Post # 1
So I am really hoping this doesn’t happen to Fiance and I on our wedding but who knows. Our friends recently got married. A little backstory: We have a couple in our group of friends only because the guys are all friends with the husband. NO ONE likes his wife. She is the meanest and most arrogant person ever. She took her wedding ring off at our other friends bachelorette party and told every guy she met that she was single. Then left while everyone was at the bar and took a cab home with the friend she brought with her. She then proceeded to tell everyone that she paid for ENTIRE bach party. This friend she brought with her, well she brought her to the wedding too. This friend was not invited. The girl who brought her, her husband was in the wedding. Anyway, this uninvited person not only came to the ceremony but to the reception and ate, drank and what not and didn’t even bring a card. She then tried going home with a married groomsman and this girl is married herself. Her hubby had the decency to stay home. I would be pissed if this happened at our wedding.
Is there anything I can do if someone shows up uninvited with an invited guest? Can I ask them to leave? We do have to pay for a security guard since there is a full bar so I suppose the guard could say something.
Post # 3
I’d say have the “greeter” at the wedding be informed of this “wife and friend” and once the wife arrives with guest (if there is a guest) to politely decline. “Hello, welcome, and you are?… I’m sorry this is only for guests who have been invited. Or something. Basically just have the greeter or escort decline the friend.
Post # 4
Her husband is part of the wedding party, right? If you’re letting everyone else bring their spouse, I would be very upfront with the groomsman. I’m sure he would naturally assume his wife would be invited, too.
Post # 5
I think the simple solution is to have your Fiance tell the husband that his wife can’t bring a guest to your wedding like he did to your other friends wedding. If you want to be extra certain, ask if your venue has a ‘greeter’ like a PP suggested to make sure people are on the seating chart and if not are asked to leave.
Post # 6
I would tell the couple ahead of time that it’s just them!
Post # 7
i would just tell the husband ahead of time that his wife’s friend is NOT invited.
Post # 8
Every wedding I’ve been to has had an uninvited guest… or twelve. Haha! But seriously, one of my friends got married and this guy came who was NOT invited. None of us really got along with him. Well, he caught the garter and was in a few of her wedding photos with the girl who caught the bouquet!
I’m not sure what you do when they come uninvited. Most of my friends have just let it go and talked about how annoying it was later. I wouldn’t say anything at my wedding. I haven’t figured out catering yet, but if they make just enough for my INVITED guests then I will tell them to leave. If I was going to be charged extra I would be like, get out. But other than that I would not want to cause a scene.