Post # 1
What would have been your ideal timeline? But in reality, what does your timeline actually look like?
Ideally, I would have liked to have gotten married at 24 (this year), spent 3 or 4 years child-free with SO, and then started TTC around 27.
If things go according to what SO has said, I’ll be 26, close to 27 when I get married. Because SO & I don’t want to be in our 50s and still raising children, we’ll probably start thinking about starting a family a year or two later. It was always important to me to have quite a bit of time with my husband before kids came along, but opportunity for that time is shrinking with each year that passes!
I know I’m still young, but I’m just looking at the big picture here.
Post # 3
I’m going to be 28 in a few weeks, but honestly I was ready to get married at 24. I wanted to at least be TTC right wround now but that wasn’t in the cards for me I guess. Based on my proposal to him and making our engagement official, our wedding should be sometime next spring/summer if all goes well. So that being said, since I have always wanted a good 3 to 4 years of my husband to myslef before having kids, I wouldnt be TTC until I’m 33/34. I’m not going to lie, that window is not ideal and I worry about our chances of concieving…so we may bump it up a couple of years, we’ll see!
Post # 4
My timeline would have been: Married at 23/24… Kids at 27/28
Did not quite work that way. I’m getting married when i’ll be 27 (26 now) and prob wont have kids till 29/30.
Post # 5
Mine would have been engaged last year (22), married next year (24).
Realistically it’s looking like engagement this year (23), married 2015 which MrWigeon seems ot think is reasonable (we’ll then be 25, which to be honest isn’t too bad at all!)
I’d like to think a family would be on the cards around 28/29 ish.
Post # 6
My ideal timeline, had I met the right guy at the right time, would be to get married around 25 and start having kids around 30.
Well, took me a bit longer to find him than I realized it would… 😉 We’re not engaged yet, but I have it on good authority that it’s not too far off. So, my hope is to be engaged at 30, married at 31, and TTC at 32 or 33.
Post # 7
@Aklove: pretty much the same here for me.
I’m 28, would have wanted to start TTC around my age now or 30 the latest but I’m not even getting MARRIED until I’m 30 so I won’t be ttc until 32-34 :/ I don’t want to rush into having kids but i think I have to at that age. he’s especially worried about it because he’s already 31.
Post # 8
Ideally I’d like to be taking my time, but in reality I didn’t meet him till I was 31. So I can’t even say what should have been or what I even wanted, because I’d sort of given up hope that I’d meet anyone. I’m 32 now.
That being said we’re moving along at a good clip and will be getting married in 2014 and formally engaged this Christmas. I wish I didn’t have to jump on the baby train immediately but that is in fact what we are going to do, because at that point I’ll be 34!
Post # 9
Ideally, get engaged this year (between sept-dec) so I’ll be 22 or 23 then married in late 2014/early 2015 so I’ll be 23-24 then children couple of years after like 27.
I’m roughly on for my ‘timeline’ engagment, depends what SO decides to propose, he roughly knows my ‘timeline’ though said wouldn’t influence his decision.
Post # 10
I’d love to have a ring on my finger before SO’s brothers wedding in September. I told him I don’t want to be at a wedding in NYC, around his family without a ring on my finger! I’m sure it’s coming soon…the rings been ordered and I have reason to believe he has it in his posession 🙂
Post # 11
I never had an “ideal timeline” in my head. I don’t think there’s a perfect time or age for marriage/kids, besides obviously not wanting to wait til I’m in my 40’s to start having kids. I know plenty of women who had miscarriages or prematures who didn’t make it, despite their being pregnant in their mid-20’s, who were able to carry to term when they were in their late 20’s/early 30’s.
I’m happy with the way things worked out–met DH when I was 18, engaged at 22, married at 23, now I’m 25 and probably going to wait to TTC til I’m 28 or 29. I was thrilled to marry the love of my life at a relatively young age, but now I have to endure years and years of people asking when I’m going to have kids, telling me I need to start TTC now/soon, assuming that our decision to wait until we have more money and better careers before having children means there are “problems” (thanks MIL!), etc. So maybe it’s not the worst idea to get married a little later, a little closer to TTC.
Post # 12
Taking my time 🙂
Married around 27/28
There was never another “timeline,” it’s just how my life is
Post # 13
THis is really a thought provoking question! My parents had me at 34/35 and I always told my mom I was going to have kids young so I wasn’t old like her… Well fast forward 20 years and holy cow, my parents did it right!! I thought I would meet my husband in college get married at 23/24 and have kids like 5 years later… That thought went out of my head pretty fast.
So it’s looking like I’ll be engaged at 29 (current age). Married shortly after turning 30. My SO wants to have kids like now, he’s 34 so he is ready. So he’d like to be TTC at 30 have kids at 31… I’m a little more wait a year, TTC at 31. You need some time to enjoy being married!! Ideally, I’d wait 2 years to have kids, but that would put me at 32 and we want two and that would be the second one at like 35-36.
Weird how things work right?
Post # 14
I always thought I’d be married shortly after college, then I thought at LEAST by the time I was 30 . . . but I didn’t meet my H until I was 37. We got married 11 months later when I was 38 – no point in waiting!
I was always unsure about having kids, so the fact that I didn’t meet him until I did kind of answered the question for me. Our lives just aren’t set up for a child, we can’t afford a bigger apartment, and I’m really scared of having a child with something wrong (especially since I’m 40 now). I know plenty of people have kids later in life, but I just can’t take the risk.
Post # 15
I think originally I wanted to have kids and get married later, but one day that just kind of suddenly changed and I wanted it a lot sooner. So I don’t know really what is ideal – what I thought I wanted before, or what I want now. I’d be happy to adopt, too, though it would be nice to have at least one of my own. I don’t want to have kids after 35, because I don’t know if I will have the energy to chase after them and have a career and such and because of the increased risk later, but we will see. Sometimes you can make the best plans possible, but life comes along and doesn’t care what plans you made. =)
Post # 16
I really wanted to be married by 26 and TTC by 28, but my engagement/relationship fell apart and now I just want to be happy. I do still want to start TTC no later than 29-30, but I’m trying not to focus on that and just enjoy my new relationship as it happens.