Post # 1
How are you addresssing the parents of your FI now?
If you are calling them by their first names, did they suggest it first? I mean did they tell you to change it from Mr. and Mrs. to First Names?
What will you call your in laws after you are married?
Include your location so I know if the custom is regional.
Post # 3
I live in Florida and have always called them by their first names, so nothing will change!
Post # 4
I’ve always addressed my husband’s parents by their first names. That’s how they introduced themselves to me. I do call his grandparents “Oma” and “Opa” though! We live in Southern Ontario, Canada.
Post # 4
I’m African. Everyone calls their inlaws ‘mummy’ and ‘daddy’. Elders are called ‘Uncle and Aunty’. Yeah, even those of us who came here as kids keep the tradition of the home country alive 🙂
Post # 5
I’m from the Great Plains. I call them by the first names, and my husband does the same for my parents. BUT, I normally just let them address me first, so I don’t have to catch their attention because I do feel awkward calling them by their first names still. Always learned it was improper, but thats what my husband told me to call them and they’ve never corrected me.
Post # 6
I’m going to call them exactly what I call them now (their first names)! When I first met them, I addressed them by their formal titles (Mr/Mrs) because I was raised to always address adults by formal titles until they asked me to address them otherwise. I don’t plan on calling them “mom & dad” because it feels weird (not out of disrespect).
(West coast, but filipino culture)
Post # 7
Seattle – I always called them by their first name. As an adult I don’t think there is anyone that I refer to Mr. this or Mrs. that. After marriage to their face they are still first name but in my head and to DH they are mom and dad. His parents are divorced and I think over time my MIL will become mom to her face because we see her all the time.
Post # 8
Indiana/Kentucky- For the first month we were dating I called FI’s parents Mr. and Mrs. in an effort to be respectful. They asked me to call them by their first names and I imagine that I will continue to do so after the wedding. For me, I would feel weird calling them mom and dad.
Post # 9
I know I’m in the minority, but I call them by their first names now and I’ll refer to them as Mom and Dad after we’re married.
I’ve never called them Mr. and Mrs…. they really adopted me into their family since I live away from my parents, so I feel comfortable calling them Mom and Dad.
Post # 10
Atlanta, GA – Their first names; I also call my step-parents by their first names, as they aren’t my mom and dad. It would hurt my mom’s feelings if I called my in-laws mom and dad, and I would feel super awkward doing it.
I guess eventually they’ll be whatever form of “grandma/grandpa” they choose will be what I call them. My mom calls her own mother “Nanny” now out of habit because of us. haha.
Post # 11
I’ve always called them by abbreviations of their first name, but will soon switch to calling them Mumma H and Pops. My parents are Mom and Dad.
Post # 12
Cincinnati- I call them by their first names now and will keep doing that after were married. I would never call anyone mom and dad except for my mom and dad. Although, my cousins wife calls her in-laws mom and dad. But her parents aren’t in her life so I feel like it makes sense in that situation.
Post # 13
Upstate, NY here.
I’ve called his parents by their first names since the first time I met them and I will continue to do so for rest of their lives.
Post # 14
His mom calls me her daughter so I call her mom to her face and Mrs. Louis to everyone else. I call his dad Mr. Louis or Pastor (he’s not my pastor but he is a pastor and thats what everyone else calls him). I would never call them by their first name unless they asked me to. We live in Brooklyn.
Post # 15
In Asia, we call our elders Uncle and Auntie so most peple will call their future in laws uncle and auntie. After marriage, they become dad and mom.