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Was or is your groom helpful in planning?
What did you put him in charge of?
How'd he do, or how is he doing so far?
The only thing he took care of was the afterparty. I didn't trust him with anything more critical because he's a major procrastinator.
My husband and I did everything together. He was such a HUGE help with all of our projects. I did have to convince of most of my ideas but her agreed that everything turned out fabulously!
So far, he has booked the hotel block and the DJ. He's also planning the honeymoon - a secret that I won't know about until we arrive at the airport. We've worked on most of the other stuff together - he is my personal J.Lo!
I already put him in charge of the honeymoon (we'll probably plan most of it together, but I gave the official duty of booking it, etc. to him) and I'll probably ask him to find a dj.
My FI and I have thus far done all of our planning together - we both had a very strong opinion on where our ceremony and reception should be and worked hard to find it. His schedule doesn't allow him as much down time so I've done a lot of e-mail contacting of vendors, but we discuss it all together, and he's definitely made plenty of phone calls. As we get closer and more into details I'm sure he'll take over on a lot, he's very creative and will be doing all the lighting for our reception! I'm honestly very glad to share all of the planning with him, and wouldn't have it any other way!
probably dealing with the dj and liquor etc (he owns a club and knows folks that could do this)
lol no! so far he has done....nothing! lol. he's excited about the tastings though :)
He's in charge of the iPod playlist, formatting anything that needs printed and helping me write our ceremony. He did wonderfully with the playlist and will do great with the invitations and things. Getting him to work on the vows has been like pulling teeth.
@ eloping: I second that! He was no help at all so I told him as long as he showed up, he'd be good.
he is the best. He led the charge on the band(s), transportation, hotel block, lawyer stuff, putting together DIY that i make, website. I have done newsletter, invitation, decor, theme, all stationery, out of town bags, etc. He rules at operations, I rule at the creative stuff. It works out.
Yes, he has been great! He helped with the venue search- he drove around for hours looking at places (we even accidently got locked in the pool area of one, and he helped me back over the fence). He even made the appointment for the venue we ended up booking- he had it all set up for our one day off together, perfect! He booked our hotel block, he found our officiant, researched rehearsal dinner places, guys suits, and finally the dj. If not for him, we would have had to elope.
Oh yeah, and he chose half of our wedding colors- brown (I put my foot down at orange for a spring wedding, Cleveland Browns or not!).
He's helped by paying for just about everything.
Other than that, he just needs to show up! He sucks with little details...
I want him to to help me decide on all the major stuff like venue/food/photography, but I will be taking lead on gathering research/choices. I am planning on letting him do the music alone because he is good with music and loves it, and I do not. That is probably the only thing he'll do all by himself. Other than that I'll probably do all the research and planning and just present him with options periodically (Venue A, B, or C? Meal X, Y, or Z). I am a total planner and I can't wait to jump in and handle all this stuff. He is not, he'd rather elope. :)
I didn't really put him in charge of something specific but he was very helpful in planning. He went to most meetings with me including picking a hotel block, the dj, photographer. The only things I really did completely on my own was go to the florist and decide all florals and then pocked out all the linens and chairs. He did t help put together the invitations but that's because I'm a scrapbooker and wanted to do it myself. He even helped put together the place cards and chocolate candy bags for the guests
FI has actually been quite active in the process so far. =) He's taking part with the venue decisions, decorations, photographer, music, and yeah... he's been fab!
I think his main thing though, will be the honeymoon.
He did a lot of stuff. He hired the wedding planner and band. He booked the block of hotel rooms. He picked the menu. He helped with spray painting the DIY projects. He went about bought his wedding clothes and his son's clothes. He did a lot of other things too, although right now I can't remember.
He took it upon himself to contact the church and set up a meeting with the priest (since it is his church), he called to set up our marriage counseling sessions, he contacted the limo service company and set up a quote, he also got some honeymoon information from a travel agent he knows.
We also made a joint decision on the venue, the caterer and the photographer. Everything else is in my hands as he prefers me to take control with all of the details :)
Uh, nothing...I'm too much of a control freak. lol Actually, I did put him in charge of gathering all the addresses from his side of the family, but that's about it.
He had a hand in pretty much everything, with the exception of my dress, the BM dresses and the reception decor. He handled the honeymoon and booking the hotel block for OOT guests completely on his own. He also DIYed our invitations, based on a concept we came up with together. I was really lucky--he wanted to be involved a lot, so it took a lot of the pressure off of me.
