- 7 years ago
DH surprised me over the weekend with an early b’day present. He bought me a pair of earrings. I was completely surprised (other than my e-ring, he never bought me jewelry (we’ve been together for 5 years!). I think he was waiting until we got married to start buying me jewelry (because he says it’s a really big deal). In any case – I am OVER THE MOON that he did this and think it was so sweet and romantic, etc.
The only problem is – I don’t really like the earrings! Gah! I’ve only started wearing earrings recently (I got them pierced earlier in the year, so I could wear earrings for the wedding).
They are a little bit of a drop earring, with really pretty detailing and a small diamond in the middle. He was really excited about the quality of the diamond, etc. and the detailing on the piece. He did say that if I didn’t like them, there was a ton of things I could take them back for (he had it made at the place we got our rings and my ering).
Months earlier, we had talked about what kind of earrings I wanted – and I told him I wanted diamond studs to wear every day – and there was also a pair of earrings I lusted over, each time we went into this jewelry. I’m actually surprised he didn’t get those; in talking about how he pulled off the surprise, it sounded like the jeweler talked him into the ones he purchased, saying the other ones were more special occasion) and the pair he bought were more unique than studs.
When DH gave them to me, he told me right away that I could take them back in and get anything I wanted. But, I’m finding myself feeling HORRIBLE for wanting to take them back and don’t want to hurt his feelings. I talked to a married friend about it and she said to keep them and not take them back. I just keep thinking about the money he shelled out for them and wishing I could get something I like more.
The only ‘out’ I feel I have, is that the earring clasp is really hard for me use (it’s the kind where the earring part is curved and then it has a ‘flip’ closure (so it stays put).
What do you think? Do I see what options I have for an exchange (and possibly hurt his feelings, by not liking his choice)? Or, do I just keep them and love them because of the sweet gesture?
They aren’t hideous or anything like that, I just don’t think they make quite the statement I think they should (given their price, etc.)