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FI’s brother is getting married in September. He and his fiance have only been engaged since April, but his fiance’s father is terminally ill, and obviously, they want to get married so that he can be there. They are having a tiny wedding – like 15 people, all immediate family (parents, siblings, grandparents only).
What would you get for a couple in this situation? Obviously, they’re not registering for anything, due to the size of the wedding. I feel like money is weird and impersonal – not only is this FI’s brother, but his fiance is going to be one of my bridesmaids at our wedding next year.
Any suggestions? They have already lived together for a year and a half or so, and both have good jobs, so I don’t know of anything they really want/need for their home. We want to get them something really nice and thoughtful, but also consider that we’re both graduate students and don’t have a large income right now. I am leaning towards something “experiental” – a gift certificate to a restaurant, a gift ceriticate for an experience or class they’d be interested in. I especially want to get them something special because they won’t be having the traditional white wedding, and want them to feel appreciated.
Post # 2
annb9: Can your FI ( or you) speak to his brother and get some ideas? Just because they haven’t registered doesn’t mean there isn’t something they are secretly hoping for.
Post # 3
I love your idea of a gift certificate because in essence what you’re gifting them with is time together, but what about going a step further. This may be cost prohibitive, but what if you gave them something to do for each month of their first married year? A “year of date nights”? It doesn’t have to be expensive… you could get some groupons or even just instructions for different date nights? For example: “October 2014- enjoy a day at the xyz farm going through the corn maze! Don’t forget to pick up a pumpkin while you’re there to carve together! Here are directions to get there…”. You’ve done all the research so they don’t have to think of something… They get to pick the date that works for them and it can be a surprise each month when they open to discover their date? (Here’s a picture from Pinterest, but you could obviously make the gift prettier looking).
ETA: I’m making something similar for DH for our anniversary in 2 weeks, so if you need any ideas, let me know!
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ruby26: this is such a great idea! Please share any advice!
Post # 5
Allyg: I found this poem to explain…
I have a little gift for you
That will last the whole year through
In this binder/basket/packages love awaits
In the form of 12 fun dates.
Each month you’ll find a different one
Already planned, prepared, and done.
Just find a day that you can go
And watch the love and romance grow!
Here is the list of things that I’m doing with DH, but he’s not into spending money on date nights, and we’re trying to save money, so most of these are free or really cheap. You might want to do extra research about what is happening each month in the area they live in to make it more personalized. I don’t know where you are, so some of these might not be possible where you are. I just googled a lot of free/cheap date night ideas and took mine from there! You know the couple better than I do, so consider these but think of how you make it special for them 🙂
I really like this because I think the couple will truly appreciate it. Some people (myself included/especially!) get stuck in a rut of what a “date night” should be, so even just providing them ideas of different ways for them to spend time together is a sweet gesture and takes the planning and creative part out of it!
- Stargazing. Pack a blanket, pillows and food, and go somewhere to see the stars. Do some research before and print out constellations for your area and time of year for them to find.
- Journey through a corn-maze together. Research corn mazes near their house and provide the directions on how to get there?
- Pack a picnic dinner and enjoy an outdoor movie…even if it’s on a laptop in your backyard! Maybe a redbox gift card for this one?
- Go for a test drive. Head to your nearest car dealership and test drive your dream car.
- Visit a local festival together. Again, maybe research what is near where they live in a particular month
- Make homemade pizzas with wild toppings. Grocery gift card with this one?
- Draw each other’s portraits…wait for it…with your non-dominant hand! Laugh at the results. Then frame ‘em! All you need for this one is to provide crayons and white paper.
- Create a map of all the places you’ve been together. And then write a wish list of all the places you still want to visit. There are cool scratch-off maps on Amazon for $12ish that might be cute to include as part of this date night.
- Get a Groupon for a special night out on the town together. You can usually nab some pretty sweet deals! Maybe purchase the groupon for them?
- Mini-golf never gets old. Either a gift certificate for the mini-golf or at least directions to the mini-golf place.
- Food Crawl: enjoy an appetizer at one place, the main course at another, and the dessert at a third place! I’m excited about this one with my hubby. You could select the restaurants and make the menu for them, and maybe provide a giftcard to one of the places. IE “Start at X Bar for suchandsuch appetizers, then walk to Y Restaurant and order the something, and finish off the night with dessert from Z!” You might even research a particular night– some places have 1/2 price appetizers on certain nights so instead of getting a giftcard for the restaurant/bar, you could instruct them to go to a particular place on a specific night for them to take advantage of the reduced price!
- Go to a local orchard or farm and load up some bushels of fruit to bring home! Again, just research where they should go for what fruit in what month.
- Hit up the bowling alley…lowest score wins! try different styles like only using your opposite hand, “granny” style, eyes closed, etc. Provide directions for challenges for each of the games they play. You can find ideas for this online too.
- Do a special photo shoot of the two of you! Capture a moment in time. You could offer to do this for them on their 1st anniversary?
Good luck! I hope I haven’t suggested too many expensive things for you!
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ruby26: woah! great idea! i love this and can’t wait to copy you!
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