(Closed) What would you do?

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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159 posts
Blushing bee

hopefully his life will settle down and he will get in touch.  all you can do is keep trying.  i hope he gets back to you.

Post # 4
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Uh oh, I’m sorry!  I would give the guy a little longer — it’s probably hard for him to process wedding stuff when he’s going through the middle of a divorce (obviously, that’s not your fault!).  Hopefully, he will respond and let you two know either way, but if you get to the point of no return, I would say move on without him.  And if he happens to contact you after that point, let him know that you couldn’t hold off on planning any longer but you would still be honored if he would attend the wedding.  Good luck!

Post # 5
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3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Do you have an understanding male friend/brother/cousin willing to "stand in" in case? 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Eeks! I would wait a little longer also and in the meantime think of a backup, as in someone else to fill his spot. I am sure he is going through a lot but I wonder why it has been so hard for him to just give your FI a quick phone call back. Maybe he is overwhelmed and looking for the right time to back out of the bridal party? If you guys get in touch with him, you might want to leave that option open since he is going through so much.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would leave him yet another voicemail and send an email saying something like this: I understand you are going through a lot in your life right now and I wish you nothing but the best. When I asked you to be a groomsman I was sincere and would still like for you to stand with me on my wedding day. Since I have not heard back from you in X months, I am assuming things have changed and you would no longer like to be in the wedding party. If I am wrong, please write back or call me by X Date, otherwise I will gladly send you an invitation as a guest. All the best, X.

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