- 5 years ago
Okay, a bit of background: SO and I have been dating 11 months. It has been a great relationship. We have discussed getting engaged in the future. And we are talking about my moving in with him. Which I am all for. He has a daughter, I have a son. They get along great. He has joint custody, and I have joint custody. My schedule with my son is 5 days with me, 5 days with dad (who is local). My SO’s schedule is 1 month with him, 1 month with his ex wife (she is not local). SO has a 3 bedroom house, so it shouldn’t be a big deal as the kids would have their own rooms, but a small snafu has popped up…
SO is in the military, and has a military buddy that we are really close friends with. He’s younger than both of us, so we like to invite him over for dinner (he is here alone, and far from family) and to hang out alot. He just recently proposed to his girlfriend who is 18. (I know they are young, but all the power to them. I’m happy for them if they are happy.) Well he is getting reclassed (assigned a new job) and as a result has to go back to train for a new job, which means he will be gone for a few months. HIs fiance wants to move down to this area while he is gone, and wants to stay with us as we are the only people down here she knows. She would get a job when she gets here, but I have a few concerns.
We have a 3 bedroom house. SO has suggested that the kids (ages 3 and 4, a boy and a girl) can share a room. This makes it slightly difficult as they go to bed at seperate times. He also suggested that she could sleep on the couch, but that is a pain in the butt too, because then she has no space of her own, and we will be on each other’s toes a lot.
My other concern is that it will be around the time that we first move in with one another. I stay at his place pretty regularly, so I sort of know what it’s like to live with him, but I don’t know if this will disrupt the pace that we set for living together.
Really, I am at a loss. The girl is nice, I get along with her from the few times I’ve talked with her. But there is a big gap in our ages (I am almost 10 years older than her), and I’m not sure how this all will pan out. I need your thoughts bees!
****For the record I am not concerned with another female living with SO and I. I do not think anything would happen in that regard.***