What would you do? Be sensible or spontaneous?

posted 3 years ago in Money
  • poll: Would you use the extra money to take a mini-vacation or pay bills?
    Take the vacation. What would it hurt? : (83 votes)
    72 %
    Pay on your car/vet bills. It's the more responsible thing to do : (30 votes)
    26 %
    Obligatory other... : (2 votes)
    2 %
    I just clicked this thread cause I saw it had a poll : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I think everyone needs to have a little fun once in awhile, and there’s nothing wrong with taking a weekend or a few days.

    Post # 4
    7630 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    It sounds like you need to invest in your relationship. Can you find a cheap hotel or shop around for a weekend getaway deal? Try Groupon in your area. 

    Post # 5
    2299 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    It sounds like you NEED the weekend away! You don’t have to go somewhere expensive; shop around and find a good deal, and then go off and enjoy each other! Consider it an investment in your sanity.

    ETA: You should add a poll 🙂

    Post # 7
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @ForeverBirds:  Also, just wanted to let you know that my fi and I did this recently.


    We DO live with my parents, but not for the sake of saving money. We moved in to keep them from losing their house [they spend money like no other]. We pay half the bills that roll in [except for TV, because we don’t use it].


    Anyway –


    Fi kidnapped me [for serious! I didn’t know a thing about it] 2 weeks ago and took me to Indianapolis for a night. We stayed at a nice hotel, and played ALOT of games at dave & busters [our fav place]!


    He planned it all himself. I thought we were going grocery shopping.. he even packed an overnight bag with pjs, and everything I’d need – and snuck it in the car while I was showering!


    It was totally spontaneous, and great.


    We could have spent that money on something else, but what’s money if you don’t have someone to share it with?


    Post # 9
    1231 posts
    Bumble bee

    How about part for vacation and rest for bills. It is “extra” money isn’t it?

    Post # 10
    1360 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m the kind of person who automatically wanted to vote for paying the bills. But after reading your story, I really think you guys need a vacation. As long as it’s not too expensive.

    My thinking is that you need this for your happiness. It’s not just a frivolous expense. 

    Post # 11
    3659 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Everybody needs a weekend away every once in awhile. However, I know you’ve had several posts now bout how tight money is for you and how stressful it is, so if you could use that money to help you pay off some bills that’s what I would do. I would look into doing something as cheap as possible, like having a picnic in the park or something and asking your parents if the two of you could have a night alone.

    Post # 12
    435 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @beemyname:  That’s what I was thinking!

    How much extra money is it? Can you use half for a gettaway, and half for bills? I’m the type who ALWAYS wants to do the responsible thing, but you’re already doing the responsible thing (living with your parents) to save as much money as you can… so $100 or $200 for some time to yourselves sounds like it’s something your relationship really needs.

    Post # 13
    12865 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I couldn’t go on a getaway if I was in debt, no matter how much I think needed it.  The stress of money and feeling like I was wasting it on hotels for the weekend would kill the enjoyment of it for me.

    Post # 14
    9856 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    FH and I recently went through a situation where we were broke for about 18 months, when we had extra money we would make sure to take some time for us and break the stress of our money woes.  Sometimes you need to invest in you.  It doesn’t sound like you’re being financially irresponsible at the moment so I don’t see the harm in planning an inexpensive night or two away by yourselves.

    Post # 15
    451 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Please don’t take this the wrong way, but if I were your parents and you were living with me because of your financial situation, I would be unhappy and disappointed in you if you used extra money to go on a vacation when you should be paying bills or saving.  I’m sorry if this is not what you want to hear but it is my opinion. Could you do a few nights at a nice hotel within an hour drive? some small quaint town you could explore and in expensively. That way you still get time away but don’t spend a lot of money? Or maybe your patents are way more understanding than I am and wouldn’t mind.   

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