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Hi ladies, and welcome to the Late Night After Dark version of the Bee, haha!
I have always joked with my FI that I will lose my "A-card" to him after we're married (maybe that's why he asked me).
Just wondering what your stance is on the bum lovin'. My girlfriends that have done it/do it have told me only two things: that you must have lots of lube and lots of time.
I'm not sure that I ever want to make our "joke" a reality (he's....huge), and thought I'd poll the Bees out of curiosity!
URRRGGGGHHH no joke.... one night after i drank waaaayyy tooo much i came home ((before we got engaged and decided to stop having sex til marriage) and baiscally raped fi!!! so we were going at it....doggie style and this DUMMY pulled out and accidently slipped in my butt!! and mt FI is WELL ENDOWED! i never jumped so high in my life!!!
Needless to say, the fun ended after that....that was almost 6 mths ago....i still cant walk the same!
Ok so the deal is as hard as it seems (no pun intended) yo uHAVE to relax yourself when you start. LOTS of lube. LUbe is you rBEST friend! Using a finger or 2 or a toy fist toi start off is a really good idea and make sure he takes it slow and then after a few minutes it feels good! I know lots of instructions right? lol But if you don't prepare yourself you may try once and never do it again.
I have tried it and it hurt so bad it hurt SO bad even with lube and time... Fi just doesnt Fit...
Hell to the no. Not now, not ever. Not with DH, not with anyone else. No. Ick.
ETA: I'm down with getting freaky. Spanking, hair pulling, maybe a little bondage if we're drunk, watching porn together, etc... but anal is my line. I do not cross it.
OMG OMG I totalllllly meant a "toy first" NOT NOT NOT a "toy fist" OMG noooooooooooooooooooo lmao
@StarIzInkd: there isnt enough lube in the world to make a large cucumber fit in something the size of a walnut.....no ma'am NEVER AGAIN lol
@kaylee26: I would probably have to as well...at least one or two.
@MrsStrawberry24: Omg! That is kind of hilarious!!
@StarIzInkd: BAHAHAHHAHAHA! I seriously el oh el'd!
No. Never, ever. No.
It's only an out.
I'm really grossed out by poo and all I would think of is the smell etc.
@zippylef: Hey, that's cool - everyone has to have a line somewhere!
@kaylee26: Ok, maybe I'm a cheap drunk. Either that or I mix my drinks too strong....probably both. :P
@MsPanda: This.
We are a pretty adventurous couple (or, erm, we were before we got so stressed out with life) and we decided to try it. Used lube, etc, but seriously he only barely got the tip, uh, in and I freaked out and told him to GTFO (get the eff off). It hurt him too though so neither of us have been gung-ho about that EVER again. Ugh. I feel almost embarassed writing this? It's weird because I have posted a lot more graphic or telling posts. haha.
some people REALLY llike anal. my best friend LOVES IT....like would perfer that over regular sex....and she walks just find....
i juts dont understand how something so painful can be enjoyable!
@MrsStrawberry24: LOL I know how that goes actually which is why it does NOT happen without some SERIOUS foreplay back there!!! HAHA
@Juliepants: I did too when I saw my typo.. I'm famous for typo's and I think that had to be my best yet!! ;)
Now I'm all in the mood for that lol... been a while because its also something that we can't really do when the house isn't empty... or when neighbors are home. No keeping hush hush with that back THERE!!
@StarIzInkd: OMG!!! have fun with that lol. its awesome that you guys are so open to try that!!
@AmeliaBedelia: Haha, don't worry about it, no one's going to tell your family lol.
You bring up a good point that I hadn't thought about yet, though - that it might hurt him, too. Ok, now THIS is WAY TMI so it's my turn to be embarrassed, but last week when we were doing it (um, in the front door) I was too....well since he's so....ok how to say this, I was a bit too tight for him and I bled a little (not totally unusual for us since he is a really big guy) and afterwards he said it actually hurt HIM a little! It was pretty good sex and we both enjoyed it, but I was surprised when he said it hurt him a bit, too!
*hovers over the "submit" button, blushes....ok, click!
@StarIzInkd: LOL I died laughing at your typo 
Anyway, it's a big fat NEVER for me. DH seems to think he would like to try it but I've heard too many horror stories!
