Post # 1
What would you do if your SO claimed he was so religious he could not have sex but still got oral sex from 1 other person who was a “hook-up” and you as his GF?
Is this hypocritical? Is oral sex?
This is what I am going through right now. No vaginal sex because of his religion. I do not resent him but I like having structure and this seems wishy washy. We have talked about it and I told him I wanted to restrain from oral as well now. I just don’t see the logic because don’t most people who wait til marriage to have sex also abstain from oral?
Post # 3
@lesliesmithson: Yaaa. To me, that’s like saying he doesn’t want to eat cake before the wedding, but is ok with eating cupcakes.
Does the oral sex go both ways? If it’s at least making you both happy, then I don’t see a huge issue with it (other than really not being pure abstinence), but if it’s one way only and you’re not happy with that, then I agree with your choice to stop than until the wedding too.
Post # 4
@lesliesmithson: There’s no loophole for oral just because vaginal is against his religion. Keep your mouth off his ding dong until he’s willing to reciprocate!
Post # 5
I do consider oral sex to be sex, but I know that not everyone feels that way. I know that oral sex usually leads to things going further, so that could make things go too far if you’re trying to wait. If I give SO a BJ that’s not usually all we do, so yeah..