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I must say I love many wedding traditions and recent trends. Although some you cant really avoid and some you can totally ban from your wedding (i.e. the electric slide) what wedding traditions / trends would you rather not have at your wedding and/or trends you just dont quite understand.
I was motivated to write this post just to get something off my chest, b/c its sort of freaked me out lately for some odd reason - pictures of hanging dresses in random places. I know my photog will probably capture my dress hanging on its hanger however some of the pictures i have seen really freak me out - LIKE they remind me of that scene from Flowers in the Attic when the mother is having her wedding and she hangs from the glass ceiling - it totally FREAKS ME OUT! Or on a lighter note, like to intro to Haunted Mansion in Disney World when you are in the expanding room with the hanging bride on top. Creepy.
I apologize, but this pic put the icing on the cake on my latest feelings towards this trend & I had to voice it. sorry for the bratty comment.
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I think that every wedding trend that one person doesn't like is the same trend that dozens of others love... I wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings by criticizing the things they are doing for their wedding just because it isn't my thing. Just because it wouldn't work for me, doesn't mean it wouldn't be lovely for someone else!
Your explanation makes sense for you, and I may never look at hanging dresses quite the same way again...
Hah, Ms. Guava-tini - I noticed those photos looking at photographers' blogs. I actually chose our photographer based on the fewest number of 'standard' shots. Sometimes the dress on hanger shot works and sometimes it doesn't, but yes, when the dress is in some totally odd place, I scratch my head a bit.
The wedding tradition we're doing without? More than four guests at our elopement! We're still doing full dress, dinner, and cake cutting, but just because of the nature of a private room in a restaurant, a first dance won't be possible. That's really the only thing I regret about eloping; I was really looking forward to our first dance! FI and I met dancing, actually, so it was going to be kind of special.
Gah, just accidentally messed up my post...
What I said was...
I think that what is annoying for one person may be the greatest thing for another person. I wouldn't want to say something that might hurt someone else's feelings, because things that might not work for me may be perfect for someone else.
What you say makes perfect sense with the way you think about hanging dresses, and I have to say I may never look at hanging dresses quite the same way now :(
The one we're doing without is cupcakes. I think cupcakes are super fun and cute, but I really just wanted a whole wedding cake!
I have my own list:
no receiving line, garter, cake cutting, or cash bar
we are leaving out a bouquet toss and the whole garter belt thing. I always hated being a single girla t weddings called up to catch the bouquet, and although I know some love it, I don't want my friends to do it! They are too showy for our personalities, and I don't think my single girlfriends will be fall over each other to catch the bouquet!
We won't be saving the top tier of our wedding cake for our anniversary.
Not doing the receiving line, bouquet toss, or garter. Just personal preferences - not hating on those that are doing them.
Not saving our wedding cake top, our baker gives us a "complimentary" anniversary cake on our 1 year anniversary....I put complimentary in quotations, because i know we are paying for it.
Not having a flower girl or ring bearer, to avoid more people to deal with.
Not doing the bouquet toss, I loathed that tradition when I was single and I am sure my single friends in their late 20s and early 30s hate it too.
The fun old tradition that I am doing though is having a blusher or veil over my face. I am REALLY excited about that part.
cakes, garters, bouquet toss, asking if there are any objections, etc etc. Anything goofy or traditional that interupts the dancing and the party is a gonner. We don't even like cake, and i think the cost of that stuff is a total racket.
PS: that dress pic?! Creeepy.
I could live without the throwing of the garter, or specifically the calling out of whomever is single at the wedding and putting their business up on blast for everyone to know. I think its kind of a tacky tradition and wouldnt want to put friends thru that. I also dont like the idea of the smashing cake in each others faces, I would walk out if the boy did that!!!
I saw that picture and some others and thought the same thing about the dress picture. Some dresses look beautiful hanging up and others just look awful but are pretty on the bride. I went to one venue here in Houston that had this giant hook hanging in the bride's room from the ceiling. It was all rustic looking to match the decor. And the salesperson said that's where they hang the brides dress for photos. I thought.. more like that's where you hang the bratty bridesmaid giving you grief that day. LOL it was a turn off to me.
My do withouts are
- No bouqet toss for the single girls. Instead I'm going to toss it out the back of the convertible as we drive-away so anyone can catch it. The meaning behind the bouqet toss is really neat. They say that if someone gets a piece of the brides clothing then they will have good luck. Why does it only have to be single girls getting all the luck?
