- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 2012
Okay bees, I need to get this off my chest, and some serious advice as to what to do would be very much appreciated.
My wedding is TWENTY THREE days away. My RSVP date was 1st of September 2011 (okay maybe a tad early but we really wanted to get a feel for numbers so we could still invite the friends we had to cut for numbers purposes first time around) We gave everyone follow up calls but a couple of parties couldn’t tell us at that time. With 4 months ahead, I could deal with that, but I had Future Mother-In-Law calling monthly and checking up for an answer.
In december, Fi’s family friend had replied yes to 2, but didnt state whether it would be the mother/father, or father/son, or mother/son as they had all 3 been invited.
Now that I’m doing the seating chart, I get Fi to get in touch, it turns out they’re now bringing 3 people! The mother, the son, and a foriegn cousin that IS A COMPLETE STRANGER to me, fi, and fi’s family. Whats with that?! I hinted that that was super awkward, we’d already put them down for two and your cousin wasnt invited… but alas, plane tickets are already booked.
So Fi and I are pretty peed off because
a) we had cut friends because we gave those seats to them and they left us in the dark for 3 months.
b) My wedding is not tourist destination!
c) They weren’t planning on telling us, we had to ask for specific names for the seating chart and thats when the beans split!
So Fi says he’d rather not have any of them come, since they have clearly violated our intimate wedding celebrations. I’m on the fence because personally, I really don’t want him the cousin there, but I don’t want to start a battle Future Mother-In-Law will have to fight.
What should we do? What would you do? Also, if he comes do you think I’m rude to ask him to not be in the big group photo?