@Juliepants: Right? He said it hurt him and I was all in a tizzy like wtf are you talking about it hurt ME *cue whiny baby* And he was like no, it seriously did. It was too tight. He made a similar comment when we first starting having "regular" sex too. We were eachother's firsts, so I figured it was that, but sometimes it really does still hurt me or him and we've literally been having sex for years. I dk what it is! He is rather well-endowed too but jeez. Yeah I hope this thread doesn't come up in searches very often. ;) haha.
@StarIzInkd is totally right.
Its ALL about preparation. Infact I wouldn't decide to just "try it" one night. Rather over a few/many nights get used to the stimulation..... Lube, play around the outside, finger, toy.... And so on with the progression.
I can say that with the right prep, it doesn't matter how "big" he is...
Also, the best way is going to be from behind, with you head down & bum up (not up on all 4s) if that makes sense. When he goes in he can't go "straight in" either... The bum is not like the vagina, rather it has 2 sphincter muscle you gotta kinda relax. So... If you imagine for a minute... (sorry for tmi)... You're "in position". As he goes in he'll first go kinda down (under the first) & then back up/straight (over the next)... This wil help it not hurt like all get out. If he goes straight in you'll get that glorious sharp pain that makes you just 10 ft, grab your bum, & take a very high pitched breath in in pain. (lol)
The problem with most is that the guy doesn't do it right.... But if you take it slow & pay attention (for him in how he does it) then it can be really great & enjoyable. :)
AAwwwww so many horror stories no good :( It does actually feel good but its one of those things that takes time. Best thing to do really is if you're "Self loving" to do a little self love back there with like a pinky or something just TOUCHING a little... if it arouses yo go for it. (TMI much? HAHA)
@amnystik: OK I think the muscle imagery sounds scary now I'm second guessing myself lol. But you're right on the positioning... I once tried to be all porn starish and while riding him, took it out and went for the back door and talk about hitting the roof. I was so disappointed too... I was trying to be all hot porn star chick n I'm sure he got excited when he saw where it was going and then it was just HELLLL NOOOOOO!!!!!!!!
SO yea, doggie style is THE way. Plus placing your hand around the base of his ---- also gives you more control over how deep he goes.. plus kinda sexy for him ;)
It feels almost the same as regular sex for me. I just really relax and there's no pain.
I'd suggest being on top so you can control how much goes in and when....
@StarIzInkd: lol... If you think about it next time though you'll feel how it's kinda like that.... I mean not drastic, but definitely doesn't work all straight in, especially in the beginning. Lol
This is becoming one of my favourite posts, I'm learning so much.
Also, I kind of love how two Bees are "doing it right now"....I'd even venture a guess on which two, LOL! :P jk
@StarIzInkd: bwahaha
@Juliepants: pfft... Not this one... DH is out like a light! Maybe I should wake him up. tehe 
I totally voted "doing it right now" just because I had to, couldn't stop myself lol. We've tried it a few times and sometimes it felt amazing and then sometimes it hurt like hell! I'm totally trying again now though with all these suggestions! We've always tried it doggy style but never tried the whole down then up maneuver lol. I don't think I could ever do it with anyone but FI tho, he has an unhealthy obsession with my bum! Plus, I don't think I'd ever deprive him of something he really wanted to try or enjoyed. We made a promise early on to never judge in the bedroom and to try everything the other wants at least once!
@Juliepants: HEHEHEHEHEHE Now the question is are the 2 doing it with each other LOL!!! J/K
@Juliepants: Also, I think the title of this post is hilarious! FI and I sing that little tune to eachother ALL the time!
@natbug21: Same here on the trying things thing... I've brought up things jokingly to FH and then told him that if he ever wanted to actually do that that MAYBE we could try if he wanted to. I think there is really like 2 or 3 things on my list of things that I would never do and that's like sick uncleanly type of stuff. SO I think we're all good!
@natbug21: Hahaha, that song sparked this whole post! It gets in my head sometimes...."you wanna put it in my butt, in my butt!?" LOL
I like your bedroom policy with your FI. And hahaha great, there are now THREE Bees having anal whilst on their computers!
@StarIzInkd: Yes, no golden showers or anything lol... but anything within reason :)
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