- 7 years ago
So a quick background..My FMIL and I have had a rocky past with her telling my fiancee that she did not like me, etc. even after having known her for almost 20 years. We have moved past that now, but it is hard for me to ever forget it. Now that we are getting married in a few months, her only concerns have been how many of her friends she can invite and what she is going to wear. Fine by me.
Because we are having a destination wedding and paying for it ourselves (our choice), I was planning to host a welcome dinner/bbq at the lake we are getting married by the night before the wedding, as well as a thank you breakfast the morning after the wedding. My Dad has stepped in and asked if he could host the breakfast, which I thought was very generous of him…not for the financial aspect, but more for the fact that he is taking a to-do off my plate. His mom heard this and now asked to pay for the dinner on friday night, but instead of having a BBQ, she wants to order pizza. Again, it’s not about the money, but more the help with the preparation would be appreciated and she is not offerig that. She has yet to talk to me about this and has gone behind me to discuss with my fiancee. Personally, and I don’t mean to offend anyone cuz to each her own, I think having a “pizza party” the night before my wedding is tacky. Plus, people will be driving in that evening and I would rather be providing freshly prepared food rather than a stale piece of pizza. I am also including a place for RSVP for the friday night dinner on my rsvp and told my fiancee, who is on the fence about what to do, that if I were a guest, I would not go out of my way to come have pizza the night before.
I know this is a very minor issue, but wanted to know if this would bother anyone else too or am I over-thinking this and should just move on and pick my battles more carefully?