Post # 1
What went wrong during your wedding? I feel like ours was so perfect, but there are a couple things that are nagging at me now after the fact..
1) Our 2 year old niece screamed through our ENTIRE ceremony. Most of our guests couldn’t even hear our vows because of it and her parents didnt’ even try to quiet her down (they don’t ever discipline her).
2) Our idea of making a teen table fell through b/c my cousin is painfully shy. He had to do a juggling act all night to sit with his parents
3) Our head table was way too big. I mean, the people sitting across from me I had to scream to talk to. I wish I had known how big it was going to be ahead of time, we would have done a sweetheart table!
4) We didn’t get to see most of our cocktail hour. Guests swarmed us at the entrance and woudln’t let us step in. My sister had to grab my arm and force me through the crowd so I could see the pasta bar, but I never got to see our raw bar or ice sculpture.
5) It was hot. Like 90 degrees and very humid. Luckily this only affected me, my husband and our photographer since we were going around the city all day taking pix, but it still slowed us down a little.
What about everyone else?
Post # 3
Congrats on your wedding!
Wow, I can’t believe the parents of your 2 yo niece. I keep hearing these stories on WB, but I just can’t believe parents don’t take their children out, I guess I would think twice too about inviting children if I didn’t trust the parents to be polite.
Post # 4
@troubled:Thanks! Unforutnately for us, there was nothing we could do. We actually asked the parents ahead of time (DH’s brother and wife) to take her out if she was fussy, but they didn’t listen. I think THEY wanted to stay for the ceremony, so they didn’t even consider walking her out. And of course they are used to the screaming since they hear it all the time.
Post # 5
I feel really lucky how well our wedding went, especially the weather that day. We had an outdoor ceremony as well as a semi-outdoor cocktail hour and dancing and the weather was perfect – not too hot, not too cold, and not a cloud in the sky. However, there are a couple of things at the back of my mind.
– Someone thought it would be a good idea to have shots waiting for the bridal party right after the ceremony. I never do shots, but I did this one and it was huge – in a highball glass, like three shots in one. Needless to say, I have a difficult time remembering much about the cocktail hour…because that shot combined with the champagne toast before the ceremony with my bridesmaids really did me in. Thank god I felt better after I ate dinner.
– I felt like the lighting in the dining room was too bright. I can’t fault my venue, because I never directly discussed this with them, but seeing as I had many votive candles on each table, wouldn’t it have made sense to dim the lights a bit??
– The dinner lasted a little longer than I would have liked. We didn’t get out to the dancing/cake cutting until about 10pm, which only left two hours for that.
– Family photos took longer than expected during the cocktail hour. I was hoping I would be able to enjoy the cocktail hour, but in between professional family shots and all the guests wanting pictures, it felt more like a photo hour than a cocktail hour.
Post # 6
@Tulip61110:I got married the day after you!! I remember thinking I wish my wedding was on the 11th because the weather was beautiful. Also, i’m really glad no one pressured me to drink on my wedding day b/c I was determined to stay sober through the whole thing. I don’t know why they would have given you such a big shot right after the ceremony! We liked our lighting, but I agree that’s one of the things you can’t really ‘preview’ and discuss before teh big day.
Post # 7
Oh no! I would have trouble getting over #1 especially since you asked them ahead of time not to let that happen. How rude! The vows are so important–and in completely a different way that the food, decor, music etc. is important. They are you and your husband commiting yourselves to one another! Augh, hopefully I’m not reopening a wound for you with this comment but I would be so upset!
Do you think they felt bad after the fact (maybe they didn’t notice at the time because they have learned how to tune out her screaming?)
Post # 8
@moderndaisy: Oh I remember how hot it was the day after our wedding…that must have been kind of rough – at least it didn’t rain though 🙂
And yeah, I’m annoyed with myself for letting myself be pressured to drink. I remember just sipping the shot, and one of the groomsmen kept teasing me and calling me a baby, so then I just pounded it. Bad idea!!! Now I remember why I never do shots. :-/
Post # 9
Our day went pretty well and I felt like we rolled with punches as they came.
The punches included:
-My hair/make-up appt ran over by almost an HOUR so I was scrambling to get dressed in time for pre-wedding pictures.
-A huge down pour started as soon as we said “I do”. Thank goodness our ceremony and reception were indoors but we had to skip our send off because of the rain.
-We didn’t get to take as many outdoor pictures as I would have liked due to the rain.
-People were really pushy about getting professional pictures taken with us. As much as I love our families there are just way too many to take pictures with every aunt, uncle, cousin, etc.
-I didn’t get to take any photos in the photobooth! 🙁
-Someone stepped on my dress and ripped the crinoline from the waist. It was a easy fix to reattach with safety pins and not noticeable at all but it still took a while to do which took away from time with everyone else.
