Post # 1
There seems to be a lot of people who are getting angry and agitated with waiting that I wanted to try bringing this back to people thinking positively. So, I thought about this while taking a walk on my dinner break at work tonight.
What are you going to miss the most about pre-engagement? It can be financially, emotionally, mentally, physically, anything.
I was thinking mine is financial. Since we’ll be saving for a portion of our wedding costs, we’re gonna have to cut back in other areas, and I already know what’s going to be cut out for me. Buying lunch/dinner when I’m at work. Right now, I like having the freedom to just decide I feel like sushi for lunch, and then go buy sushi. However, once I’m engaged, I’ll be thinking “Sushi today or wedding?” And wedding will win.
What are you going to miss?
Post # 3
I think money for me also. I am also quite an introverted person, so planning and having lots of people in my life for that the big day and the lead up to it will take quite a bit of energy from me. I am studying for this year and once SO proposes I will be a full time student, full time mum, part time worker AND wedding planner(with 5-6months to plan)! I actually like being busy, but I will miss having that extra time to myself!
Post # 4
Lusting after rings! Lol! Also, I’m not looking forward to the stresses of planning so being stress free and having money to spend on whatever will be missed too.
Post # 5
@HopefulSim: Wow, you may want to try inventing a time machine before you get engaged, just so you have enough minutes in the day!
@Dogsbody92: Ah, ring lust. That’s a good one.
Post # 6
@pocketfox: Yeah! A time machine sure would come in handy! Luckily, I am a pretty disciplined person so it will all be okay! But I am cherishing the moments before I need to get my disciplined self into super mode. 😀
Post # 7
I’m going to miss this time when it is pretty much just us talking about our wedding and our future. As soon as we get the ring in December everyone will have an opinion. Which is fine and very exciting, but this time is sweet too.
Post # 8
Honestly, I think I’m going to miss being so excited about the engagement – imagining what my ring will look like, counting down days, and just the anticipatory feeling that comes with it. I won’t deny that some waiting days have been tough but overall, I love the feeling of “looking forward to something”. I know I will get to anticipate my wedding, but still…there have been parts of this waiting process that I’ve enjoyed.
Post # 9
I think I’ll actually like the financial part. I’m not crazy I promise! I’m frugal, SO is more of the spender. Not a big spender, but he buys lunch every day (I pack a lunch), that sort of thing. Currently in our savings we have more than enough to cover a wedding and honeymoon, but obviously we won’t want to spend it all. So we will start budgeting to set aside our wedding fund. SO will have to start bringing lunch–which is also healther than buying every day. Currently we don’t really do any budgeting, because we aren’t actively saving for anything. It would be nice to know what we need to save and what we can set aside for fun money. We moved to Boston in December but aren’t doing much because it’s expensive to do things. If we have fun money set aside, we might actually end up doing more things! I know it’s weird, but I have my reasons!
I’ll miss not having the stress of planning a wedding! Engagement is right around the corner, and I’m currently in grad school (graduating next May). I’m already super busy and don’t have much free time (I’m even taking summer classes). Planning a wedding will make it even crazier!
Oh and I’m with PP on the lusting after rings–we’ve designed the ring, and I’ve had to force myself to stop looking! I was so indecisive during the planning stages, so the deal was, once it’s ordered I have to stop looking! (I still look at pictures on the Bee, but I don’t go to websites and “create” rings any more lol)
Post # 10
We’ve been waiting for his engaged brother to finish having his engagement parties (for 6 months!!) and this Sunday is finally the LAST ONE. While we’ve been waiting though we bought the ring, booked the venue, and have been getting quotes from caterers.
So I think what I’m going to miss is being able to do all this stuff secretly with no input or criticism of my ideas from the outside world. It’s just me, SO, and the internet right now 🙂 Soon it will be my mom, his mom, his aunts, his brother, his entire extended family…
Post # 11
I’m going to miss the way I feel now – excited, daydreaming, hopeful. It keeps you on your toes a bit.
I was teasing him yesterday. I called him a dork. He teases back, “Whatever, dorkette!”. I said, “That’s Mrs. Dork to you!” He smiles and says back, “Soon enough.”
That was a heart-melting moment. : )
Post # 12
Love the answers so far!
@pineapplez17: I know what you mean about not being able to lust now. SO already mentioned he’s getting his great-grandmother’s ring, so I’m trying not to lust over anything since I know whatever I get won’t be like anything I see (not that I’m upset, the sentimentality is better than any new ring!)
@TrousseauHorse: and @CaroBee: I didn’t even think of planning without input! That’s a good one. Definitely agree with that.
Ah, daydreaming. It’s one of the reasons I’m glad I take transit to work lol
Post # 13
I am engaged, but I definitely recall the wait. What I miss about waiting is the “no rush” sense to it, and there is the anticipation of wedding planning, but not actually doing it. I was much more thrilled to think about doing those things than I am actually doing them.
(OH…and if you’re about to be engaged, and you know you want a short engagement, do yourself a big favor, and start looking at venues, photographers, and stuff now.)
Post # 14
The money! I’m so happy to get to plan a wedding, but while I’m making payments to the vendor, I know I’ll be thinking…”I could pay my car off in months with this money!” I’m positive it will be worth it in the end though for the best day of our lives…
Post # 15
I just got engaged not even two weeks ago, but I think what I miss the most was the excitement from not knowing when or how he was going to propose, and most of all, that moment when he got down on one knee. It was exactly how I always wanted to get engaged (on vacation, the beach, sunset, just us).
I definitely recommend getting someone to video that moment though! Helps a bit being able to watch it back haha.
Post # 16
I’m going to miss the anticipation. It’s like Christmas after you open your gifts. There’s so much build up for it and you’re so excited to open them, but then there’s that moment afterwards where you realize it’s over, or in the case of proposals that that specific moment/event is over. It’s so much build up and then it’s over quickly and you move into engagement/wedding planning mode:) Being engaged is amazing (it’s only been 6 days for me, hehe), but the build up to it is fun too:)