(Closed) What would you do?

posted 7 years ago in Money
  • poll: What would you do?
    Give my FI the money to buy the MP3 player since he DID sell his stuff : (18 votes)
    62 %
    Explain to my FI how important it is we save for the wedding and put the money away : (11 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    you’re not losing money, since it’s money you wouldn’t  have without selling the stuff. what about just getting an ipod shuffle if he wants to use it while working out? imo, they’re better for running and they’re only $50.

    Post # 4
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    7175 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I’d get the MP3 player… even though you guys talked about it, clearly he had other things in mind.  Even though you made money, that amount isn’t going to make or break you, when you really think about it.  Perhaps call a truce, tell him you understand how he could want the MP3 player and then use it as a springboard to talk about other ways to cut costs until the wedding.  I understand being super stressed out about every penny – I was the one that was watching every penny while DH had his own method of spending… but we somehow came to an understanding through planning.  But, in a nutshell, don’t get into a huge battle over $100!

    Post # 5
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    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    FI and I have an agreement that we will not buy anything new or expensive until after the wedding. we are only a month away! but we have been doing this for months..we decided that after the wedding we would each get $500 to get something we want…he needs new work clothes and i need new bras among other things so i think we are going shopping after the honeymoon.

    maybe you can make an agreement like that? no spending till after the wedding? its not that far away for you – plus hopefully you will gett some envelopes with some $$ and then you wont feel so guilty about buying something you want.

    Post # 7
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Since when is a screen necessary for working out?

    Not to mention, the USB port style ones have a longer life than the screen-based ones (which are essentially mini computers).

    Post # 9
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    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Wanting is nice when you can afford it but it’s not so feasible when you have financial goals you are saving for together. So I’d just evaluate the current situation and see if it’s that tight or not. Or offer to get it as a wedding present. Or get an off brand mp3 player….or see about a used one. etc

    Post # 10
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    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    you could look for a refurbished mp3 player. they’re a lot cheaper than new and have been tested/updated to make sure they work.

    Post # 12
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    14503 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would check woot.com or dailysteals.com.  They only put up one item per day, but we order from them all the time and they always have decent Mp3 players on there.  I can understand where the FH is coming from and where you are coming from.  This may be one of those things you can compromise on.  I don’t think $100 is worth an argument over.  I would just talk to him and ask him, if you get the Mp3 player now what is the plan to come up with the $100 we need for next week. 

    Does his cell phone not have a Mp3 player in it?  I use mine at the gym all the time.

    Post # 13
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    7152 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Will you be able to afford it as his wedding gift from you? Maybe you can get it then.

    Post # 14
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    56 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I think you should talk to him about priorities and what you had understood the was going to be used for. Then ask him what he thought the money was going to be used for. You guys should be on the same page about the wedding.

    Ultimately, I would leave it up to him to choose.

    Post # 15
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    14306 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    If it was agreed on that the stuff was being sold in order to make money for the wedding, then he should stick to that.  Just one exception easily leads to another, and another… stick to the savings plan and don’t be guilty about it.

    Post # 16
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    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    You said he was selling them because he wanted new ones, but you say he knew you were selling them for money for the wedding.  That is a tough one!  If you need the money for the wedding, I guess he will have to wait, but if it is really important to him RIGHT NOW, I guess he needs it in a way.  I would try to determine what the money has to go towards.

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