Post # 1
If you know me, you know that I HATE my job. I work with my Darling Husband and finally after almost 3 years…. he said we could quit!!!!!!!!
Problem is though, we get commision and right now we are looking at about 10 – 15 grand every 3 weeks. (half of that is tax free).
So now after my Darling Husband talked to a friend who used to do this job, he told me hubby to stay because once you get back to “real life” it gets hard. We work away from home and have literally no bills right now. So everything we make goes straight to the bank. Once we quit, we have to buy a house, pay the remainder on another (about 100 bucks a month), buy a car, furnish the house, cell phones etc.
Pretty much, now Darling Husband and I are fighting because he wants me just to suck it up. But I think that we can always stay longer and have more money, at some point you have to call it a day.
Do you think I will regret quitting? Or do you have any adice to give my husband? How much would 12 grand change your life right now? We are also TTC and I dont think I need the stress of this job.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
In the current economy I wouldn’t quit my job before securing another job.
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@NonannaS: I used to have a job that was lots of frustration, but easy money. I would bitch like high hell when I got home each night, but in the morning I’d wake up and go blow all of my money. After I left that job I wished so badly I had saved more while I was there! So I say suck it up!
Post # 5
I’d be sure that I had another job that would pay the bills, even if it wouldn’t put quite as much in savings, but then I would absolutely quit. I think everyone has a minimum that they need to make to get by comfortably but above that, you really have to consider if it’s worth extra time/stress. So get another job lined out and then go for it!
Post # 6
Just to update…. we have a job lined up. We are moving to Darling Husband country (at least for a few years) and he is taking over his father’s two businesses. I will be a Stay-At-Home Mom and maybe work part time once I became more confident and got dual citizenship.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2014 - Savannah, GA
@NonannaS: Ummm. Can I have your job??
Post # 8
@NonannaS: I wouldn’t just quit before you have a realistic backup plan in place other than just living off of your savings. At the very least, map out what your finances would be like if you quit. Figure what your housing cost, food, and other expenses are… and then double that because EVERYTHING always costs more than you think. I’d also want to know what my future job prospects were. The pickings are pretty slim and there is a surplus of candidates. The longer you are out of the job market, the less desireable you will be to possible employers. I think they prefer to hire people who are working vs unemployed, and NO ONE will hire a visibly pregnant woman, so that should be something you consider also.
Post # 9
More info….. I think i am asking because when you havent been living on land for the past 4 years and have had no bills, it is really hard for me to picture how much I would spend on a daily/monthly basis. We have been really lucky that right now we buy/eat/do whatever we want.
We do have savings and no debt
Whatever we make, in a way you can times it by 10 for the country we are going to, so right off of the bat, we are more well off than most there
We want 3 – 4 kids (and i know those suckers cost a lot 🙂
In the country we are moving to (i wrote a post about it a while ago) we will not really have to pay a mortgage, or for gas/electrical/internet, wont pay anything for healthcare….. it is the reason that we are moving there
Post # 10
Sorry, I think you would regret quitting.
Post # 11
If you have a good amount in savings that will get you by, your Darling Husband has a job and you can find an affordable home and wouldn’t be struggling to make ends meet, I say quit. I remember your thread awhile back and you work on a cruise ship is that correct? I have heard many horror stories about how hard that work is and if you’ve done it this long…props to you! But if you aren’t happy doing it and it’s only going to make you miserable and you have the means to quit, I’d say do maybe 1-2 more, save up the money then quit. Or you and Darling Husband discuss a “quit date” and save all your money until then (which you’ve been doing) and be really done by that date.
Post # 12
@Bazinga: I do work on a ship….. since I am in my early 30’s and dont want to party anymore, I literally sit in my cabin and either work or go on weddingbee 🙂 It is the little things that get to you, for some reason for the last three weeks my cabin has smelled like SHIT constantly. I missed dinnertime yesterday so all I had to eat was Doritos, and this is just a really stressful position to have.
My Darling Husband and I did set a date to leave, that is what is bugging me, that he changed his mind. He is trying to lure me back by scaring me into saying that we need to save more money and also saying we could upgrade my rings to the ones that I always wanted.
Post # 13
@nonapkns Wow I say this with so much respect, I would NEVER want your job, you work WAY TOO HARD. I went on just ONE cruise and I saw how hard the staff worked and how they had to work even harder for difficult or “first class” passengers, I just couldn’t do it. The fact that you have done it for 4 years, I’m telling you when you have kids you will be a great mom, the patience you have learned on the ship must be a lot.
If your Darling Husband & you agreed upon a leave date already then he needs to stop trying to bribe you with your “dream rings” that isn’t right. You deserve them for being a great wife and partner, not because you stayed miserable on a ship for more months! That’s not right and I honestly wouldn’t want them if that’s what I had to do to get them.
How much money is it going to take for him to think you have enough? I mean is money worth more to him than your happiness? You want to start a family, you can’t do that on a cruise ship while waiting on everyone else, you’ll need rest for yourself! Cruise staff works themselves to the bone from what I’ve seen personally and I think I watched something on TV regarding “behind the scenes” from former employees.
Post # 14
@NonannaS: Knowning your situation and reading your previous threads, I am on the go for it side. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to do. And if you have any inclination to start a family, doing so from a cruise ship is tough. You are also 30+ which makes it even more difficult as things go on with your fertility.
I would look at a budget tracker website, espeically for in the country you are looking at moving too. South African budgets are going to look a lot different from US budgets.
Post # 15
Well, we have made a decision. We actually found out we are doing really well right now, which takes the pressure off of us and of course means more money. So we are going to stay for 2 more months.
We are also thinking that depending on how South Africa goes, we will probably live in the US at some point which can be expensive. So we would like more savings.
And I will probably get my Hearts o Fire rings, which while not entirely worth being misserable, it will give me something to focus one.
Post # 16
to answer the title question I would be boring and squirrel it away, and to answer your post’s question, I think you are in a similar situation to me, where your time matters more to you than the extra income, so if the job makes you miserable I’d have no qualms dropping it when I had enough of it, in your position.