Post # 1
BF and I are making plans to move in together in January. I know it’s a bit early but we wanted to get an idea of which apartments were available in our budget so that we could start budgeting for first month’s rent, deposit and any furniture we may need to buy so that in January, we’re not paying for everything ALL at once. Anyway. Originally, our plan was to only look at one bedroom apartments.
However, after finding a place online that has two bedrooms and is in our price range, we may go with that. So last night, we started discussing what we would do with the spare bedroom. Then that discussion turned into an argument, sort of. More like a heated discussion than an argument, but I digress.
I want to turn it into a guest bedroom/office. We could make the guest bedroom the main focus and put a full size bed in there for guests, as well as a nightstand and chester drawer. We could just stick a desk in the corner and that could be the “office” part of the room.
As for BF, he wants to JUST put a futon in there (no nightstand and chester drawer) so that there would be more space and use the room as sort of an office/den. He thinks it should be office/den first and guest bedroom last. He wants to put two desks in there, one for me and one for him. Even though I told him I don’t need a desk but he still insists that I need a desk. Sigh.
Anyway, I told him that guests would not enjoy sleeping on a futon. He said it didn’t matter because it’s not like they would be staying for very long. He thinks that we should use the bedroom how WE want to use it and it doesn’t matter about guests being comfortable because he doesn’t think we will have that many overnight guests anyway.
I hate this idea. I HATE sleeping on futons, they are NOT comfortable! And I want our friends to WANT to spend the night at our place if they need to and not dread sleeping on a futon.
Anyway. So tell me, what would you use the second bedroom for?
Post # 3
How often do you have guests? If not often then I think your fiancé is right you will get more use out of a office/den then a pretty guest room. We turned our spare into a full blown office but we are both gamers so we enjoy it that way.
Post # 4
I’m with your husband on this. As a guest I cant see staying more than one night and I would not mind sleeping on a futon. Guests really arent very frequent I have found. You should make it comfortable for yourselves and your own needs first.
Post # 5
How often do you have guests over? How often do you use an office?
I’d mix your two ideas. There are convertible sofa beds at ikea that are SUPER comfortable but are still smaller than the average couch. My friend had one and never slept on her bed – just slept on the sofa bed! They’re much better looking than a futon, too.
Then, I’d have the rest of the room be the office. I personally don’t think you need a chest of drawers in a guest bedroom – unless you have a spare set you aren’t using and don’t want to get rid of yet?
DH works from home and our guest bedroom has: my old queen bed since we just got a new king bed, our old TV stand with our 3rd TV on it and DH’s desk where he works.
Post # 6
@lightmist: I agree with this.
If you’re having guests over often, then it makes sense to make it into a more functional guest room. If not, set it up as an office.
Currently, our 2nd bedroom is an office. We have a 2nd bed against the wall that we don’t even have room to put down. When we have a guest they stay in the living area!
Post # 7
I would argue against the second desk if you really wouldn’t use it (I never use desks), but I don’t think the futon is that bad. Maybe a futon and nightstand, plus his desk. If I’m a guest, I don’t mind what I sleep on, futon or air mattress or fancy bed, I am just happy to stay with friends and have a place to crash.
@mimi123: I agree that guests are much fewer than you might think.
ETA: As a guest, I never use dressers in guest rooms. I don’t think it’s really necessary unless you have the furniture already and no where else to put it. That’s why we have one in the guest room, and it never gets used.
Post # 8
@LadyBlackheart: I hate guest bedrooms so I have to say I agree with your FI. I want a room to be functional and for me that means used by us on a daily basis, not stored away just in case of guests (plus we hate having overnight guests, so I suppose this is also a deterrent, lol). I would make it into a kick ass office/den for the two of you. It is your home afterall 🙂
Post # 9
We don’t live together yet and I share an apartment with two other girls so there hasn’t been an opportunity for guests to come over. But once we move in together, it wouldn’t be THAT often…I just want to use it just in case my aunt and uncle or grandparents are visiting Georgia. We also have two couples that we are best friends with and they live in Atlanta. BF and I live about an hour and a half away from Atlanta. If our friends come over and end up staying really late, I want them to have the option of sleeping on a full size bed.
Now a futon would be fine for just one person. But I have a hard time imagining that a futon would be comfortable for a couple, which is why I’m wanting to put my full size bed in there. BF and I will be buying a queen bed for our bedroom.
And the chester drawer is the one I’m using now but when BF and I move in, we will be buying new bedroom furniture so the chester drawer will either have to go into storage or in the spare bedroom.
Post # 10
@MrsWBS: I completely agree with this. Those Ikea sofa beds are really comfortable.
Post # 11
We actually wish we had a second bedroom for office/craft space. It’s easy to get sick of each other in a 1-bedroom apartment, and I feel like I don’t have my own space.
Our next place will have one or two extra rooms, because it’s a little hard for me to want to sketch and paint when FI is in the same room playing video games or watching movies.
We’ve lived together for almost 2 years and have had a total of 1 overnight guest.
She slept on the futon in the living room, which BTW is awesome and I love sleeping on it when we need a change of pace. We got our futon from IKEA, it’s memory foam and glorious.
Think of it this way – you are paying for that room. Make it as useful and functional as you can for everyday life, or else get a 1-bedroom apartment… you’ll be spending way too much money on the space basically being a showroom if you don’t use it.
Post # 12
You could make it both an office and a guest room. Put a sofa bed/futon in there in addition to a desk. If you or your BF work from home, emphasize more on the office space. If you just have a computer for checking emails, then you only need a little nook for it. Then I’d put the emphasis on having a guest bed and/or more storage space.
Post # 13
I have a second bedroom that we use primarily as the guest room (we had two queen size beds moving in together so mine is in there). We have lived together a year and a half and it’s been slept in maybe twice? We entertain all the time and always tell people they are welcome to stay if they don’t want to drive but no one ever does. I would love to get rid of the queen size bed and put a futon in there to get more space and use the room more functionally when guests are not around. I vote for a futon (I’ve slept on many that were quite comfortable) and more space for you to use the room as a den when not in use by guests!
Post # 14
As other PPs have asked- How often do you have guests?
Ours is more catered to guests because we moved 8 hours away from home a year ago. Therefore, our parents come and spend a few nights and friends also come and spend the night. If it was just drunk friends spending the night sometimes I wouldn’t be as worried about how comfortable it was but our friends/family travel 8 hours to spend 3-4 nights. We do have a chest of drawers in there because we bought a nicer bedroom set for our master. I have yet to see anyone use the drawers, they usually just use their suitcase. On the other hand, whenever I travel I always use drawers if they are available!
Also, how often will you use an office? We do have a desk and book case in there but we’ve used the desk twice in the past year. We rarely work from home and when I do I typically just use the kitchen table because I want to be closer to DH. We would never use two desks as we barely use one.
Post # 15
We often have out of town guests (people coming to YK solely to visit us), so it was important to us to provide them a nice bed. But we also have a little desk and a piano in there, so it’s a pretty crowded room!
Post # 16
This seems like a moot argument. You saw a 2 bedroom apartment that you are not getting, that you might move into in 7 months? Worry about it then!!