Post # 1
So a good friend of mine is getting married in a few months; we’ll call her “Bride.” I just found out through her Fiance that none of her bridesmaids are planning a bachelorette/bridal shower for her (her bridesmaids are her sisters and from out of town) and she’s a bit disappointed… I feel bad for her and wanted to throw her a little party… like a girls night out. Just dinner and bowling, but I don’t know who to invite! I know it’s rude to invite people to parties that are not invited to the wedding, but the bride doesn’t have any friends in town so I’m not sure what to do?!
I talked to another friend of mine, we’ll call her “M,” and explained the situation to her, and she thinks that it would be fine if I just invited a small group of girls from our church for dinner and bowling and to celebrate the bride getting married. (Bride is just getting to know these girls, she has only recently met them.)
Anyway, what would you do in this situation? Any help or comments (good or bad) would be appreciated!
Post # 3
I think get a list of the girls she’d like to go out with and plan a party! That’s very sweet of you! It sounds like a fun night 🙂
Post # 4
What if you took her for a mani/pedi and lunch? That way, it’s just you and her, and no one she doesn’t know/isn’t inviting to the wedding.
Post # 5
I think that it would be very nice, however you don’t want to make her feel like she would have to invite them to her wedding. So if it was just a girls night and more a “in her honor” situation then a direct “party” for her I think that would be ok.
Post # 6
This actually happened with a friend of mine recently. ‘S’ is a nurse and works with ‘T’ who was getting married. S and T didn’t know each other that long, but T asked S to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in her wedding.
When T’s Maid/Matron of Honor and other BMs (all family) did not WANT to throw her a bachelorette party, S took it into her own hands. S invited some of her own friends because T really doesn’t have a lot of friends in the area. I ended up being invited and went KNOWING I would not be invited to the wedding. But T was an awesome girl and we all had a blast! She was really grateful to everyone who came and there was no pressure for S’s friends who came either. Her family was super fun too, it was a shame they didn’t wanna throw the party themselves.
So I say go for it. She will be thankful in the end. Just make sure the guests know they won’t be invited to the wedding.
Post # 7
I think it would be fine as long as none of the girls are expecting to be invited to the wedding. Its a really sweet thing to do 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks everyone! This is all really good advice!
How would I go about it if I did invite a few people who don’t know the bride that well…
Just explain the situation to them and say it’s a girls night out?
Post # 9
I threw a shower for a young lady when I found out she was not having one. Her Bridal Party was simply her children. I simply asked who she wanted there. She was very grateful. I could not let her walk down the aisle without a proper send off. 🙂
I think that just taking her out for an evening woud be wonderful. Ask her Fiance if he has a list of her local friends or simply grab some of yours and hit the town.