What would you do? Bridesmaid drama….

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2894 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@CBWFlove: I’d check in but leave her be. She’s made her position clear and I would respect that. 

Post # 4
204 posts
Helper bee

Give it a few days and then try again to ask her what’s going on. If she keeps ignoring you, I’d assume she isn’t interested in being in the bridal party. 

Post # 5
7896 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

@CBWFlove:  Your friend does NOT want to be a bridesmaid so I would just let her bow out of it and be nice about it. Get her on the phone and give her an out…. if you push it or bring drama you will just damage the relationship further. Tell her you really hope shell come as a guest.

She sounds like drama anyway, Id just let that butterfly float right away.

Also why did you expect TX girl to come? Was that a typo? Flying in for a BMs fitting would be unreasonable.

Post # 6
42082 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would leave a message expressing concern about what’s going on in her life that she is unable to respond. I would tell her that I love her and I’m there for her if she needs me.

I would make no mention of the wedding.

Post # 7
7019 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@CBWFlove:  It sounds to me like something has come up. I’d just be concerned that she is ok. I’d go around to her house and see how she is.

Also a 6 hour round trip is pretty hard (to put it mildly) if you have a 1 year old, so I wouldn’t expect her to make it for that anyway.

EDIT: She’s struggling and unless she also declines the offer of a paid dress, I certainly wouldn’t drop a lifelong friend from the bridal party over this.

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