- No Groom's cake. Instead we are doing an Ice Cream Bar. Ice Cream is his favorite food.
- No party favors. I think they are a waste of time and money and most people throw them away later. Unless it is a food favor. But why do that when you already have cake?
- No candy Bar- I think they are very cool to look at. But you are left with tons of candy. Plus we are doing ice cream bar and I'll have toppings for that.
We are having-
- A memory table of our grandparent's WWII items. Our theme is WWII aviation inspired
- A hat table so people can put on hats and take pictures in front of an old car.
We're not having a seating chart, flower girl, or ring-bearer. Or favors. (We have a smilebooth though, so I guess that counts).
Things we're not doing because they weren't us:
Garter toss
Bouquet toss
Groom's cake (I think this is a southern thing, and I'm a NY-er, so ...)
Receiving line (even though we have a pretty small wedding)
Separate dances with mother-son, father-daughter, etc.
Grand exit with sparklers, bubbles, birdseed ... what have you
Things are ARE doing that people might not like:
Candy bar. Now, they're everywhere. But candy is something that really reflects us. We love it. Visit candy shops all the time. And when I thought of the idea YEARS ago, I swear they weren't so popular :)
Cocktail hour. We'll be there for the whole thing, and we're considering it our receiving line. We did this so that at the reception, we didn't have to worry about going to every table, and instead, just really taking in the night whenever possible.
First dance. If it were up to me, we wouldn't do it, but the Mr. was pretty insistant :)
We have a wedding cake (red velvet), a variety of cheesecakes, and we're also having a small cookie buffet. Cookies kind of elude to our first few months together, and we're explaining the cute story at our reception so that people understand the significance.
Family dance. Instead of a million separate dances, we're doing one dance, where in FI and I will always be on the dance floor together, and different important people will roatate in so that we get it all done in one nice bang.
Receiving lines....hello, those people are going to your reception! Although, for big weddings I do see the need for it. But I plan on talking to all my guests throughout the night, so I'm hoping I get to talk to everyone at least once!
@ Ms.Guava-tini: haha OMG that picture IS creepy! I've always just taken it for granted that those pictures were a typical detail shot, and I like some I've seen, but I've never seen one quite so creepy before that one.
We're doing without the garter and bouquet tosses. I don't like their origins and connotations and just generally find them very awkward times for everyone at weddings.
No Flower Girl....had no littles girls to do this one.
No Ring Bearer.........no little boys either.
No Garter Toss.....just didn't feel comfortable with this one.
NO Limo....we just drove around in my husbands car which is a nice BMW and the bridal party in separate cars.
i like most of them the bouquet is a toss up (all pun intended). however, i definitely wouldn't allow anyone under 18 to be allowed to catch the freaking garter or bouquet. it is totally gross to me when a child catches them.
Here is what we are doing ... in terms of traditions!!!
We chose to have no bridesmaids and groomsmen, instead just have a Best Man (his brother) and M.O.H. (my sister).
We will not have a bouquet toss or a garter toss
The DJ will not make guests do horrible cheesy dances
We are having a huge wedding cake ... that is my dream cake, we have a family heirloom cake knife, and we will cut it ... just not sure if we will feed each other
We are having a first look between the groom and I pre-ceremony with the photographers
Bride and Groom will leave the church first - Grand Exit ...and arrive at reception venue outside of cocktail hour to usher guests through a "receiving line" ... the line will lead guests - with the help of directors ... into the cocktail hour
At the ceremony we will have no ushers
I think my dad and I are arriving at the church together ... just us (from the hotel)
So far that's what I can think of. =)
i'm not sure this is a trend as much as a tradition, but having everything "bridal" covered in lace and pearls and rhinestones makes me want to hurl. you know, the cake knives, picture frames, guestbooks, etc. but that's just me.
i dont like the sand or unity candle thing and ive seen a b&g do a hand binding thing that i thought was stupid. when did visual teaching aids become a requirement for your wedding vows? :)
I'm not a fan of the dresses with pockets. I don't quite get it.
We're also not doing the garter/bouquet toss just because there won't be enough single people there
Wow, that is a really creepy photo! Some of the hanging dress photos are pretty to me, but that one is like she was hanged in the tree! (sorry - gross but true!)
I also, in general, think hanging dress shots are pretty. But I've never seen a creepy one with the dress hanging from a tree before. That's just weird!
