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WARNING: This is a little long.

My wedding is mid-October. I'm a planner and love planning my wedding.  Most stuff has been done since February.  Since I couldn't decide between 3 good friends, I have 2 matrons of honor and HAD one 1 maid of honor.  Due to financial difficulties, my maid of honor stepped down at the end of April. FI's best friend (a woman about 10 years our junior) asked if she could be a bridesmaid.  I was upfront and honest with her and told her that if my maid of honor stepped down, I would be happy to have her.  About the same time, one of FI's groomsmen stepped down due to his mother's failing health.  So, we asked FI's best friend and her hubby to be a part of the wedding party.

Now with less than 3 months to go, the bridemaid who ASKED to be a part of the wedding, won't return my phone calls, text messages, or emails; is super hard to get in contact with by my matrons of honor; ordered her dress on one of their credit cards and has not paid and is generally freaking me out.  The replacement bridesmaid isn't mad at me that I know of, I think she is just depressed.

I don't know what to do.  I don't want to fire her because she is my FI's good, good friend (although he tells me to do what will make me sane). I also don't want to get stuck paying for her dress. I feel awful sticking my two good friends with her to work with to do the bachelorette party and the bridal shower and them worrying that she may not come through to do her part.  On top of being stuck with paying for her dress, dropping her hubby will mean that we end up paying for my FI's tuxedo rental because we drop below the minimum.

For sanity's sake, do I just drop her and be done with it? Oh, and after chasing her for 3 weeks with no response to get her spa choices for the day before the wedding, I did manage to track down her hubby and talk to him and he assures me that both still want to participate in the wedding.  Arrrgggghhhhhh! Help. Advice, please.

I'm sort of in the same boat.  No one dropped out, but I finally decided to ask my super flaky friend to be in the wedding even though I knew it was probably a bad idea.  If your Matrons of Honor are good friends, they will take up the slack and deal with her.  I went through her not returning calls to avoiding me to her getting pregnant... It's been a roller coaster.  But, I've kind of let it go.  I mean she's my friend.  I do care for her, even though I could strangle her sometimes.  I want her to be there on my wedding day, but I know I can't fully trust her with most things.  It stinks, really, but I am sticking to my initial decision and just going with the flow.  I wish you luck!  Think positively and remember that this is a happy time.

Unfortunately, FI has reached out to her to no avail as well.  Plus, she actually picked out her dress (I only chose the color and maker) and ordered it through my other MOHs.  She told them that I would be paying the bulk of the dress because I had written her husband a check some months back and he hadn't cashed it.  I told the BM that it was okay, but asked if she would kindly return the uncashed check.  I fear that they may have lost it, but why not just fess up.  I thought it might be financial as well, but when I spoke to the hubby, he said they were still a go.  It's not like she doesn't understand how this works, she had a wedding herself.  It's sooo very frustrating.