Post # 1
- Wedding: February 2014 - Windstar on Naples bay
So I’ll start first with pics of my wedding band:
Sorry if the pics are big!
Anyways, this is my wedding band. It was my mother’s and she gave it to me when I got engaged. It’s 90+ years old and has a long history of live and loss. It was broken when she gave it to me and I went and had it fixed about a year before the wedding. It sat waiting, then I got married, wore it for about a month and then a stone became loose. I took it back and there was some issues and I just put the ring away and wore my back up ring. But it wasn’t the same and I miss it and purposely purchased my husband’s ring to match mine so now we don’t match anymore.
So I took it back and now the store wants to make things right. Their recommendations were to either buy two small, thin gold or platinum bands to reinforce the ring, or completely rebuilding. I’m at a t total loose at what to do. My favorite part, after the history are the art deco engravings on the side, which of course in either option I will be losing.
What would you do. Getting a second opinion is difficult cause no one will touch the ring because of the material and age. I just want to see what others would do in my shoes. Ultimately I know it’s what ever I feel is right.
Options in the poll.
Post # 2
kittywolf13: I think this would be such a hard and heart-breaking decision. I love your band — both the look of it and the history behind it. I voted for reinforcing it, since that might let you keep the overall character of the piece — even if it means losing the beautiful engraving on the sides. Would it be possible to have the setting reproduced exactly and use your original stones in it? It wouldn’t be the same, but at least you would have your original stones.
Post # 3
I would keep talking to new jewlers. It may not be cheap or fast but knowing jewelry they should be able to add gold to thicken and fix the stone settings.
I have several rings from the 1860s-1920’s. And I know a good jeweler will not want to lose the history.
fyi I my grand mothers rings from the 1940’s need all the little prongs added gold to so they held the stones secure again because they were so worn down and the stones wiggled. jareds first quoted $600 ($40 a prong for gold +labor it has 18 prongs). Another jeweler said I needed a whole new setting for the top of te ring ($500) and I found a historic restoration jeweler who added gold to each prong for $100 total.
get at least a second and third opinion
Post # 4
Looking at it close up its similar to mine. Each of the stones has little prongs at the corners see if they will rebuild/add to each prong to hold the stones in better.
Post # 5
kittywolf13: Have you thought about having a the ring recreated to wear and keeping the original as an heirloom? It could be something passed down for wedding ceremonies, and then displayed in the home in some way. It is so beautiful, it could easily be a conversation piece.
a shadow box maybe?
or something artsy like this?
Post # 6
I honestly think that beautiful and loved things should be worn and enjoyed, not put in some case to be preserved, but that’s just my take on it. I think resetting in two half-eternities would be beautiful and would be really meaningful if you one day pass down to your daughter(s)/DIL(s).
I would love to be able to look down at my ring and think of my mother any time I please.