(Closed) What would I call her?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
598 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

What about an honor attendant??? I kinda made it up but I think it sounds official LOL

Post # 4
2067 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would just make the both Maid of Honor – and let your sister throw a fit (because it reallshouldn’t matter)

Post # 5
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Do you have to assign her a title? Just maybe pull her aside and tell her how you feel and that you consider her like a Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 6
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wow, I am so happy to see that I am not the only one with this issue! My little sister was going to be my Maid of Honor until recently.. Once I realized that she was irritated that the spotlight was on me while dress shopping, planning, etc, I knew I had to do something… But, luckily for me, she got pregnant, and decided to step down before I had to have that uncomfortable conversation and potentially losing her from the wedding party altogether.


My “back up” maid of honor gladly took over. Before all this went down though, I was just still calling her just my bridesmaid, but I had talked to her and my other bridesmaid (I only have three attendants) and told them that if something were to happen, she would be my Maid of Honor. I know this doesn’t help your “title” situation but I thought I would share my story so you know you aren’t alone! haha

Post # 7
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@KatyElle:  I agree with you on this one; I have a Maid and a Matron of Honour (my maid of honour isn’t old enough to sign the regester, and had to chose my Matron of honour out of obligation), but I have one very special bridesmaid whom would have been my maid of honour under other circumstances. I had her over one night and told her how much she means to me and I let her know just how special she is and thanked her for everything that she has done. She knows how much I value her and to her the title of Maid of honour is just that, a title, she knows I love her just the same as always. 

Post # 8
11342 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I had two matrons of honor, and neither was upset that the other had this same role.  I’ve been to — and I’ve been an honor attendant IN — more than one wedding that had more than one honor attendant. Your sister really should not be upset over this.

You can have your sister stand closest to you in the wedding, and even have her be the one to make the toast at the wedding, while still having a second maid of honor.  Perhaps you can give her some other duties, as well as the title, to ensure that she feels special, too. (For example, when you turn to your Fiance to say your vows, one Maid/Matron of Honor can hold your bouquet, while the other fixes your dress, etc.)

Post # 9
1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I was torn and ultimately made my best friend my Maid/Matron of Honor, and my sister, who is my only sibling, was one of three bridesmaids.  This is because my best friend is really my rock, plus she is excellent at taking charge and executing on tasks.  My sister is a lovely person but she plays helpless sometimes.  E.g., she once instant-messaged me to ask if I knew if it was raining.

I felt a little guilty about my decision at first, but then my wedding almost had to be cancelled thanks to Hurricane Irene.  My best friend played a major role in saving the situation.  She did everything from find two possible alternate venues to bake cupcakes because we didn’t have dessert at the last minute.  She even brought us tanks of gas for the generator because there was no power at the venue for a few days.  I was really glad that she got the recognition of being Maid/Matron of Honor because she fricking earned it.

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