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I have to admit that I've lost my temper. I don't recall if I've said that but I've reacted in ways that still make me sad.
I think mommy needed a break and sometimes that's overwhelming.
Mommy definitely needs a break! Hopefully that's all it is anyways... DS's dad was like this and it didn't have anything to do with him having/needing a break or not. =/
I'll admit as well that I've DEFINITELY had my "bad mom" moments... Never told DS to "shut the f up" but I did tell him just this morning "to get his "arse" over here" through grit teeth. (yea it was a really bad morning) =(
Are you close with the person who was having a rough day? If so and it's still bugging you, you could offer to babysit for an afternoon or evening so mom could take some time to herself. It sounds like she needs a break.
I think we all slip sometimes; hopefully, what you heard isn't a normal thing but was just a one time mistake. I don't cuss much as it is, so I don't think I've cussed at our daughter, but I've definitely snapped at her once or twice. It's not a good feeling, to know you messed up like that. :(
It's hard. I once heard my BIL tell my niece that he was going to slap the shit out of her. I was mortified and still worry how she's being treated at home.
I think everyone has those moments when they are under a lot of stress and slip up and say things they shouldn't. This sounds to me like it was probably one of those moments.
Unless speaking to her child like that is a frequent occurance, I wouldn't fret over it too much.
Sometimes children can be frustrating. I feel bad admitting this, but one time I called my niece an asshole :/ She took off running in the mall during Christmas last year. She didn't hear me, but my sister did, first she laughed, and then she scolded me.
What would I personally do? Say to myself: "Oh fuck, that's what I have to look forward to? Can't freggin' WAIT.
No one is perfect, but screaming the "f" word is not really okay. If they do that on the phone, imagine in private. I raised a really difficult half-sister, but I still don't think screaming that is okay. You don't have to swear, I just don't think it is appropriate.
@heathaah: I would offer to help them. Being in the trenches of parenting is tough and sometimes we just need someone to come alongside of us and lighten the load. Offer to play with the child and let her go shopping or help catch up on laundry/cleaning etc. I am not saying that that was not a bad choice, but parenting is sometimes stressful to the point that we really just need a time-out of our own.
I can distinctly remember when my daughter was 2, she was having a complete meltdown in the middle of a store, and succeeded in kicking me in the teeth while I struggled to get her out of the cart. I strapped her in her car seat and started driving, all while her screams were ear splitting. I yelled "STOOOOOP!!!!" at the top of my lungs. I felt really bad after, but I was at the end of my rope. When we got home I locked myself in the bathroom and cried. I was exhausted.
My mom talks like that. Always has. I am sure she said that to me, a million times.
I hope this isn't a regular occurence for your friend. My FSIL was very, very mean to her son when he was an infant and the things she said and did to him in my presence still haunt me to this day. She started "popping" him when he was 3 months old. For crying, of all things! She would mostly just scream at him, at the top of her lungs. I think he was carsick or something, because he would not ride in a car without screaming bloody murder for 1.5 years. He'd be screaming his head off and FSIL would be screaming at him, "Shut the f*ck up, you little f*cking brat!" It made me cringe.
@Pinksapphire: Whoa, that's really extreme. I'd probably confront them if they behaved that way.
OP: If you notice happen again, speak up. I know it's kind of awkward, just ask her how things are doing and if she needs any help. People have off days.
Sounds like mom was having a bad day. I remember one day when I was visiting my sister when her son was only a couple months old. She had slept in ages, and he kept latching on wrong an really hurting her cracked nipples (lovely, right?) and I could just see her snapping. All she did was put him down on the bed quickly and walk away. but you could see how much it took not to yell or shake him. She would never hurt him and I doubt she would curse at him, since she never curses, but if you are used to cursing when you are at the end of your rope? I can see how that would take a while to break the habit.
I like the idea of offering to babysit so she and her husband can have a night out. Sounds like a break would be nice for her.
Sounds like a rough day for her. I do not have kids of my own but being a nanny I have been around tons of kids and caring for them all the time is hard work and can be very frustrating and overwhelming. Like PP's have said, if you are close maybe offer to take the little one even for an hour or two.
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I was just on the phone with someone and their child (just under a year old) was screaming and crying. The person was getting very aggrivated and yelled "(baby's name), fucking stop!"
This is just not sitting well with me. What would you think? And parents, have you ever caught yourself doing something like that or is it just a slip you don't ever make?