We're not doing the bouquet toss or garter toss (I've always hated going up there and being singled out) haha....totally didn't mean to make a pun!
lol @ eloping's comment on visual aids
my list:
no guestbooks
no flowergirls, or ringbearers, actually I kind of told all my friends (not many, thank God) to leave their kids at home
no garter toss, no throwing of the bouquet
No unity candles, sand mixing, hand dancing what have yous
no grooms cake
no plus ones unless I have met them and or they have been dating for a long time
was not planning on doing a wedding cake either but my wedding planner browbeat me into it saying I will regret not have it. Though I doubt it...
We are opting out of these traditions that just don't seem like us:
-no bouquet / garter toss
-no wedding cake (we will have dessert of course)
-no receiving line
-no flower girl or ring bearer
We are doing the American bridesmaid/groomsmen thing though, which is very foreign and strange for the French...Whatever we're trying to combine two cultures.
We're having a pretty traditional wedding but will do without:
Bouquet toss - may just give it to the wife in the longest married couple at the wedding
Garter toss - I don't even think I'm going to wear a garter
Top layer of cake for 1st anniversary - the wedding is in CT and we live in Ireland so I'm not going to stress over transporting a piece of cake
No candy bar - too much work and neither of us are really big candy fans
No cupcakes - but might do brownies instead!
No unity candle - it has no liturgical place in the Catholic ceremony and I don't really like it so that's out (no sand either)
No group dances at the reception (unless my little niece and nephew make a special request - certain songs will be banned under penalty of torture though)
We are not doing the bouquet and garter tosses. And no bubbles-we are doing ecofetti. I love bubbles but I see them at every single wedding I go to so we wanted something different.
ice cream bar! that is so awesome, <span style="font-family: tahoma, verdana; font-size: 13px; font-style: italic;">vintage2010 <span style="font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; font-style: normal;">!
The first thing that came to my mind when I saw that picture of the dress hanging from the tree was that it was kind of creepy. It reminds me of Halloween for some reason. I don't know why.
We're not having:
garter/bouquet toss
sit-down dinner
escort cards
dollar dance
conga lines or any form of line dancing
ring bearer
no garter toss! My FI and I are pretty private people... I couldn't imagine him going up my skirt infront of all our family and friends! It gives me a panic attack.
That picture is super creepy!
Right off the bat, our wedding is going to be non-traditional, because I am a heavily tattooed bride, and I intend to proudly display all the tattoos I can. That may startle a few guests..
We're in the beginning of planning, but we already know that we wont be doing a receiving line, and we wont be having flower girls or ringbearers, and we wont be using any traditional music. We plan to customize pretty much everything that is played, and it will mostly be rock. Also, we want NO conga lines, or YMCA, or macarena. No thanks, I don't care how drunk we all get, no one's gonna want to see those pictures when they're sober later on! Haha. And we're not doing father-daughter and mother-son dances. My daddy passed away a couple years ago, and it would be too hard for me to see the mother-son dance and know what everyone's thinking. 
We're not going to save the top layer of our cake either. It probably wont be good in a year, plus, that's a waste of a whole layer of cake! The price of cake is too much as it is...
Also, we're probably not doing a unity candle or sand ceremony, but instead a planting ceremony, which we both love the idea of but have to figure out logistics and how to avoid it getting messy. White wedding dress+soil+accident-prone me=potential disaster! And we're asking a friend to officiate the wedding, so that we can completely customize what is said during the ceremony.
I think that's it! Wow, I'm proud of all our non-traditional plans! 
I will never look at hanging dress pictures the same way! That pic was super creepy!
I say no to: garter toss, bouquet toss, identical bridemaids dresses, guestbook, photobooths, mustaches, monogram initials on dancefloor and on cake, dance-club lighting, and crystals and bling adorned stuff. No to even the word "BLING" - I'm over it, it's so overused!
I also pretty much hate alot of stuff that is feature on the show Platinum Weddings.
Eloping- just so you know, handbinding is an old Celtic/Scottish tradition and is very meaningful to some... not just a visual aid. This is exactly the kind of thing I was talking about in my first post. Calling a tradition "stupid" ends up hurting the people who are using it.
I know that you probably didn't mean anything by it, but I just wanted to point out the double edged nature of these things.
The thing we tried to do away with was the dances. I am a terrible dancer, and feel really uncomfortable with everyone watching me in general. Walking down the aisle was hard enough. So we didn't do a first dance or a father daughter dance. But then when we went out to dance with everyone else, people stopped dancing and stood in a circle. GAH!
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