- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I don’t really know where to put this, since none of the categories seem to apply, so beehive is as good a place as any.
My FI and I are thinking of calling it off… not the marriage, just the wedding.
Last night we sat down and talked and both of us are questioning if this is something we’re think is worth the money. Since we started planning a lot of our potential guests have complained about the date being inconvenient. Some have even asked us to move it “because that would make things easier”.
Then there is the child issue. We only want three specific children at our wedding, but a lot of people seem to think it’s all or nothing. I really don’t want to alienate my friends, but at the same time, they have a lot of (badly behaved) children between them, and quite frankly we don’t want our wedding to turn into a children’s party.
Then we have the bitching about the food. “Soup is inappropriate for a wedding”, “You’re serving venison? That makes you a hypocrite” (I’m vegetarian, my FI is not.) “I’m not eating Bambi” (fine, there will be several vegetarian options) “But I don’t like veggie food, can’t I just have chicken?”. Repeat ad nauseum.
Right now, it feels like everyone is treating the wedding as a huge inconvenience, which was not quite what we had hoped.
Finally, my FSIL has her due date on our wedding day which means that she, her partner and my my future Step MIL (who I adore) will not be coming. My other FSIL has expressed some regret that she will not be able to be there for her sister, and come to think of it, so do my FI and I.
This is the final junction, because we’re supposed to send out the invitations tomorrow, and after that it’ll be difficult to cancel.
We’ve thought about just eloping now, but we are both rather attached to our date. It is our anniversary and we have considered just having a private wedding (just the two of us) on that day, but will that seem offensive? Like “we’re getting married on this day, but you can’t come?”
Any thoughts? Should we just suck it up and have the wedding as planned? Elope now? Have a private wedding during Christmas, just him and me? Something else?