Post # 1
Recently, my SO & I have been talking wedding plans, dates, rings, etc. We haven’t purchased rings or even gotten engaged yet.
The thing is, I am moving back to my home state in Jan. to finish school. It will take me about 2 yrs to finish with my Bachelors degree (something I have been working at & really WANT to finish). It’s important to me to finish for a better future. I do have an option to transfer schools and stay close to my SO. The only thing I’m having a hard time with is the fact that I would pay $2000 more each semester & I’m not sure if all of my credits would transfer.Since I pay for my own schooling and am under 24, FAFSA uses my parents tax info so all I can get are loans.
If we were to marry in 2011, I could transfer and possibly be able to get FAFSA. If we married in 2013, I would be finished with school. What would you do? I just really need other thoughts. Thanks
Post # 3
Personally for me..i would finish school. 2 years really isn’t that long of a time to wait. Besides you would be in school so it would FLY by.
I would talk about getting engaged first, finish school and then get married. Will you be living at home? Save $$ that way for a house or money towards your wedding.
I would also wait about transferring bc something could happen at the last minute and a credit(s) might not transfer…little stuff like that happens all the time.
Marriage will be there in 2 years…finish school at home…just my opinion 🙂
Post # 4
I agree, I would finish school first, save money and then decide what you guys want to do after that whether it be buy a house first or get married first.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t be living at home.
Thank you for the advice. Somedays I think the same way…just finish school. But then other days it just seems like a long time. haha! Right now the plan is to finish school, but my SO is a little aprehensive about it because we will be 10+ hrs away and he has never done LDR
Post # 6
Skype, email, phone calls. It’s hard in a LDR…my BF lived in CA for a year while I was in MA. We were both able to travel back and forth once a month before I moved out there. It was hard, won’t lie about that..but LDR’s do work.
Make plans for any long weekens/holidays. You could always meet half way and spend the weekend in some cute little hotel too.
Post # 7
@Ms Sassy Yeah I’ve done a LD before. We talked on the phone every night. I ended up moving to be with him after a year of LD (2 yrs together), in the end it didn’t work out and then I met my current BF. Crazy how life works.
Post # 8
I think finish school, don’t transfer. Even if you get married early and get the FAFSA $, it’s still more expensive per semester. Wedding planning and finishing your degree are both huge undertakings. It would be a lot to take on at the same time.
You’ll be so busy finishing school the LDR will be OK. Better to have fun weekend trips, etc, where you can enjoy your BF! Rather than the day-to-day of him feeling like you’re ignoring him since you’ll be busy with schoolwork, etc. And you have the summers off too, right? I agree the 2 years will fly by.
Post # 9
I wish I would get summers off….to finish in the two years, I will be taking 18 credits each semester (fall, spring, summer). I do agree that the time will fly by. And he knows that finishing school is high on my to do list. But I’m also an impatient person…haha…I get an idea and until I figure it out, it consumes my mind.
Post # 10
If you don’t live with your parents, you do not have to put them on your FAFSA. Its only if you live with them that you do
Post # 11
Not anymore there are only a few ways you can become listed as independant…believe me, I’ve looked into this for quite some time over the years because I have been trying to get pell grants since I graduated high school
To become independant by FAFSA standards you must be one of the following:
- Be born before January 1, 1987
- At the beginning of the 2010 -2011 school year, you will be working on a master’s or doctorate program
- Married at the time of filing your 2010-2011 FAFSA
- Have children who receive more than half of their support from you
- You have a legal dependent other than a spouse, and you provide more than half of that person’s support
- You are currently serving on active duty in the United States Armed Forces for purposes other than training
- You are a veteran of the United States Armed Forces
- When you were age 13 or older, both of your parents were deceased, you were in foster care, or you were a dependent/ward of the court
- As of today, you are an emancipated minor as determined by a court in your state of legal residence
- As of today, you are in legal guardianship as determined by a court in your state of legal residence
- At any time on or after July 1, 2008, your high school or school district homeless liaison determined that you were an unaccompanied youth who was homeless
- At any time on or after July 1, 2008, the director of an emergency shelter program funded by the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development determined that you were an unaccompanied youth who was homeless
- At any time on or after July 1, 2008, the director of a runaway or homeless youth basic center or transitional living program determined you were an unaccompanied youth who was homeless or were self-supporting and at risk of being homeless
Post # 12
then am guessing ur in the very early 20s? in which case i would also finish school first
Post # 13
@bells I’ll be 22 in November
Post # 14
Tough situation for sure. Couple thoughts:
– Look into transferring, and at least have all of the facts. If you are serious, the extra $2000 (a year?) will not matter in the long run. If you are okay with living together, you will save that in shared personal expenses.
– Look into your tax options. Clearly you are a good researcher, so you can probably find good info on the tax credits available to those seeking an education. While it isn’t the same as a grant, you will get cash back with your tax return.
– Go back to school. It is the best thing for both of you, no matter what happens.
Post # 15
@monitajb I’m definately going back to school! haha! I’ve put it off for the last year or so because I wasn’t sure on my major. Now that I am, I just want to be done! Thanks for the input. I know in the end everything will work out
Post # 16
Keep in mind that while getting married would get you independent status from your parents, you would then have to consider your husband’s income. I have known too many people who lost the grants they already had when they got married because they didn’t realize the difference it would make.