Post # 1
will you teach your kid(s) that they have a penis/vagina or will you call it something else? my husband and I both agree we will call it a penis/vagina for the start. I feel it helps to make children not ashamed of their bodies and I feel it just helps them in the long run.
Post # 2
I agree with you and plan to do the same. My 16-month old (who is still nursing) says “breast” and “breastmilk” instead of a made-up kiddie term. Personally I prefer this philosophy but no judgment toward those who don’t.
Post # 3
Kids will appreciate that you don’t sugar coat things and speak to them like adults, particularly when it’s regarding their curiosities. For this reason, even my stepson feels more comfortable with asking me questions about his curiosities than he does asking other adults in his life, even questions that are typically embarrassing. I make sure to talk to my SO about questions his son asks so I’m not taking away any parental moments, but my stepson pretty much considers me all-knowing now 😉
Post # 4
My kids will definitely use learn the correct anotomic terms.
As an aside, many people use the term vagina when they really mean vulva. The vagina is the inner canal. The vulva the outside. So what you see is the vulva. Just a person pet peeve. Not that you were using it incorrectly, I just think of that every time someone uses the term vagina.
Post # 5
- Wedding: December 2014 - Maui
I learned all the actual words for everything when I was a kid and that’s what I plan on teaching them.
Post # 6
JenGirl: you make a good point about the difference between vagina and vulva. It really saddens me that so many women don’t know about their own anatomy. My hope is that as time goes on girls will be taught proporly about their anatomy so when they are grown women they know what everything is and how it works and such
Post # 7
damarajade: that’s really awesome you have such a great relationship with your step son. its always good to know that kids have someone they can get accurate info from. Educating and being proactive really helps kids and parents in the long run
Post # 8
I taught my son penis and vagina. I know this is something no parent wants to think about but if someone was acting inappropriately towards or around him I wanted him to be able to tell anyone exactly what was going on. If someone else’s child said that someone touched their peach I would not have any idea. Someone touched my penis is very clear.
Post # 9
ment.to.be2013: damarajade: So, so much of the yes.
There should be no shame taught in using real words for body parts, plus, as Can.I.Be.Mrs.C.: brought up, often the terms used instead are just plain confusing.
My grandmother raised me initially, and I was taught the words for penis and vagina. I was raised without shame for having female genitalia, and without a sense of shame for others having different genitalia – I was taught everyone has a body, and everyone’s different, but everyone still has mostly the same parts, and that’s okay. I also had very little embarrassment later when I first got my period, or if I had some girly question about bras, or things like that with my grandma.
Post # 10
Can.I.Be.Mrs.C.: I agree fully with what you are saying.
I want my 4 year old to be able to correctly know what things are called and if there is an incident in school or anywhere, I want her to be able to correctly say what happened. So many people have different nicknames for body parts that it can make it dificult to know what exactly they mean, I would like there to be no question or confusion about it.