what would you do with this strange std?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

i would respond with your RSVP lol 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@auroraborealis:  If you think you will attend I would just say yes on the website.. I’m sure they are just trying to get estimates for the venue. If you know you will definately not go.. say the same thing.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If you are planning on attending, shoot them an email. Let them know that yes you and your +1 would love to be there.

I’m not sure what the problem is that you are having?

Yes it’s a little unconventional, but I don’t see anything wrong with getting some kind of an idea.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

When I got married the first time I had a destination wedding and I did things that way. I sent the STD, which had the information for booking the trip and then we sent a formal invitation 6 weeks before the wedding. I had to know how many people were coming 6 months before the wedding to get a certain deal on the resort. The formal invitation was the actual invite to the wedding ceremony and reception with all the details for both.

So, knowing how I did things that time around, I would just email the RSVP for the wedding and let them know if you think you will be attending or not.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Its sounds like they are casting a net to see how many people would be on board with their DW, so that they can begin planning. I would respond with your RSVP or email to ask for more details. (I know I would need more details before deciding).

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

they probably have to do a lot of planning with the venue and hotel. It’s a pretty big trip, so most people would probably prefer a 6 month planning schedule anyways, especially if you have to get flights in advance and schedule your 2014 vacation days. 

I would RSVP right away… if you’re leaning towards no, just RSVP no. No big deal, saves them money.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@auroraborealis:  I think that just sounds like a poor way of wording it. 

I know I sent out “announcement cards” to people about traveling to ireland a year out. It said something along these: We explained why we were having it in Ireland (my fiance’s hometown) and explained that we were totally understanding that this made it impossible for some peope to come. But with that said, we would love to have just a ball park understanding if this was something people could even see themselves doing as a possibility. (ie. some people could never afford to do something like that, while some people were definites and the majority maybes). We made it clear that this was not a final RSVP, but just to help us get an idea and that we were totally under the impression that many people’s responses would be subject to change throughout the year. 

I also wanted to make sure that if people did want to come, that they had plenty of time to plan and save so they were not unprepared for the finances of it. 

Maybe that is what they meant? If you are unsure, I would just write that in the RSVP. “Would love to come, but as of yet, I cannot tell you if it will be possible” or “Im sorry there really isnt a way I will be able to afford to come” 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@auroraborealis:  Seems pretty straight forward. Just email them and say you aren’t sure if you can make it or not yet. That you want to go but you can’t say for sure. She’s probably looking for an idea, not a for sure at this time. And if she is you’ll have to tell her you can’t give it to her yet.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@JessSeny:  I agree with this. Maybe they are just getting estimates for the venue.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@auroraborealis:  So then call and ask them “hey, we honestly are not sure if we can go at this time.. would you rather us give you a yes or no a on the rsvp?”

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@auroraborealis:  Yeah, like i said, i never would have worded it that way because it makes you feel obligated, but i am guessing it is not a “formal” rsvp answer and just them looking for a ball park number and if you think you might come. Maybe just ask them what they are looking for? If they are expecting hard and fast rsvp’s – well then they are just crazy!

 

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