What would you do in this situation?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
394 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I would get a hotel room.  Don’t get me wrong.  I have a big family and understand family drama (I’ve been a part of my fair share, and this sounds all too familiar.)  However, it’s just not worth being uncomfortable and not sleeping with your fiance, when you are traveling from out of town for this event.

I would get a hotel room- quietly.  If someone asks, make up a white lie (you’re a light sleeper, your fiance snores, etc.)  

Post # 4
20 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014

@iadornyou:  IMO I would just get the hotel room quitly and if anyone has anything to say, just reply that you and your FI wanted to stay in a room together and since your aunt has a problem with that you decided that it was the best option for the two of you.

Post # 6
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@iadornyou:  i would definitely get a hotel room.  you don’t need to give them any explanation.

Post # 7
3442 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@iadornyou:  I agree with the previous posters.

I don’t think you should call your aunt out because, frankly, she seems like a stubborn person who really wouldn’t care what sort of logic your brought to the table because in her mind her way is the only right way.

I would just quietly get the hotel room and decline to stay with your aunt the next time you are offered. If she makes a scene about how it rude of you to do so, perhaps (in as a nice a way as possible) make it clear that had she been willing to make you comfortable and accomodate you in her home, you would have stayed with her.

(btw, that $100 a night is psycho. who the hell invites someone to stay and then charges them? so messed up..)

Post # 8
6958 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@iadornyou:  I would just get a hotel room and not say anything other than “no thanks”. 

Post # 9
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@iadornyou: I would call your aunt out for the double standard and then proceed to tell her that you’ll be staying in a hotel.  First off, she’s your aunt, not your mom, so I don’t find her authority to be as important so to speak.

Post # 12
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Definitely get a hotel room.  Thank her and say you appreciate, but do not subject yourself to that sh*t!

Post # 13
2876 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

I’d get my own hotel room because it sounds like their will be drama either way. 

Post # 14
73 posts
Worker bee

@iadornyou:  Get the room. It’s too much tension, and if you’re mom is advocating for you and arguing with her sister it’s really not worth it. I’m a bitch and would have left if I had to sleep across the room lol

Post # 16
1926 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I was just in a similar situation where a bunch of family was staying with DH’s aunt for her sons graduation. I opted to get a hotel room with 2 beds in case SIL wanted to stay with us. The family was SUPER offended for some reason, but I just DID NOT want to sleep on the floor! I covered by saying I thought it would be cool if everyone had a place to go swimming after the graduation so it softened the blow a bit… maybe you could say something like that? 

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