Post # 1
Got this one from my daily read again:
Wife’s Ex-Boyfriend Showed up at the Wedding
I personally would not like to have an ex just show up at the wedding and not sure what I would’ve done in this situation. Naturally I would want them to leave but not sure how to go about doing it. Perhaps asking a bridesmaid to tell them to leave but if their family was also there, it will probably cause a scene.
My friend got married and she was still friends with her ex boyfriend of ten years but she did not invite him to the wedding (I heard he was upset about it) but I think it would just be weird for everyone involved if he was there because of their history.
But that post made me crack up because she suggested cutting him out of the video and I totally did that but with my MIL’s friends that we both never met or even know! lol I feel kinda bad but ya I didn’t want my video to be full of people I didn’t know =p
Post # 3
If one of my exes showed up at my wedding (which would be really weird and random) I would probably just laugh in his face and say, “I’m so glad we broke up! I’m married to my true love and am the happiest woman in the world!”
If one of FI’s exes showed up, I’d probably do the same thing.
Post # 4
I would NOT allow my FI’s ex to stay. She tried to break us up for the first year we were together, and then again after we got engaged.
My Fiance has never had any contact with my exes, so he probably wouldn’t care, but I would prefer they stay away too. 🙂
Post # 5
I only have one serious X, and I know for sure he wouldn’t have showed up at our wedding (even though his brother and sister in law were our wedding photographers!)
But I think I would have at least said “uh, what are you doing here?” and ask someone else to have him leave.
Post # 6
I too would laugh at any of my exs if they showed up – How random, why would they think coming to my wedding would be a good idea??
I wouldn’t even be able to pick FI’s ex out of a line up; she was around a bit when we first started hanging out before we were dating, but since then I haven’t seen her in years.
Edit:: If any of my (or FIs) exs were crazy, stalkery or tried to break us up, I would definitely ask them to leave ASAP.
Post # 7
I’m actually kinda worried about this.I have a crazy stalker ex that is still “in love with me”. Ew.
Post # 8
Eeek Jamiemichelle, that’s no good!
Post # 9
If my ex that is my sons dad showed up, I would walk over to him and tell him to leave. I know that I probably wouldn’t have to though becuase I’m sure there would be like 500 people stopping him and making him leave before I even saw him! (ok, not really 500 becuase our wedding is only 150 people, but you get the idea!)
Post # 10
This is a funny question bc my ex-FIANCE asked to come to my wedding. He said he wants to come because lots of his friends are there as well (4 people!!!) His best friends wife is my Maid/Matron of Honor…but seriously…i couldnt believe he had the balls to ask. I am a little worried he will just show up…caue he said its “JUST a wedding” blah!!!!
Its bad enough my FH ONLY ex-gf married one of his best friends and she is coming to the wedding…never mind haveing my ex show up…grrrrrr
Post # 11
If the one serious ex I have showed up, I’d think it was weird and a little stalker-y, but I’d introduce him to my Fiance, then ignore him for the rest of the night, and sort of hope he’d go away. He’s not the kind that would fly halfway across the country to wedding crash, though, so I can’t even really see it happening.
FI’s ex-fiance actually probably WILL be at the wedding… They’ve known each other for 15 years and have a daughter together, so while a small part of me would really prefer not to have to see her face, for the most part I don’t really care. If Fiance wants her (and her husband and their two kids) there, then that’s fine with me.
If any of the other of his exes (and there are quite a few) showed up uninvited, I don’t think I’d even really have to deal with it… Between Future Mother-In-Law, Future Sister-In-Law, and the best man, I’m sure plenty of people would encourage her to leave, lol!
Post # 12
I think it depends on what sort of relationship you had with the ex. I actually don’t have any ex’s at all (FI is my first major relationship, though I had the occasional date before…) but I did have a creepy stalker who thought he and I were in a relationship, and he would be kicked out as soon as the police arrived (whom I would call immediately upon seeing him). My Fiance has a minor ex, relationship only lasted a month or so, and she was a total loon. If she showed up she would be asked to leave politely but firmly.
Post # 13
I don’t care. If any of them showed up and the Fiance was upset about it, then I would have someone ask them to leave. Otherwise I would just ignore them.
If any of the FI’s ex’s showed up he would be PISSED and defnitely have someone take care of them. Again, I wouldn’t really care and just ignore them. 🙂
Post # 14
my ex-fiance not only called me after I told him I no longer wanted to speak to him, but he ASKED to come when we get married! (its a small town and everyone knows we’re serious and he’s going to pop the question soon… so excited!!) I would definitely ask him to leave if he showed, we did not end amicably, and if an ex of his showed i know he’s ask her to leave as well.
Post # 15
I would laugh!
Most of my exes were never ‘serious’ and are still friends/on friendly terms.
There is one though that is a bit, eh.. but I was actually joking with my Maid/Matron of Honor about this the other day, as he’s a chronic depression sufferer & has been dealing with agorophobia for the past xxx months, I really don’t think I have to worry about it! But we did both have a good laugh over how ridiculously awkward it would be for this individual to show up (his parents STILL invite me to go golfing with them almost 6 years after splitting with their son–everything with these people is just weird!)
If my FH’s ex showed up I know HE would mind, but I wouldn’t as she and I were actually friends before I met my FH (I met her long after she and my FH split). That being said, knowing that he dislikes my one ex as much if not more than he dislikes his, they would likely be politely asked to leave if there was an issue, but due to our super mellow attitudes, I doubt there would be an issue unless the exes made one.
However, it is VERY unlikely that any of this would happen, if it did it would be like bizzarro world.
Post # 16
I think it would depend on whether I like or disklike the ex or not. If I did and it bothered me, I would probably ask one of my bridesmaids or groomsmen to ask him to leave.
If it doesn’t bother me, then who cares. I’m still friends with my ex…. well on facebook. We don’t talk anymore but if I were to see him, I would still say hi to him.