- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Im attending a batchelorette tonight. It was planned last min by the Bridal Party. the Bride had gotten me involved because I tend to be more organized, I was fine with that. She wasn’t making the plans and I didn’t want her to get involved. But she needed to know that everything was all set because her wedding is next week. One less worry. There was a little drama with the shower, whatever. Then came the Batch… her SISTER planned a dinner cruise. Which comes out to about $200/pp. WAY too much, but beyond that point the bride gets SEA SICK!! Wicked bad. That was not what the bride wanted at all. So we finally talked her sister out of it last wed. (keep in mind, Batch is TODAY). and they found a restaurant for people to go to and have dinner/drinks. Texts were sent bla bla bla.. I stayed out of this part..
I got the text we are going to a CRAZY expensive restaurant in the city. It runs about $125-$150/per plate and drinks are about $12-$15. Plus the invite said the dress code was “formal gowns”. Yeah I have a few of those laying around.
I don’t have $200+ to throw at a Batch party. The shower was yesterday, that cost me about $175 in gift/I made food for it (again not in the BP)/ and gas. Plus the wedding is next weekend. Another couple hundred in Gift/gas. I want to be there for her. I love her, and would do anything for her. But I have been burned before (not by her). She is in my Bridal Party next year and none of this was her decision or planning. All she asked for was a dinner/drinks and that as many of her friends as possible be there.
My saving grace, one of my Groomsmen has a buddy who waiters there on occasion. He called and asked if he could work there tonight. (He rotates between 3 restaurants). Waiter said sure, and he would take care of me and watch out for me. (I have met him a few times before… great guy). So here is my question… What Would YOU do? And why? I am really ok with any option. I just don’t wait to let the Bride down. Since it was planned SO late on a holiday weekend only 6 of us are going (4 of whom are Bridal Party and 1 other friend) This is out of 50 ppl invited.
a: Let waiter split out my food and pay my check seperately (because he will takes care me) and chip in for the bride.
b: Order no food and just have a few drinks and chip in for the bride.
c: Pay full price for my meal (putting financial strain on myself because he can’t take care of everyone, it is a favor to my Fiance and his groomsman) and chip in for the bride.
d: Other option (please explain).