, gaa!!! So much stuff!!!
I stupidly kind of thought I might find some random chunk of money lying around that I could spend just for fun. Ha!!! Nope!!!
I just can’t believe 90% of our budget is spent 7 months before the wedding!!! It is actually making me dizzy.
Anyone else having a spreadsheet-induced breakdown?
Post # 3
@TrousseauHorse: I had a spreadsheet when I was planning my wedding. I had to keep adjusting and then I just decided to do away with it because there were things that either I didn’t account for or things that I wanted but were not on budget so I just said screw you Budget!
Post # 4
@TrousseauHorse: Spreadsheets are the best! Even if they reveal the truth you weren’t ready to see! We did a private DW, so there were no real OMG moments. I thought we could do it all for $5000 but it was more like $7000 for the wedding and vacation. I really wanted a good photographer!
Post # 5
I started with a budget but it was quickly forgotten once we actually started planning and booking vendors. My original $30K budget paid for the venue and the food/bar and wedding planner, ha! We spent another $15-$20K on the photographer, videographer, flowers, dress, etc, etc, etc. I stopped keeping track after awhile. No matter what your budget, it is crazy how fast you can spend so much money!
Post # 6
The more stressed I get about planning the wedding, the more I think about what I haven’t spent yet – we have deposits out but only the venue is paid in full. And I can’t help but think, “Why am I doing this? Why aren’t we just taking the money and running?!”
I actually asked FI if we could take the money and run the other night, but he said no. 🙁 I was like “But think about how much that could be toward our dreams for a house.” And he was just like “But we already invited everyone and people have hotel rooms. No babe.”
But I think my “omg!” moment was when I got a much lower price than I expected on flowers. $300 for my bouquet, a throwaway, two BM bouquets, 6 men’s boutonnieres, granddad and dad boutonniere, mom and FMIL corsage, brother boutonniere. I was expecting like $800 lol. That was a happy omg.
Post # 7
@TrousseauHorse: Oh, every single time I came to the end of the spreadsheet and saw the total (I had two columns for each item, estimated cost and actual cost). Fortunately for you, there’s a lot you can do to cut cost on the things you have left:
Attendant presents – You don’t need anything huge and you could even DIY some of the items. I made little clutches like this for my mum and both bridesmaids (this is mums, my maids were blue, white, green and silver):
Welcome bags – I would skip this, you’re throwing a party, that’s enough
Invitations – DIY! You’ll save a bunch of money and everyone will think it’s so nice you made them yourself
Jewelry – Do you need to buy new stuff? If you don’t have anything appropriate, could you borrow something from a family member/friend? That could be your something borrowed.
Post # 8
I couldn’t and still can’t belive my veil was $550 and alterations were also $550! with it to me though lol
Post # 9
My “OMG” moment was after adding up the cost of the vendors, and then realizing we still need to buy materials to make the centerpieces (jars/glue/glitter/ribbons) and then materials to make the candy table (jars/candy/signs) AND THEN materials for a card box… ugh. All theses DIY projects add up! And then little things like SHOES, and earrings…
I don’t like spreadsheets, lol. I’m using a Moleskine notebook for everything. I do all of our bills and budgets using my notebook/calendar/planner too.
Post # 10
My OMG moment came 7 days before the wedding when alot of the last payments were due. Everything worked out fine, I make my final wedding payment on 10/1/13. Paid off my credit card each month and stayed in budget, it was just one of those moments when hundreds of dollars were due to multiple different people.
Post # 11
I couldn’t believe I spent $1200 on my dress…. I did not mean to do that!!
Post # 12
@TrousseauHorse: We found an absolutely perfect venue. Weekend-long rental, including catering for all meals, alcohol, some entertainment, etc. came to $22k. Out of a $26k budget. We thought on it for a while and went for it.
For a while, we were looking like our final cost was going to be closer to $30k, but we had some amazingly lucky coincidences (dress for $650 almost perfectly fit, photographer for half the price we thought), and I think we’re actually going to be within $500 of our original budget.
Post # 13
My OMG moment came when FI and I let our parents up our guest list. We went from wanting 50 to inviting 80 (I’m really hoping for under 70 so we won’t be too crunched) and I entered a number for 70 in my spreadsheet and fell over almost. Luckily we will be able to cover it but we had to cut some other areas to ensure we can properly host our guests. We cut renting a vintage car, which was a big splurge that FI wanted and some other neat details that are not really necessary. We were going crazy with adding details/fun stuff but we reeled it in.
Post # 14
My $2000 dress. We had originally planned for it to come out of the budget, but then my grandmother gifted us a large chunk of change for it. Even so, I still have a hard time stomaching the cost. Why, oh why, do I have to be so picky?!
The most shocking moment that I have experienced so far is when our caterer sent us a proposal for $10,600. Umm. That’s like our entire wedding… (Needless to say, I am still shopping.)
Post # 15
Hahaha, my OMG was a bit of a reverse….when I realized what a great deal I had gotten on my dress and where I could put that money elsewhere in my wedding budget!
But seriously, I kept a wedding “tally” that I constantly updated. When I saved on my wedding dress, I put that money towards flowers, my bridesmaids dresses and gifts and other things. I spent the most on food ($7k) and 2 rental houses ($4k) and my photographer ($3k) and saved anywhere else I could …. invites were like $90 including postage (DIY printables from Michaels), DIY flowers ($1000), cakes from Wegmans ($140), no limo costs (family/friends drove us around), etc. It was a balancing act between “This is a reasonable cost for what I want” and “yeah I can do this cheaper myself”. I went over budget (I think) at about $2k but just paid for the extra things as I went and encorporated those “costs” into my daily life before the wedding.
Post # 16
My OMG moment hit when I added my photographer to the budget. I didn’t plan to spend 4k there.