- 9 years ago
I have been stalking these boards for quite some time now! You all give great advice so I was hoping there was a chance you may be able to toss some my way, as many of you are in very similar situations it seems.
I have spent the past eight wonderful years with my boyfriend. We love each other very much. He has mentioned (when I have asked) that he does want to be married to me one day and have children. He is currently in graduate school obtaining his teaching degree and will be finished next spring. I ask about when we will be married and he says at the latest two years. He also says that he is scared to spend so much money on one day (the wedding). A part of me feels that he is stalling and may be making excuses. I understand that his schooling is very important and I wouldn’t expect him to compromise that but we have been together a long time for him to possibly want to wait two years. My question is, is it unreasonable of me to expect a proposal by next spring? I’m thinking that if he hasn’t by then I will leave. I love him but I would not hesitate to move on if I sensed any signs of a dead end road. My fear is that I’m being irrational and that my expectations are too high given the circumstances, but my other fear is that I’ve given him enough time to “make an honest woman” out of me. I also don’t want to pressure him. I want him to propose on his own will which unfortunately seems lacking. Oh, and we are both 28. What would you do? Is giving him until the end of next year too much rope?