- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
My husband recently lost his father. He received a sympathy card from a mutual girl friend he knows more as an acquaintance over the years, but I have known closer to the point that she says I’m her best friend.
She wrote: “I wanted to let you know I still think about you as you cope with the loss of your sweet dad. I was unable to make the memorial. You’re a warm and sweet man and you will carry on your dad’s warmth. Bless you and the boys and your mom very much. Always love and support…”
Notice anything missing? Very nice sentiments, but did she didn’t mention me at all. She did not address the card to both of us, or to our family, only to him.
Does this strike anyone else as odd/inappropriate/disrespectful? I cannot imagine writing the husband of a friend and not mentioning her, in some way, especially considering we were married just a few months ago and she was our greeter, and considering we are close friends to begin with?
On top of that, she has a history of making comments about him when we were dating that bordered on inappropriate, flirty, etc. commenting among us girls on his muscular legs and thick hair, coming up with nicknames for him that she’d call him among us girls but never directly to him. It was cutesy and he never urged her on but now this card…
He put it at my place at the dinner table for me to read, I read it, and then he promptly recycled it.
I’m tempted to return the card to her with “and my name and family” on the envelope, on the inside and the sentence: “you are lucky to have my friend as your new wife to support you at this difficult time.” No, no, I’ll be good, and talk with her, somehow…but it is tempting.