Post # 1
Ok before you vote, let me explain! My wedding is on a Friday (so most who aren’t super close, will prob nix the ceremony)
We are having our 1/2 ceremony in the church at 4pm, in White Plains…
1/2 hour… so that leaves us at approx 4:30 when it’s finished…
45 minute commute to Mahopac for the reception….that’s 5:15…
cocktail hour starts at 7
So that’s an Hour and a Half for pics (NO option of pre-wedding pics..not a fan although it’s nice) and also there will be most likely one of my fiances family members in the area will host a champagne toast for us, with casual pics and hanging out for those waiting..
What do you guys think?
Post # 3
I’m confused- why can’t guests enjoy cocktail hour while you’re taking photos?
ETA: I don’t like first looks either, but would you consider doing pre-wedding Bridesmaid or Best Man plus bride pics and separate pre-wedding Groomsmen plus groom pics to cut down on your picture time. We did this, and I think our post wedding portraits only took about 30-45 minutes.
Post # 4
Plus, I hope people can get to your ceremony. 4 PM is early.
Post # 5
We were given a bridal suite with our own cocktail hour/champagne bar to freshen up after pictures and get ready for 8pm reception…so we didn’t want to miss that
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
Hmmm, that is kind of an awkward gap and it’s during rush hour on a Friday which makes me a little nervous. What are the guests suppose to do??
(I’m from Harrison BTW! :D)
Post # 7
@love108: Well close family members will take the day off, or leave early…it’s a Friday in the Summer it shouldn’t be TOO hard for most, that matter most anyway you know? I know I would if it were me
There is no later ceremony time than I think 4:30..so wouldn’t make much diff..
Post # 8
@coyote: Well I guess taking that into account, it wouldn’t be much of a gap right? Because of rush hour…it may take guests slightly longer to get there?
Ohhhh not far!
Post # 9
I’d go to the reception only. I wouldn’t feel comfortable going to a family hosted champagne toast while I was waiting (I’ve seen this a couple times on four weddings and it never seems to work out).
Post # 10
Your guest will get to your reception venue at 5:15, but cocktail hour isn’t until 7? Thats an almost 2 hours of nothing to do & nothing to drink/eat. Sorry, but you should start the cocktail hour as soon as guests arrive.
Post # 11
Is there something else for guests to do? Is there a bar at the reception they can hang out at, a bar nearby where they can grab a drink? Is the hotel nearby or in between or are you providing a shuttle from/to the hotel they’d have to get to?
Honestly, I get annoyed at weddings with gaps when there’s nothing logical to do in between. Weddings with gaps don’t automatically annoy me (we have one), but when there’s nothing to do in between and you’re just left to your own devices, it kinda sucks, especially if you’re from out of town or don’t know the area.
I think if you’re going to have a gap, you need to provide a viable something to do for your guests, even if that’s just “go back to the hotel, freshen up, and catch the shuttle” or “go to the bar”.
Post # 12
Do you have access to a room, backyard, garden area, etc. where guests could have more like a social? We’re in the same boat; ceremony ends at 2:30 ish, scheduled cockatil hour isn’t until 4:30. However, we were able to get into the room early so family and friends can partake in more of a (optional) social to immediately follow the ceremony (drinks provided, but appetizers won’t go out until more like 4:30). Plus, with receving line after ceremony, drive to reception, check in to hotel for many guests, I think it will be more like 3:30 before they gather up again. Just a suggestion.
Post # 13
@BellaDee: That sounds kind of selfish. “we didn’t want to miss that” but you expect people to sit around for 2 hours not doing shit waiting on you to get there to START cocktail hour?
I don’t understand your timeline. You are inviting guests to a family members house to watch you take pictures? …
What are your guests supposed to be doing at the reception? I would go home & stay there. That is rude. IMO. & “go home to change into reception outfit” ? What kind of wedding are you having?
I’m confused by so much of this.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
@BellaDee: Well, what I’m saying is that it’s not really a wide enough gap that they can go home in between. Do you have a lot of out of town guests or are they mostly local?
Post # 15
If I was going to the wedding I would probably go back to the hotel and throw a little pre-cocktail hour cocktail hour with mutual friends or family.
I am someone who does not skip the wedding. I find it rude– you are invited to both, you should show up to both. The wedding is the important part.
Post # 16
@LGenz: I know, but it’s an italian thing (fiance’s side is verrrryyyy traditional off the boat)..
@AnnieAAA: Yeah I’m actually considering either switching my ceremony to an hour mass instead, or moving the church up a half hour…I think the reception hall had a 5:30 cocktail hour for the 1st wedding already…so I don’t think we have an option to move that up