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I agree with most, it is your FMIL and she is very proud of her food and thinks she is being really nice to you. I would say, it won't hurt to eat just a little tiny bit of everything.

Sticking to the fruit might be OK, but consider that you might offend your FMIL and that may be worse that just sucking it up for a few hours and taking in a mass amout of calories.

But at the same time, lying and saying you are not hungry or don't feel well won't go very far because you would have to do that your whole married life. Have you asked your FH to help? Maybe he could speak with her?

I do alot of cooking, and it is a special way that I should people I love them - I get in the kitchen and make a big meal. She might be the same way?

Good Luck!

<-----ditto I do too Corgi. It is terrible isn't it?!?!

I would just bring something that you would enjoy and tell her I thought you guys would love to try my favorite recipe or something of that nature. Even if you try the food now she will believe that you liked it for future reference and probably end up making it again. Never ending cycle. :)

It may not be the popular opinion, but I think you should eat at least something they've made (besides fruit). Most people cry "Bullsh*t", at least in their heads, when a girl pulls a "I'm sensitive to rich foods" line...at least in my family. I think that you should just take a small portion of something, and then fill your plate with the fruit you can eat. Eat a little bit of the rich food, all of your fruit, and I'm sure no one will bat an eyelash that you didn't actually eat all of the rich foods. That's just my opinion. I just don't want anyone's feelings to be hurt. Cooks are extremely sensitive (at least the ones in my family).

Mr. Bee: Its not a cultural thing fo sho. Everyone in my family is extremely sensitive when people do not partake in food. I stick to a diet of fresh foods usually, BUT whenever I am at an event where family has cooked rich foods, I eat at least a couple bites of something. A couple bites won't kill you, and it pleases those that are nice enough to have the get-together. Honestly, its not worth hurting someone's feelings, if you think that's what would happen with this event you're going too.

Yeah I think you should just take a small portion of food and fill up the rest of your plate with fruit.  Take a tiny bit of egg and they'd have toast right?? toast can't be that bad?? What about yoghurt? What do they make for breakfast that's so fatty??  Maybe you could just take it and push it around ur plate for a while, secretly shove it into your fiance's plate when no one's looking, or cover it up with banana skin, or your napkin, or pretend you're clearing up your fiance's plate and quickly put his on top of yours and then be helpful and go wash some dishes including yours and put it down the disposal!!!  and yes, I'm guilty of doing all those things LOL

hahaha Yeah I know politeness can come back to bite you....I have pretended to like a few of FMIL's things, and then I ended up having to eat it again.  I know exactly how you feel.....But let me tell you, after 12 years of eating at her house, I ended up liking SOME of the things.  But she does things like, not put the mayonnaise in the fridge, she keeps it in the cupboard!!! I'm sooo against eating anything with mayo at her house.  Anyway it's gotten to point where they know when I don't like stuff.  They always eat this DISGUSTING fishy smelling fish that's like fried until there's no moisture left and then salted and picked apart ...EEEWWWW they KNOW I HATE that.  But I'd take a few bites of hashbrown not to hurt her feelings.  Maybe u can dig off only hashbrown and not get the creamy sausage bit??? 

Ahhh girl, I feel your pain.  My FILs think I'm a freak because I don't like their (crappy, terrible, awful ... need a bust out my thesaurus for more words here?) cooking, which is all very old school AND because when we go there for dinner I don't pile my plate completely full, I eat the correct amount for my size, which for the record is much smaller than all the rest of them, and my 6'4" fiance. 

Like @ejs, they now think I'm a fussy eater and too good for their food.  Which I'm really not, it's just that they make basically the same thing every time we go there and I don't like it. And like you, bringing my own dish is basically out of the question.  

So -- rock and hard place.  My strategy has been to basically eat before we go, take small amounts of everything and just suck it up.  At this point, they already think I'm a snot, and I'm not going to eat a 15 oz piece of crappy meat (not a vegetarian -- just a snob about my cuts of steak -- that I will own up to).  We only have to eat dinner there about once a month, and it's a small price to pay to keep the relative peace between the FILs and the fiance.  Sorry I don't have an actual strategy for you, but I do feel your pain.   

Eat before you get there, and pick at what you can.  My FMIL makes the MOST unhealthy food on the planet and I can't do it anymore.  I gained 10lbs in the last year.

What's even more gross is that we do take home the leftovers, and when it comes out of the fridge the fat is congealed.  EW!  It gets tossed, but she would never eat it anyways. 

 I really think the best thing to do is bring a dish to share with everyone, especially if you've eaten these brunches before. My husband's family loves foods that I don't care for (like beets - yuck), so the first time they serve it to me, I eat just a few bites and after that I just decline (especially if it's serve yourself).

It's so wierd that food is so touchy. I agree that you want to be polite and recognize that for many families food is love. I disagree that you should pretend you like the food or lie about it. If you don't like it, you don't like it, but you can still be respectful and grateful during the meal. A lot of the time it's not the actual food that's important, but the chance to spend time together while you eat.

So bring something for everyone to share that shows what you really like to eat, have fruit, and maybe look around for something she made that you don't mind eating every once in a while. And make sure you say how much you enjoy visiting with them :)