Post # 1
What will you (or do you) call your mother-in-law?
This is a question that has haunted my mom for over 30 years. She still doesn’t know what to call her mother-in-law! She still feels awkward calling her by her first name, but calling her Mrs. ____ just sounds weird! She usually just resorts to "Grandma". My FMIL is a teacher, so I guess she will be Mrs. ____ because that’s what she’s used to. My mom had a conversation with my FI about this one and gave him suggestions so it wouldn’t be awkward for him. But he’s still trying to figure it out. 🙂
Post # 3
I have avoided using any name at all for almost 5 years now…
Post # 5
by her first name… ive never entertained the thought to call her anything else and she hasnt offered, but her other sons wives call her ma or YaYa (greek for grandmother). my FMIL has made a few comments about how distant i am with her (its just that we have zero in common except her son) so she most prob knows i wont stop using her first name
Post # 6
Mr. Bunny’s parents are fine with me calling them by their first names and we get along fantastically!
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
I didn’t know what I’d call her! Then I wrote a blog about it, saying how I wasn’t sure what to call her, and my MIL read my blog and emailed me and told me that I should call her "Mom" or whatever I want! So I call her mom 🙂 That was a really passive way to solve the problem, but hey, it worked!
Post # 8
I use my future in-laws first names!
Post # 9
I haven’t really settled in on something yet. I wanted to try to call her "mom" but it just feels weird. I think I’m most comfortable with calling her by her first name, but I think she wants me to call her mom. She signs emails to me as "Mom". I think that’s what she would prefer, but I just don’t feel right about it. This is also complicated by the fact that I totally don’t mind calling my FIL "dad". I don’t have a relationship with my dad, so it doesn’t feel as weird as saying "mom".
In-laws are hard!
Post # 10
I think my parents would prefer "mom" and "dad" but my husband and I decided long ago that it would always be first names only. Everything else feels too awkward.
Post # 11
i call my in laws by their first names, as does their other DIL. My husband also calls my parents by their first names. I can’t imagine us calling our in laws mom and dad!
Post # 12
He calls my mom "mom" and my dad matt. I don’t call his dad anything, i just talk to him. His mom and I don’t even talk…so. Don’t know what to do about that one!
Post # 13
I usually don’t refer to either of them by name – I feel silly calling them by their first names (I’m definitely NOT calling them Mom and Dad). To them it’s totally normal to be called by their first names so I just keep reminding myself that. But when I’m talking to my FMIL or FFIL about the other (like, where is ____ today?) I feel SO dumb saying the missing one’s first name. Oh well. I’m just grateful we get along so well. My FI has NO problem calling my parents by their first names and has since he met them and my brother in law who has been married to my sister for ten years still can’t bring himself to call them by their first names (they never told him to) so now that there are grandchildren he calls my parents what the kids call them!
Post # 14
I call them by their first names….I think it will take a while to call them mom and dad as it was a hard enough transition from Mr___ & Mrs_____
Post # 15
When I’m talking about my future in laws to other people, I call them Mr & Mrs. When I address a thank you card or something to them- I write Mr. & Mrs.
But in person I, like Mr. Bee, have skillfully avoided calling her anything specific over the last few years.
We haven’t addressed the issue, but their family is weird when it comes to formal names. They call all their aunts & uncles by their first names and they all go by their middle names. It’s just confusing to me lol. I wouldn’t even know what name to call his mother!
Post # 16
I don’t call her anything….I totally thought I’d just call her whatever my FSIL called her. But then I found out in the five years since her wedding she’s never called them anything…so…I went with that. I thought if I started calling them something it would make it even more obvious and awkward that she doesn’t. So now we can both be awkward.