-Some very important people in our lives couldn’t be there due to health, the military, etc.
We seriously had the time of our lives regardless of what went wrong, what went right, and what just went.
Post # 10
Everything was perfect on the surface, and I am probably the only one who really knows how bad a lot of things went. But there are still a lot of things that bother me when I look back.
-The timing was off throughout the day. We booked hair and makeup for super early but she still managed to take a little longer than we thought it would. Plus we should have just broken down and rented the venue for an additional hour earlier in the day so we would have had more time to decorate. Even though our decorations for ceremony were really simple it still made me stressed out to get everything done.
-We didn’t really have a first look. FI had helped pick the dress, accessories, shoes, everything so I was really looking forward to having a first look so it would be the first time he saw everything together. But then we got to the venue and realized there was still so much to do and so I gave up on the idea and jumped in to pitch in. Even with everyone helping we still had family showing up for group pictures and I wasn’t even dressed yet. This is the only problem during the day that I know other people noticed.
-Because we were late we don’t have pics of me getting ready (which is okay, because I don’t really like them). But we were feeling so rushed my MOH and I just ran back to the room, threw on the dress and veil and ran back out so we could get pictures started. I was stressed so I got red and nervous before pics.
-The flowers were all wrong. When we came out to grab bouquets for pics I realized that they were not at all what we discussed other than the type of flower. I was pissed but had to pretend to be happy for photos.
-Photographer was FI’s sister who did not do a great job. The portraits were the only thing that turned out right. All pictures of the ceremony and reception are dark and/or blurry. Still REALLY pissed about this, but I am making photosharing cards for the thank yous so hopefully we can add to our collection. It might take me a really long time to get over this one.
-Our coordinator friendor got drunk. FI’s friend from work had me fooled that she had everything under control. We were the last ones to leave the venue (no send off) and I physically had to wrestle the keys out of her hand because she had been sneaking drinks when she had told us that she wouldn’t be drinking at all. Worst part of the whole evening and I am glad that no one else was there to see it.
So yeah, a lot of things went wrong, some major. But in the end I keep telling myself that it was just one day and really as long as no one else noticed these things then they don’t really matter.
Post # 11
Oh yeah, and my brother decided two days before the wedding that he wouldn’t be able to make it after all. This one still stings.
Post # 12
This are all so helpful to hear. Mainly because it reiterates the fact that THINGS WILL GO WRONG and as much as we plan and envision things, nothing can be prefect.
And, @rachel_leigh, I fear my brother won’t show up last minute because of an ongoing feud with my father. I don’t know if expecting it makes it makes it easier…
Post # 13
@Miss_Riley:My hair/makeup ran late too!! That is the only thing that stressed me out before the ceremony b/c the vendors all showed up and I hadn’t even started yet! Luckily, they did a GREAT job so it was worth the stress. Gosh that sucks about your dress! People stepped on mine all night but luckily no damage. I just had to push them a little so they noticed they were ON my dress and I couldn’t move. We also had very important people who couldn’t make it so I feel your pain.
@rachel_leigh:That totally stinks about your photos and coordinator! I hope you at least saved a lot of $ by having friends donig these jobs. I agree with you that besides the 2 year old screaming, I don’t think anyone else noticed the things thatI did that went wrong. I’m married now so I win!
Post # 14
Our big things where 1) My husbands brother made it but his wife and kids got lots getting to the site (long complicated messy story) 2) The rental car my parents had got a flat on the way to the hair appointment and wanted my parents to spend 2 hours taking it to a shop to get it fixed. Nope, 20 minutes on the phone and they were towing a new car to our location and exchanging them.
Otherwise, everything went beautifully and we had a great time. Pictures to follow soon!
Post # 15
Ours was pretty good, but I did start a thread a few weeks ago detailing my husband’s family’s poor behavior. Highlights include:
- Aunt loudly announcing she is not wearing a bra
- Uncle throwing food during dinner
- A cousin who RSVP’d no showing up anyway and taking a plate and placecard from another table
- Uncle dressing up as a clown and making balloon animals after I specifically told him NO BALLOON ANIMALS
- Uncle tackling Mike during our first dance and locking a ball and chain on his ankle
Both the MOH and Best Man speeches were really weird and awkward. My sister’s was all about how our relationship affected her and how she didn’t like Mike at first, with a few personal digs at me thrown in. Mike’s bro just rambled incoherently for 10 minutes. I needed “play-off” music like at the Oscars.
Post # 16
This is a great post to read! It’ll help be keep my confidence and cool on my wedding day even if (when!) things will go wrong or different then planned. Not everything will go perfect but it’ll still make for a perfect day, hopefully!