(Closed) What would you do in this situation?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think get a list of the girls she’d like to go out with and plan a party! That’s very sweet of you! It sounds like a fun night 🙂

Post # 4
3520 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

What if you took her for a mani/pedi and lunch?  That way, it’s just you and her, and no one she doesn’t know/isn’t inviting to the wedding.

Post # 5
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think that it would be very nice, however you don’t want to make her feel like she would have to invite them to her wedding.  So if it was just a girls night and more a “in her honor” situation then a direct “party” for her I think that would be ok.

Post # 6
482 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This actually happened with a friend of mine recently.  ‘S’ is a nurse and works with ‘T’ who was getting married.  S and T didn’t know each other that long, but T asked S to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in her wedding. 

When T’s Maid/Matron of Honor and other BMs (all family) did not WANT to throw her a bachelorette party, S took it into her own hands.  S invited some of her own friends because T really doesn’t have a lot of friends in the area.  I ended up being invited and went KNOWING I would not be invited to the wedding.  But T was an awesome girl and we all had a blast!  She was really grateful to everyone who came and there was no pressure for S’s friends who came either.  Her family was super fun too, it was a shame they didn’t wanna throw the party themselves.

So I say go for it.  She will be thankful in the end.  Just make sure the guests know they won’t be invited to the wedding.

Post # 7
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think it would be fine as long as none of the girls are expecting to be invited to the wedding. Its a really sweet thing to do 🙂

Post # 9
572 posts
Busy bee

I threw a shower for a young lady when I found out she was not having one. Her Bridal Party was simply her children. I simply asked who she wanted there. She was very grateful. I could not let her walk down the aisle without a proper send off. 🙂

I think that just taking her out for an evening woud be wonderful. Ask her Fiance if he has a list of her local friends or simply grab some of yours and hit the town.

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