Post # 1
I work as a semi-professional singer and often am hired to sing at weddings, funerals and other events.
A friend of mine (more of an aquaintence, but I have done some Opera’s with) asked me to sing at his wedding. We discussed what type of music he wanted and then he put me in touch with his church organist who I am now dealing with.
A few weeks ago I got an invite to the wedding, plus one. I am happy that he has included me as a guest, instead of just having me come to the ceremony.
He asked me what my fee would be and I told him “friends don’t charge friends”, and that was that.
Now I am wondering what is expected from me as a gift? Typically, if I were charging him as a client my fee would be $125.00. So I am saving him that by not charging him. Should I still get him a gift? I don’t think I would have been invited to the reception (since we aren’t very close friends) if it weren’t for my part in the ceremony. But he did invite me plus one. I feel weird not bringing a gift, but also feel like I am already “gifting” him with something?
Post # 3
I would bring a gift card for them to go out to dinner or something like that.
Post # 4
I agree that you singing is plenty gift 🙂
Post # 5
I think your service is your gift, at least that’s how I would feel as a bride. We needed some help as well and our friends jumped at the chance to help us out rather than give a gift. Really, I think it’s better than a physical gift that will get put in a cupboard and forgotten… If you’re bringing a +1 though I would give them something small, like a card with a giftcard in it maybe (movie tickets + popcorn, or a favorite restaurant for a date night)…
Post # 6
I would take a nice card.
Post # 7
I think you singing is an amazing gift. If it were me I would still bring a gift- not anything crazy but maybe something sentimental like a beautiful picture frame for a picture. Or maybe get the lyrics of the song your are singing printed out on pretty paper ( staples, kinkos can help) and then frame it for them.
Post # 8
I think if for sure you’re brining a plus one then maybe get a smaller gift. I wouldn’t expect a gift but knowing how much per head costs that is nice they included a +1