Post # 1
I know everyone’s priorities are a little different, so I’m curious, what things did you decide to cross off your to-do list or give to someone else to handle because it wasn’t that important?
For me, my FMIL volunteered to do favors and a card box right away because she loves craft projects. I haven’t asked her about them and have given her a fair bit of leeway, though she has said she’d run her ideas by me before starting anything. These are just one of those things that are much lower priorities for me than the menu, invitations, etc. etc. Oh, and we’re pretty much letting our cake designer run with her ideas, since we trust her and it’s really more important to us that it tastes good!
Post # 3
Flowers. I liked and trusted our florist, and basically told him to do what he wanted, using local, in-season flowers, for our centerpieces.
Post # 4
@mightywombat: Flowers for me, too. They will be there, but I don’t care as long as they look good!
Post # 5
everything was sorta out of my hands yet i had control too. the best thing i did was go with a venue that would help plan everything for me i picked it they made it… I am able to just roll with the flow
at fist i wanted to do things big and fancy, lots of flowers pick and choose cake toppers etc. etc but i just let go of all of that and kept it simple. extremly simple.
Post # 6
FI is doing a playlist for the reception, I think FMIL will be doing guestbooks, a cardbox, and maybe programs. My Mom will probably end up making my dress and doing centerpieces. I appreciate everyone’s (volunteered) help!
Post # 7
We are not doing favors, and I am not doing a seating chart; Fi decided he’d like to give that a try, and if he gives up, I’m perfectly ok with open seating. Just don’t care enough to kill myself over it. Also not doing programs, and our DJ play list is just the ceremony songs, about 6 “must play at some point” songs and a bunch of “do not play” songs, artists and genres. I figure we’re paying the DJ pretty well; it’s his job to pick out the songs.
Oh and not doing a proper rehearsal dinner. That was both money and logistics; we have a ton of out-of-towners. We are doing pre-rehearsal lunch with just the wedding party, and post-rehearsal happy hour with everyone, at the hotel, because they do free happy hour for all guests.
Oh and we didn’t do STD’s.
Post # 8
FI is in charge of the menu. It’s not that I don’t care, it’s just that we’re having a BBQ style buffet and he’s the BBQ foodie of the two of us.
We’re just using our normal guestbook. We got a new one when our DD was christened so we’ll just use that one.
Post # 9
I don’t give a crap about flowers or ceremony decor haha. My mom will handle that.
Post # 10
FI is in charge of the DJ, and the transportation for us to and from the wedding. His parents and he are handling the rehearsal dinner (I gave them the contact info for the guest list since I had it all from the wedding guest list). My neighbor just commandeered the Girls’ Night Out. I’m having some girlfriends over next week to help me DIY the centerpieces, the menus, and the OOT guest bags. I’m doing every single other thing, including preparing the food for a party the day before the wedding that my mother is insisting I have.
Post # 11
I delegated a lot – my husband took care of final menu choices since he knew what I like and I was travelling a lot on business at the time, I had meetings with the florist and wedding planner and was very clear of the style and direction I wanted but honestly didn’t know all the details on the day eg centerpieces etc.
Music and transporation was handled by my husband, the cocktail our entertainment and dealing with photographer etc was handled by my father.
It was all unbelievable when I got there what an amazing job they did and I loved seeing it with fresh eyes – I was very lucky 🙂
My one tip is to surround yourself with good people so that you can relax!
Post # 12
favors, flower girl dresses, flowers.
Post # 13
I’m a control freak so I didn’t delegate anything. I live by the “if I want it done right, I’ll do it myself” mantra.
Post # 14
@UpstateCait: lol. Yes, I’m right there with you.
The only thing that was completely out of my hands was the rehersal dinner. I left that up to my MIL.
Post # 15
I gave my mom the RB pillow and FMIL the 3 flower girl baskets right off the bat because I do not care what those look like, at all, and attempted to express that in the most polite way possible. Unfortunately, they still asked for my approval every step of the way (whatever). I don’t really care about the design on the cake, and I let my stylist do whatever worked with my hair and veil, as long as it was up. The BMs are completely in charge of picking their own shoes (gray/silver) and jewelry (metallic) and I don’t mind what they pick. I’m really flexible on centerpieces, as long as they’re yellow (totally trust my florist). I LOVE my band, so I’m fine with whatever music they play throughout the reception. And rehearsal dinner is 100% FMIL.
Post # 16
cake. (my mom ended up insisting we got one, and did all the initial contacting to make it happen. we are glad we had one.)
favors. (didn’t do at all, but my mom put together little “welcome envelopes” for everyone staying in the hotel)
extra flowers in the reception hall. (my mom, again, insisted we needed more, so by that point I was just like, “whatever” and let her order a few more arrangements.)