He is in charge of the food. Everything food and beverage is his domain. He is a chef and runs his own restaurant. Our parents are making the food, and he is coordinating the food buying, the making time schedule, the ordering of wine and champagne, the transportation and preparation of the food the day of, and the setting up of the food at the venue.
I want nothing to do with it. He is perfect at keeping all of that in his darling head, and I will keep it that way.
My FI is in charge of music (though I had to help him, lol) and he'll also be in charge of everything related to dealing with his parents - who are paying for the cake and the rehearsal dinner. He will assume none of these tasks alone, though, because he's a procrastinator. :)
My FI is in charge of a bunch! We both work full time and go to graduate school, so we definitely had to split up the duties.
He found the DJ and the photographer, figured out the hotel block, booked the trolley, and he's also taking care of the honeymoon and managing the budget (I'm terrible at Excel!)
My guy definately wants to have a say in everything but he can only handle one or two decisions at a time! I've been giving him everything in short, concentrated bursts so he doesn't get frustrated :D
We each have our list of tasks and we research them on our own and then come together to make decision. On his list: caterer, band, officiant, honeymoon. On mine: venue, STDs, invites, flowers, cake. We are working together on things like the rehearsal dinner and the logistics of the ceremony and reception. I am so grateful that he has been this involved because I would have given up a long time ago without him!
Apart from designing all of our STDs, invites, etc. and well, paying for most of the wedding, nothing really. He's just not a planner! I'm even going to ask someone to be a groom/groomsmen wrangler on the day of to make sure he gets ready in time : )
So far, I put him in charge of hiring a DJ and dealing with hotel room blocks. I guess he's doing okay with it, but I ended up having to be somewhat involved and helping him more than I wanted to. Oh well, it's better than nothing I guess.
Mr Fleming told me that i could have anything I wanted for the wedding and he would be happy. So i told him to plan the honeymoon and that made him really happy. I like this, besides if my man was getting caught up in floral arrangments and what colors match what i might begin to question some things lol.
NotFroofy picked our musician. She drafted our ceremony. She created our wedding Web site, including an RSVP system that kept people from sending RSVPs for more people than had been invited. She designed and made all of our paper products (invitations, programs, photo sharing cards, thank you cards, etc.). She made our wedding cake. She also came up with some specific ideas, like having both of us wear opera gloves. Our wedding was definitely a cooperative effort!
My FI actually helped out a lot! He was in charge of negotiating cost with the minister, picking out tuxes and making sure the groomsmen got all the stuff. However he came with me to most things and we picked things out together.
Let's see, the biggest thing he did was our playlist, since we DIY'd the dance music. But I still helped him with that. He booked our limo. He was the "point person" with our musician since he was a friend of his, though we handled a lot of those things together. He made all the reservations for our honeymoon, though we planned it together. And he helped with a lot of the DIY projects, like assembling invitations, making favors, etc.!
Nothing so far and probably not anything more than just showing up.
he is in charge of handling his and groomsmen's tuxes and the honeymoon by himself. I dont want to hear a lick about it.
He wants significant input on the DJ, photographer, and the food.
ummm nothing?? maybe idk. He was really interested in looking at venues. I think that he will want to be involved but not have to do anything by himself. I think he is scared that he would mess something up. lol
My fiance handled the honeymoon research...everything else was up to me...but of course anything that was too out of my league, he would put the final "yes" or "no" on it..
In order to avoid "lost in translation" incidences...he did most of the talking while I pretty much did all the research.
Plus, our online banking is set up where a pin code is sent via text message to authorize transfer of money between our account and the person we're paying...since his phone is the one that gets that text message, he's been bestowed with dealing with all the payments.
a bunch of things but the most interesting (to me);
Picking our first dance song and keeping it a surprise for me. romantic, cute and terribly nerve wracking
He’s had his hand in everything, but his main “jobs” have been manning the hot glue gun (yes, he did crafts! His first craft project in his life and was good at it LOL), putting stamps on STD/invites/etc., taking things to the post office, running wedding related errands, making dinner or getting take-out if I am working on wedding stuff in the evening, and he will be buying the MOH and BM (who is a woman) their thank-you gifts. We’re getting them Coach wristlets, so basically, he just has to go to the Coach store and pick out 2.
He also gives me massages when I get stressed out, which is the nicest job *ever*!! I will gladly do everything else, if he continues with the massages!
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