(Closed) What would YOU do in this situation?

posted 4 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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4529 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@peasantsong:  I know you wish you had, but I would have interrupted her early on and told her “I appreciate your concern, but my doctor has the situation under control”, turned on my heel and walked off.

Incredibly inappropriate.

 

Post # 4
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3697 posts
Sugar bee

“I prefer not to discuss my health care with strangers.”

“That’s a very intrusive question.” (allow it to be followed by awkward silence)

“I don’t believe we know one another.”

Or, if you feel like being snarkier,

“Thank you for the unsolicited advice. I’ll be sure to pay it exactly as much attention as it deserves. Now, please allow me to return the favor: BUTT OUT!”

 

Post # 5
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1891 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Wow, that is so weird and awkward.  Luckily, a given random stranger has no idea what your schedule is that day, or even how nice you are, so err on the side of being really busy and not caring at all what she has to say.  I would think that walking/looking away while saying “I am not interested; I have to go” and not answering any of the (extremely personal/prying) questions would be the best way to handle this, or a similar, situation in the future.

Post # 6
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1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’d ask if she’d like to take a look at my hemorroids while she was at it. That usually shuts them right up.

Post # 8
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11226 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I am in no way going to try to defend the obviously obnoxious, aggressive, inappropriate, and pushy behavior of this woman.  However, I would chalk this experience up to the fact that there are some individuals who feel that they (or a loved one) have been terribly wronged in some manner, and they literally are on a crusade to spread information as if others’ lives depended on it. This uncomfortable interaction likely was all about this woman trying to right a wrong for someone else because there isn’t a way for her to right it for herself or the person in her life who experienced the types of things over which she expressed such vehement concern for you.

In the moment, I probably would have done exactly what you did — tried to be polite and continued to be in shock about how far this woman went in sharing her “concern.”  However, in hindsight, I probably would wish that I had stopped to ask her why she is so “informed” on this topic and if something similar had happened to her or a loved one. I also like what @badabing88: suggested — politely telling the woman that your medical situation is private and that your doctor has it under control.

 

Post # 9
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5408 posts
Bee Keeper

@Brielle:  +1

even though her delivery wasn’t the best, I don’t disagree with (most of) her message. Understand that there are a lot of people out there who have learned things the hard way and only want to help other people avoid needless suffering. It’s difficult to keep your mouth shut when you want to help people. 

If you are uncomfortable, just say so and leave. 

Post # 10
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5983 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@peasantsong:  That is nuts….you know, its the funniest thing, we’re raised to be polite and listen to people when they’re talking, and then you bump into some well intentioned nut job while you’re trying to get a pound of colby jack and before you know it, she’s shoving pamphlets and tablets at you in the parking lot…I’m pretty sure this is how cults start….

Either way, don’t let it get to you, honestly, none of this was your fault, and whatever this woman’s motivation was, you can throw all of that crap away and forget about her….

Post # 11
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2084 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@peasantsong:  She was way out of line. Just out of curiosity, how old are you and how old is she? I find that most of the time when a women feels the need to be confrontational with me or push her views on me, it’s usually a woman that is 45 or older (I’m 34 btw). As I’ve gotten older my tolerance and patience for excessive bullshit has grown weaker. I’m a very non-confrontational person and I avoid drama. Some people misinterpet this as a weakness. They are usually shocked when I give them an ear full. You’ve already endured enough from what you’ve been through, you shouldn’t have take any crap off anyone.

Post # 12
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2084 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@VegasSukie:  haha! I’m going to remember this for future use!

Post # 13
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10369 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would say that I am a scientist and capable of making my own medical decisions and walk away. How on Earth things escalated to the point of you being close enough to her car for her to get tablets and printed articles is crazy. Stand up for yourself more!

Post # 14
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9072 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have a friend who has a very noticable scar on his neck (it was from a medical procedure but I am not sure what type).  He would tell people he got into a knife fight.  Or something else.  Just to fuck with people.  Something to use next time?

Post # 15
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1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@greenidlady:  The trick is to fumble with your belt while you’re saying it. Lol!

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