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If you go, you need to be ready for her to try to control you again. Honestly, I don't know how to prepare for that. I've been dealing with my sister for 26 years and I still can't get through a conversation with her without wanting to bang my head against a wall.
If you feel confident that you can communicate clearly, directly to the salesperson, what you're looking for, and if you feel confident that you can say "no" to your mom, then maybe you should go. But her comment about being a brat is just such an unpleasant thing to say, I'm not sure it would be good for you.
That free wedding dress wouldn't be free. You've already put in a downpayment of feeling awful. You can either try to recoup, or cut your losses.
I think it's not so much that she's trying to control you, but more concerned about you being controlled. In your last post about the dress you mentioned she was upset because you said your fiance wouldn't like that much cleavage. I think your mom is concerned that it's not really YOU who wants that but him. Not saying this is really the case at all but it sounds like that is her worry. Plus, if she's a fashionable girl she's probably worried that you'll look frumpy or ruin the look of the dress. She's probably never seen how well they can alter these things to look like they were made that way. Go with her, don't lock her out just because you have different tastes. And people who pay for things do get to attach strings, if you don't want them then you can't accept the gift.
Can you ask her on the phone if you will be "allowed" to modify a dress that you feel shows too much cleavage? Or have any other modifications done for that matter. If she says yes, then go. If she says no, say no thanks and don't go.
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I mentioned that the other day I went with mother to look at dresses for the wedding. I already have one but it's kinda of dated and she had offered to go buy me a dress since the first one I had I had bought on my own.
We went and looked, I found a dress I was head over heels for, however it needed a little added fabric to the cleavage area. My mom said she would buy me the dress if I didn't alter it in any way, I was heartbroken, and told her no.
Yesterday she asked if I wanted to go to another bridal dress shop and see if we could find another dress on Saturday as she's leaving on vacation at the beginning of next week. I told her I would think about it. I'm terrified that I will find a dress I love and then she'll say no again because almost every dress needs some sort of alterations (I even told her I would pay to add the extra fabric).
So said she was very very hurt that I was being such a brat in the bridal shop by not letting her get me the dress the other day but the cleavage was down to the top of my bra. I didn't feel comfortable in that. And she kept telling me last night that I need to not try to look like Mother Theresa. I can't help it that she raised me to be a modest woman and that she can't respect that now. I'm not trying to be difficult or a brat. I found the most inexpensive dresses. She was upset that I wanted to get a dress with straps and add more fabric. I knew that strapless can't have fabric added or it would look funny but adding fabric to a halter or a dress with straps and a deep v can be done.
What should I do? Should I say yes to go tomorrow to this other dress shop and hope my heart doesn't get broken again? Or should I say no and wear the dress I already have and tell her sorry but you hurt my feelings? My relationship with my mother has always been on the rocks. She has a hard time respecting me. I wish this didn't have to be such a silly thing.