(Closed) What would you do? (long) bizarre family members

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: What would you do?
    Contact them and ask why they did this : (3 votes)
    23 %
    Be quiet and hope they do nothing more : (8 votes)
    62 %
    Contact the cousin (Aunt's daughter) and ask if she knows anything about it : (1 votes)
    8 %
    Other (please explain) : (1 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I would first wait to hear from the lady who deals with the announcements, so you know for sure who did it. Then contact that person and ask why they did it. Maybe have a trusted friend who knows these people watch to make sure they do no show up at your wedding. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Definitely bizarre. Your wedding date isn’t in the engagement announcement, is it? I’m assuming not, but if so, that’s a concern.

    Post # 5
    Member
    5978 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I wouldn’t contact them about it, but I would make sure you had some sort of security at your venue in case these people do show up and try to ruin your wedding. That way they can be promptly removed and you won’t have to worry about it!

    Post # 7
    Member
    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @hisgoosiegirl: Oh no. Yeah, I would look into security. Peace of mind that you’ll have someone else to deal with the issue if it arises will be worth the extra cost. And yes, once you confirm the submitter, I would contact them to ask why they did that. Although, I don’t think this will get you very far.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Wow are we in the same family?

    My dad’s side of the family is crazy too and none of them aside from my dad’s cousin are invited to my wedding because of the same kind of stuff (manipulative, selfish, greedy, mean etc)  I think I would have a heart attack if they started trying to involve themselves in the wedding, stamp it out early, I say.  Better to be honest now and have them mad at you then to just ignore it and have them show up and ruin your wedding day!

    Post # 11
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    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Yikes! so sorry you’re dealing with this!!!  Is there a way you could contact the local police department and see about maybe hiring an off-duty officer?  That would definitely deter any would-be troublemakers and if anything happened, he would have more authority than anyone else.  I know *I* would feel better having an off-duty officer there, if I were in your shoes!

    And I hadn’t even THOUGHT of anyone else putting the announcement in the paper!!!  My mom has been badgering me about our engagement announcement, but I don’t think she’d do it herself.  And we are definitely NOT putting the locale in the paper!!!  I really don’t want certain relatives showing up because I really HATE/DESPISE one cousin who’s been nothing but a bully for as long as I can remember.  

    Post # 13
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    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @hisgoosiegirl: If they aren’t on the guest list, why not?  

    Also, you could go outside your area for the security.  If you think they’ll ruin it or cause a problem, I’d rather err on the side of caution.  

    Do what you feel is best, though. 🙂  and good luck!!!

    Post # 16
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    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    Glad to hear it was a false alarm. However, why would you even run a wedding announcement in the local paper if there are people you don’t want to come to your wedding uninvited? I just feel like the church is an open door and if you publish the when and where, you’re basically putting out an open invitation.

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