- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
Although this situation is resolved, I want to get your opinion. I used to be a very jeaous person, but found I pretty much have it under control. (For the most part, lol).
Back story: My ex and I broke up, and I was all butt hurt over it, and started dating a guy that had just broken up with his gf. We both knew it was rebound time. Then we fell madly in love over just a few weeks, and almost ran away and got married. He even told his ex he was still in contact with that we were going to. But we didn’t, and I met his best bud, and he and I then started dating (and are to this day). But since they all were good friends, my bf is (well, was) still good friends with that guys ex.
Fast forward. So he started to talk to her again, just here and there, claiming that even though they never spoke much, they were best friends. Well, she kept leaving him myspace comments, ending with xoxoxo ****(name). I soon got tired of it, and asked her nicely to stop. She did. I had no problem with them being friends, but I felt uncomfortable with that. Then, one day, she wrote him an email about a “dream” she had with him in it, and that she wanted him to call her so she can tell him. That she didn’t want to type it, but TELL HIM what happened in it.
And all in all (long story short) you are probably guessing the same thing I guessed when I read that email…and you are CORRECT. It was a dream of inappropriate nature. That she felt she needed to discuss with my boyfriend.
I wrote her a few emails, saying their friendship was important to me, but that I thought it was inappropriate and expected either an explanation or apology. After three emails to her, (read) I still had not received one. Only saw her then emial him about going out for drinks when she comes to town, “if [my name] says it’s okay’. But it was written sarcastically.
What would you do? I then forbade him to talk to her. (He was too scared to start up a convo about it, even if she called him. He always pretended all was well.) So I put my foot down, and finally emailed her saying I was putting my foot down, and to not contact my boyfriend anymore, and that it wasn’t my fault that all the guys she likes would rather be with me. (That was mean, but it was true since she started speaking to my bf a month after she and her guy broke up). She then proceeded to write me a nasty email.
Do you think I was wrong…or right? He thought I had overreacted. What’s your thought?