(Closed) What were people's reaction when you told them you're having a DW?

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Well, ours is only destination to FI’s side of the family. That being said, only about 20 of the 100 invites are within close driving distance.

His family had assumed it would be long distance, so it was no surprise there. I don’t expect the majority of them to be able to make it though.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ours wasn’t a destination wedding but a close friend of ours is getting married in the Dominican Republic in the spring time. DH and I can’t wait to go!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Most people are very excited about our DW and can’t wait to get a way for a week and have a good time.

They only negative was a few people who said they would try to make it but likely wouldnt be able too, we were well aware of this risk when choosing to have a DW so it was okay. No one ever tried to make us feel bad for it, most people just said you ony get married once(hopefully) so make sure you do what YOU want.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Diamond84:  our guests had a mixed reaction, our dw is in thailand so everyone has to travel, some further than others but everyone needs to fly. We had a lot of excited friends, some said yes straight away, a few said straight away they couldnt make it. All of my immediate family said yes & booked early but we had a lot of resistence from grooms family and lots of indescision, which was much worse then expected. Following up rsvps was a mission. Overall we invited 65 people & 30 are coming. Some of the declines made me feel a bit guilty but some couldnt have come even if we had the wedding in our home country. Overall i dont regret choosing to do a dw.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Before we officially decided to get married in Scotland (FI’s parents are still living there), we talked the the important players to judge their feelings – parents, best friends, etc. all of them were thrilled to come to Scotland. We’ve had a lot more people say they arcoining then I expected. i was expecting 30-40. So far (and invites haven’t gone out yet), we have 60+ who have made so e kind of reservation (plane, hotel, etc). 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ours is also just a DW for my FI’s side of the family, and since they are few there hasn’t been any arguments about it. In terms of friends, the only time I’ve noticed people being dissapointed is when they are more of acquaintances. They find out that we’re engaged, show a lot of enthusiasm and then they’re told that the wedding will take place in Sweden and all of a sudden they are like “OH, Sweden… Well have a lovely time”. Since we’re determined to have a small wedding, I don’t really care about their reaction. 🙂

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Diamond84:  We are getting married in Cuba this April. Everyone was sooooooo excited to go when we told them we were having a destination wedding!!! I think it is because this willl be the first one for almost all our guests so they are excited to experience it for the first time. We have a total of 58 confirmed guests so far 🙂

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

For the most part, everyone was excited. Some started saving the moment we told them (2 years out). Being a year out now, people have been contacting us and asking questions even. 😀

That being said, we did have several tell us out-right they would not be attending (mostly FIs siblings…but that’s another thread). There reasons range from too much money (which, really it’s not if you look at their financial situation compared with others who are devote on coming) to they fully believe that if they go to Mexico they’ll be murdered (thanks Canadian media).

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We’re having a DW/planned elopement/Weddingmoon and reactions have mostly been good.  To our surprise, our parents were on board and have been a huge support system for us.  Of course, they’d prefer if we get married with them there but they’re letting us do what we want which is SO nice.  There have been a few extended family members (especially older folk) who aren’t keen on the idea of having a Weddingmoon, but you can’t please everyone and to us, it’s not worth it to sacrifice what we really want for a handful of people.  Actually, the most surprised were our friends because we love our home state (West Virginia) and they always pictured us getting married on top of a mountain or something like that and not in Florida, haha.   But so far, most everyone has supported us!

Post # 12
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355 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I was also expecting some kind of negative reaction. I think because of this I’m reading into any comments. So, I can’t tell if some of the aunts and uncles are put off by it or just commenting. My Dad took some convincing about Mexico and is now excited but my mom was thrilled from the get-go. Most of our friends are also excited. In general, most of those attending can’t wait and we’ve heard only a tiny bit of what may be grumbling from the others.

We knew going into this that we would have to just let that roll off and plan the wedding we want, so it’s been fine.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We are having a very small (12 guest) DW in Maui. Everyone was really supportive, except my FI mom is Spanish, and she did cry as she wanted us to get married in Spain. lol Everyone else was great though. For people who couldn’t make it, they just said they are so happy my FI and I are getting married and will be there with us in spirit:)

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Everyone was initially very supportive and happy for us. We eloped and then had a destination reception. I was very mindful of how expensive it was for everyone to be there so I wrote heartfelt thank you notes and was very grateful on the night. Mum did get a bit sad the week of our elopement though but we were happy in the end it was just us for the ceremony.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We’re one of the later ones to get married in our families and friends so it wasn’t really a big deal either way. The important people will be there; we know some people can’t come and that’s totally OK. That’s why we’re having 2 more receptions when we get home, LOL.

Post # 16
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268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Everyone was pretty excited for our DW in Thailand last year! We knew from the outset the majority of people who would be able/make the effort to come! But be realistic and understand that not everyone you want there will be able to be there (and we had some last minute cancellations due to serious health problems).

After the wedding, our guests said it was the best wedding ever and we loved every moment of it!

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